In short, no, it never stops. People don’t like to say this but life as a man is extremely competitive and that’s one of the reasons many become complacent with where they’re at instead of striving for more. I just watched a good video of Robert Greene breaking down why:
Successful Black Men on Thecoli, Do Ya'll Ever Get to The Point Where You Don't Have to Deal with the BS?
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It’s tough but you have to condition yourself to embrace adversity and take it as a challenge. Like the way Kobe and MJ were, when people counted them out they used it as fuel to go harder. This is a crucial “alpha” quality that men must build to win in life
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I probably experience this for the first couple weeks maybe. But they figure out what time I am on shortly after. This is never a prolonged thing. I carry myself as a man first, to be respected. And people will feel that.
I would say I'm happy in my professional life despite annoyances. I'm on track to do some great things. It just seems like on each level there's a new boss and set of enemies and allies I encounter and was wondering if there's any point in my life where all the BS of life just fades away?
So not only are people at the top of the mountain lonely but they're depressed too.
This is great advice I do have some guys I network with and we all have our own niche within the IT field.
"So not only are people at the top of the mountain lonely but they're depressed too" - A lot of them are.. miserable as hell! This is even more pronounced with incredibly successful women.
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Ya coworkers hating on you cuz you a black man getting promotions. None black folk feel entitled to move up before the black people. This is the main thing in corporate America I despise.Who's the targeted audience for this thread.
So, this thread is addressed to all of my successful brehs on here. And by successful, I mean brothas on here who are living the life they mapped out for themselves not a life that got handed to them. Dudes who had to hustle, grind, overcome adversity after adversity. Guys who didn't let their circumstances shape their life. Whether that's having your dream career, business, lifestyle, woman or all of the above. Furthermore, it's an added bonus if you're a brotha and was able to avoid the baby momma drama, child support traps, alimony payments and incarceration.
A Little About Myself and The Thread Topic Question.
I'm in my mid-twenties so I guess I'm considered a "Zillennial" a cross between Gen-Z and Millennial. But to the older cats on here I just want to know does this shyt ever end? Do you ever get to the point where you can just relax and not have to deal with c00ns, thots, bedwenches/BMATs, mommas boys, the white man, gossipers, racism and discrimination, etc?
Backstory on what Inspired the thread.
I just got a new job and since I been grinding, I'm blowing pass all my coworkers and received a promotion, I have more IT certs then some of the supervisors. And the managers in my departments are hinting at me getting a leadership role. That's great but you know with success comes haters so my coworkers in my last department mainly two single moms were lowkey hating, especially the day after our busiest day were my manager's manger was contacted and was informed about my performance. I think one was hating because she wanted to be further along in her career but had to put school off because she got pregnant by some bum dude. They told me I was working too hard. And that they were going to get cut if I didn't slow down. I've been hearing "I'm working too hard" since I was in primary school getting straight A's and being put into gifted programs. But now fast forward to this new role I'm in and it's a pot belly, red hair, hairy, balding cac already hating. I'm like bruh, again with this crap?
My first day on the job and this insecure walking bean bag chair talking about
"Yeah, you have all those certs but that doesn't mean anything in IT."
"You don't talk much, makes me feel like you're hiding something."
"Oh, Chinese food is your favorite food you ever eat hot sauce with that?"
"Those are big muscles I see you like to work out."
If I could thanos snap all the cacs, c00ns, thots, racism, and discrimination out of the world I would do so honestly.
This is a great video. Have you read the book he mentions titled War? Is it a good read?
Duke Wy Lin
It's been a good run. Wish y'all the best ✊🏿
You spoke nothing but facts. All that grinding and hard work is supposed to serve some meaningful goal. Otherwise you're just an empty vessel trying to fill yourself up with things and acclaim. Having a deep sense of purpose helps you see what's important and ignore everything else (including the barking dogs on the side of the road).
For this specific topic I’d recommend The 50th Law over his other books. It does a great job of explaining these types of challenges in life while using 50 Cent’s life story as a reference. Outside of that, War, Mastery and Art of Seduction are all great reads by him
What was your biggest takeaway from the 50th law book?
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Only way to not deal with BS is to stay home and disconnect from the world… adversity is part of life—whether it’s work, family, career, traveling, repairman, etc. there’s always something.
Keep rising breh. Block out all the noise and focus on your one thing. I suggest getting the book “The One Thing”. You’re always going to have someone that doesn’t believe in you the way others believe in you. Neither of them matter as much as how much you believe in yourself. Once I started to gain confidence and believe in myself, success came easier. I’m not where I want to be, but I keep getting closer. You’re never standing still, you’re either growing or regressing. You have to choose which one you want. Be yourself. If they don’t like it, that’s a them problem. Crehs think more highly of themselves than they should. One thing I’ve seen from the ones that rise up, is they will talk themselves up. Some of it is insecurity, but in my last company, I was denied a director role because they didn’t think I was ready. I hit that creh back with all the things I was doing and he said he didn’t know. I ended up leaving and taking a paycut (commissions got me back to my base) and a year later the new company promoted me to management. I made my efforts more visible and now they want me to oversee our entire sales department.
Take control breh. Forget what everyone else wants for you and focus on what you want for yourself.
Take control breh. Forget what everyone else wants for you and focus on what you want for yourself.
OP
I think it’s also important to engage in some humility. No matter how high you climb, know that you might be better than many others at particular things, but that doesn’t mean others have less inherent worth than you. Everybody is deserving of basic human respect. Everybody.
Many careers have crumbled because someone treats others like shyt. This is how many great people end up falling.
I think it’s also important to engage in some humility. No matter how high you climb, know that you might be better than many others at particular things, but that doesn’t mean others have less inherent worth than you. Everybody is deserving of basic human respect. Everybody.
Many careers have crumbled because someone treats others like shyt. This is how many great people end up falling.
Most people working in IT aren't sane and have all kinds of behavioral issues. I don't know what it is about the field that attracts so many passive aggressive a$$holes.
I tend to switch jobs often when the bullshyt gets to be too much. The increases in salary is the only thing that makes it worthwhile dealing with such shady ass negative people.
I tend to switch jobs often when the bullshyt gets to be too much. The increases in salary is the only thing that makes it worthwhile dealing with such shady ass negative people.
