Spin: Educated Black women largely end up with the same kind of men (Black or White)

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I really pondered throwing this data out for a while. I am not into gender warring and I figured this may end up as that. However, I guess the Eboni Williams thread got me to go ahead and do it. To be clear:

This is not an anti-IR thread. If someone is happy with a White man or woman, good for them. I am not in the business of judging or shaming people over relationships.

This is also not a Black women should be ok with "dating down" thread which is another topic entirely. I think the bus driver question (an unskilled, low wage job) is a bit hard honestly. A skilled blue collar tradesman, a computer guy without a college degree, or a construction manager with a lot of experience would have been a more telling question, but I digress.

What I want to do is dead this theme (accepted by many Black men and women) that educated Black women are forced into IR in order to find a partner of educational parity or that Black women that date/marry out, particularly to White men, are usually getting a more equal (or higher level) partner than if they dated/married Black men. That just isn't true for most situations except the highest education (like PhD), and even then there still isn't a huge difference.

Again, marriage data is pretty spotty nationally so I used the birth records from the CDC Wonder natality database like in earlier posts. It basically collects birth cert data from across the Union over many year. Many birth questionnaires have the race and education of the mother and father.

In short, if you look at Black women that are

1. Prime marriage age (25-34)
2. Not Hispanic
3. Have a bachelors degree or higher
4. Have had at least one child from 2016-2021

First, 292k Black women in this group had kids with Black men and 26k had kids with White men. That's an 11X difference for all you Coli posters who keep claiming educated BW are all secret wenches and running to get away from Black men :steviej:

Comparing the level of education of the Black and White men they have kids with is pretty telling. First, for both groups only slightly above 60% of the fathers has a bachelors or higher. Second the gap in % between WM with at least college and Black men is only 3%. That affects less than 1,000 BW in that time period from this data. Also over half that gap comes from the doctorate degree level (which is usually a BW also with a doctorate; data not shown).

Second, and important for those claiming educated BW who stay with BM "date down excessively", almost the same percentage of educated BW had kids with WM with a high school degree or less as with BM. Same with WM and BM with Associates degrees.

Finally, if you lump all men with some higher education (College+, Associates, some College) the gap almost disappears.

Black Father​
White Father​
Gap​
Some College​
20.2%​
18.0%​
-2.2%​
Associates​
9.1%​
9.5%​
0.4%​
Bachelors​
33.4%​
34.6%​
1.3%​
Masters​
14.2%​
14.0%​
-0.2%​
Doctorate​
3.7%​
5.6%​
2.0%​
Some Post Secondary Schooling​
80.5%​
81.7%​
1.2%​
College+ (Bachelors, Masters, PhD)​
60.3%​
63.7%​
3.4%​
HS or less​
19.5%​
18.3%​
-1.2%​

That's all I am saying. People should do what makes them happy but stop acting like people are leveling up in IR, it isn't true.
 

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**Petty alert**

Educated Black women largely end up alone because they swear no one is good enough for them or is "on their level".

I'm sorry but after hearing this same shyt for literally DECADES (gaslighting the fukk outta brothas on all kind of media platforms) I have no sympathy for these women. They put themselves in these positions, then convinced themselves that they are owed the fukking world.
 

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**Petty alert**

Educated Black women largely end up alone because they swear no one is good enough for them or is "on their level".

I'm sorry but after hearing this same shyt for literally DECADES (gaslighting the fukk outta brothas on all kind of media platforms) I have no sympathy for these women. They put themselves in these positions, then convinced themselves that they are owed the fukking world.
I often wonder why they don't take into consideration that some guys may not be actively dating and instead, consider ways to bring them back into dating. I went through a period where I did not want to date because I felt embarrassed about my finances and wanted to get my money up before doing so.
 

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So people date/marry within their income and education bracket. This is what all the data tells us, and what I've been saying on here for months. And yet the vast majority of relationship discussion on this forum boils down to the dumbest bullshyt gender wars. The biggest myths that tend to ruin discourse here:

-Average black women won't date average black men
-Successful men don't care what job or income a woman has

Are blatantly false and frankly if I was a mod I'd just lock every thread that centered on that drivel. All it is doing is fostering resentment over bullshyt that is verifiably false.
 

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So people date/marry within their income and education bracket. This is what all the data tells us, and what I've been saying on here for months. And yet the vast majority of relationship discussion on this forum boils down to the dumbest bullshyt gender wars. The biggest myths that tend to ruin discourse here:

-Average black women won't date average black men
-Successful men don't care what job or income a woman has

Are blatantly false and frankly if I was a mod I'd just lock every thread that centered on that drivel. All it is doing is fostering resentment over bullshyt that is verifiably false.
This has been known forever. I think the issue is that women are going to college at higher rates than men so they have a smaller dating pool of peers to choose from but who they actually marry is someone of the same social status. The complaints are from single people, not married people.
 

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I wonder if they largely end up single mothers

Actually for both Black and White men, if both parents are educated they usually don't. If a kid is born to a Black man and woman that both have college degrees, 80% of the time they are married. It is a little higher for BW and WM (closer to 85-90% I think) but the numbers are still high.

The reason the Black out of wedlock rate is so high is educated Black men and women have much less kids not only than less educated Black people (less likely to be married) but even similarly educated Whites or Hispanics,

Actually BW with bachelors are typically married to the person in all education brackets though it falls to around 50% for the least educated BM. That is the only place where there is a huge gap for marriage between BM and WM. WM at the lowest education levels are typcially married to the BW about 10% more for WM with Associates and HS degrees.
 

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@DrBanneker,

Thanks, but despite facts/stats and realities, many people are going to be married to what they WANT to believe. Insecurities fuel a lot of online wars, and it seems that people find comfort in scapegoating others. YTers feed on the insecurity, searching/digging for obscure events as "proof" for content to feed people looking for confirmation of what they believe.
 

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**Petty alert**

Educated Black women largely end up alone because they swear no one is good enough for them or is "on their level".

I'm sorry but after hearing this same shyt for literally DECADES (gaslighting the fukk outta brothas on all kind of media platforms) I have no sympathy for these women. They put themselves in these positions, then convinced themselves that they are owed the fukking world.

BM are just a last resort
 

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**Petty alert**

Educated Black women largely end up alone because they swear no one is good enough for them or is "on their level".

I'm sorry but after hearing this same shyt for literally DECADES (gaslighting the fukk outta brothas on all kind of media platforms) I have no sympathy for these women. They put themselves in these positions, then convinced themselves that they are owed the fukking world.

Imagine calling yourself a man worrying about what a bytch say smfh
 

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I don't know OP ....those numbers might look a lot different in 10 years
 

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Thanks for the data as always. The ppl who complain are usually unattractive, traumatized with bad personalities and/or want to justify their decisions to date IR


But honestly as a six figure highly educated dude, the majority of my black friends are all in relationships with similarly high income highly educated black women. But they tend to look and act differently than the social media crowd so but that’s a different topic. And I do know plenty of folks in toxic relationships or chasing after the wrong folks as well.
 
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Imagine calling yourself a man worrying about what a bytch say smfh

nikka stop with that fake ass "an Alpha man not supposed to care what women say" bullshyt. They have been smearing the fukk out of Brothas in the mainstream media for decades but we're not supposed to say anything?

What other group of people are expected to accept this type of shyt? From their own people no less.
 
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