Manners matter!! Hold the door open for people say please and thank you.... In other words show some courtesy curtis. 
The Official Life Advice Thread
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blues_funk_reggae
Veteran
I don't know if it's been said already but...
I think it's important to focus on what you have instead of what you don't have.
Also, we as humans have a tendency to compare ourselves to others who are doing better than we are, thus putting yourself down in the process.
I think it's important to focus on what you have instead of what you don't have.
Also, we as humans have a tendency to compare ourselves to others who are doing better than we are, thus putting yourself down in the process.
Reno89
All Star
Never let someone decide what you do with your life. Most(not all) dreams or goals are attainable.
As a man, realize that women will always be there. Try to build yourself before you consider adding a spouse or girlfriend to your fold.
Don't look at what ppl around you are doing. If you have a plan, execute it. Your goal may take a little longer than others, but stay focused.
As a man, realize that women will always be there. Try to build yourself before you consider adding a spouse or girlfriend to your fold.
Don't look at what ppl around you are doing. If you have a plan, execute it. Your goal may take a little longer than others, but stay focused.
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DrBanneker
Space is the Place
Basic finances:
If at all possible save 10% of your take home income in a 'rainy day' fund or savings account each time you get paid. You can use this for long-term investments as well but if you can afford do, have your investment savings in addition to this 10%. If you can't, never put the full 10% into investments. Leave at least 5% in cash for needs that come up. If you cannot save at least 10% (maybe crazy expensive places like NYC are an exception) you are living beyond your means in some area. Your goal should be to have 6 months living expenses saved up in case you lose your job, etc.
You should only need one credit card, two if you have one that isn't as widely accepted (AMEX and then a MC/Visa). You should not carry a significant balance and pay it off each month. If you can't pay off your card at least every 2-3 months you are living beyond your means in some aspect of your life. Debt is debt, it is not free income.
Never stack on multiple debts if you don't have to. If you have student loans and credit cards, pay down the student loans as much as possible before you get a significant car note or mortgage. Try to only have two types of long term debt (car, student, house) at a time.
A house is first and foremost a long-term residence for your and your family. Don't listen to people you say houses should be viewed as an investment vehicle--long term appreciation post 2008 is no longer as guaranteed. Also, don't listen to people saying money is 'wasted' if you pay rent. It is easier to bail on an apartment if you run into hardships than a house. Also, houses have tons of hidden costs for upkeep and higher utilities that renters don't deal with as well as lots of maintenance supplies (lawn, power tools, lawn equipment, etc.)
If you don't understand something, don't invest in it. If someone ever promises you a greater investment return for less risk, run away as fast as you can.
Health:
Exercise 2-3 times per week, even if it is just walking the neighborhood or going to the store.
Take vitamins to supplement healthy living. The kind like the Nature's Plus brand, not the generic CVS vitamins.
Have an annual physical and dental visit every year
Drink in moderation and cut out smoking, any drugs, etc.
Help your health (and save money) by cooking your own meals, including packing your own lunches. Older relatives and the Internet have tons of recipes
Education:
When you are in school, school is the #1 priority. You can do well in school and still have fun, get laid, etc. but you will screw yourself long run if you do not hit the books. There is no excuse for bad grades really if you take advantage of all the options (study ahead, tutors, office hours).
Have a possible career in mind when you are studying. If there is a field you like but isn't practical, take it as a minor or second major to give yourself options to be marketable
Don't listen to people (especially non-Blacks) who claim they aren't studying. They lie.
Never compromise yourself by dishonesty like cheating, plagiarism, fake resume accomplishments etc. It always catches up and when it does you have zero credibility
Learn our people's history in detail (not Black History Month soundbites) and use it to inspire your own life and take advantage of what they did not have.
Learn about modern Africa. Black people with ignorant ideas about Africa piss me off (and I am AA).
Never stop reading. Even if you have a long commute, listen to audio books and podcasts on topics of interest.
Relationships
If you don't want to be in a relationship (i.e. committed, monogamous) don't get in a relationship. I will never understand this side piece thing. If you just want to get laid or get new p*ssy on the regular, keep it casual and save yourself the stress, lying, obfuscation, shame, etc. Lots of girls give p*ssy with no strings attached, especially since you are young. Some want a relationship though and if you don't want that, leave them be. You aren't a bigger man juggling multiple women.
Three things so many dudes seem to not get: complement women if they look nice, be courteous and chivalrous, and be thoughtful. This isn't simping unless you are compromising yourself.
Never let a chick walk over you. If her needs are more important than yours, it ain't gonna work.
If a chick mismanages her own money, she will soon mismanage yours. Have her fix her problem or cut her off. Finances kill more marriages/relationships.
90% of relationship problems can be solved by communication. Just say what you mean and what you want. Never lie. If she can't handle the truth, there are bigger issues.
Regarding sex, remember women are more emotional than men as in they have to be in the mood (or brought there). Know your woman, what turns her on, foreplay etc. and that will do more for your sex life than books, Coli posters, or a 9 inch cock.
Dating out of your race is fine, just remember:
1. Don't compare 20 million+ Black women unfavorably to the handful of non-Black chicks you have experience with. Really, Black women are diverse enough to find whatever flavor you want so if you date a non-Black, make it about what makes that person special, not the supposed defects of your own people. c00ns love exposing themselves.
2. Some parts of society (even at your job, school) will frown on a Black man being with 'their' woman. Just realize you could run into weird consequences. That's just the world we live in.
3. If you have relationship problems across multiple different BW or esteem issues with women, IR isn't going to solve them. You may have your own issues you need to address.
4. Regardless of race, all women basically are the same long-term. No matter how their skin/hair looks, their p*ssy feels, their accent sounds, etc. they will all eventually demand (and complain about) the same things in a relationship. That's when being 'exotic' wears off and many IR relationships hit the rocks. I have seen it many times.
That's all for now
If at all possible save 10% of your take home income in a 'rainy day' fund or savings account each time you get paid. You can use this for long-term investments as well but if you can afford do, have your investment savings in addition to this 10%. If you can't, never put the full 10% into investments. Leave at least 5% in cash for needs that come up. If you cannot save at least 10% (maybe crazy expensive places like NYC are an exception) you are living beyond your means in some area. Your goal should be to have 6 months living expenses saved up in case you lose your job, etc.
You should only need one credit card, two if you have one that isn't as widely accepted (AMEX and then a MC/Visa). You should not carry a significant balance and pay it off each month. If you can't pay off your card at least every 2-3 months you are living beyond your means in some aspect of your life. Debt is debt, it is not free income.
Never stack on multiple debts if you don't have to. If you have student loans and credit cards, pay down the student loans as much as possible before you get a significant car note or mortgage. Try to only have two types of long term debt (car, student, house) at a time.
A house is first and foremost a long-term residence for your and your family. Don't listen to people you say houses should be viewed as an investment vehicle--long term appreciation post 2008 is no longer as guaranteed. Also, don't listen to people saying money is 'wasted' if you pay rent. It is easier to bail on an apartment if you run into hardships than a house. Also, houses have tons of hidden costs for upkeep and higher utilities that renters don't deal with as well as lots of maintenance supplies (lawn, power tools, lawn equipment, etc.)
If you don't understand something, don't invest in it. If someone ever promises you a greater investment return for less risk, run away as fast as you can.
Health:
Exercise 2-3 times per week, even if it is just walking the neighborhood or going to the store.
Take vitamins to supplement healthy living. The kind like the Nature's Plus brand, not the generic CVS vitamins.
Have an annual physical and dental visit every year
Drink in moderation and cut out smoking, any drugs, etc.
Help your health (and save money) by cooking your own meals, including packing your own lunches. Older relatives and the Internet have tons of recipes
Education:
When you are in school, school is the #1 priority. You can do well in school and still have fun, get laid, etc. but you will screw yourself long run if you do not hit the books. There is no excuse for bad grades really if you take advantage of all the options (study ahead, tutors, office hours).
Have a possible career in mind when you are studying. If there is a field you like but isn't practical, take it as a minor or second major to give yourself options to be marketable
Don't listen to people (especially non-Blacks) who claim they aren't studying. They lie.
Never compromise yourself by dishonesty like cheating, plagiarism, fake resume accomplishments etc. It always catches up and when it does you have zero credibility
Learn our people's history in detail (not Black History Month soundbites) and use it to inspire your own life and take advantage of what they did not have.
Learn about modern Africa. Black people with ignorant ideas about Africa piss me off (and I am AA).
Never stop reading. Even if you have a long commute, listen to audio books and podcasts on topics of interest.
Relationships
If you don't want to be in a relationship (i.e. committed, monogamous) don't get in a relationship. I will never understand this side piece thing. If you just want to get laid or get new p*ssy on the regular, keep it casual and save yourself the stress, lying, obfuscation, shame, etc. Lots of girls give p*ssy with no strings attached, especially since you are young. Some want a relationship though and if you don't want that, leave them be. You aren't a bigger man juggling multiple women.
Three things so many dudes seem to not get: complement women if they look nice, be courteous and chivalrous, and be thoughtful. This isn't simping unless you are compromising yourself.
Never let a chick walk over you. If her needs are more important than yours, it ain't gonna work.
If a chick mismanages her own money, she will soon mismanage yours. Have her fix her problem or cut her off. Finances kill more marriages/relationships.
90% of relationship problems can be solved by communication. Just say what you mean and what you want. Never lie. If she can't handle the truth, there are bigger issues.
Regarding sex, remember women are more emotional than men as in they have to be in the mood (or brought there). Know your woman, what turns her on, foreplay etc. and that will do more for your sex life than books, Coli posters, or a 9 inch cock.
Dating out of your race is fine, just remember:
1. Don't compare 20 million+ Black women unfavorably to the handful of non-Black chicks you have experience with. Really, Black women are diverse enough to find whatever flavor you want so if you date a non-Black, make it about what makes that person special, not the supposed defects of your own people. c00ns love exposing themselves.
2. Some parts of society (even at your job, school) will frown on a Black man being with 'their' woman. Just realize you could run into weird consequences. That's just the world we live in.
3. If you have relationship problems across multiple different BW or esteem issues with women, IR isn't going to solve them. You may have your own issues you need to address.
4. Regardless of race, all women basically are the same long-term. No matter how their skin/hair looks, their p*ssy feels, their accent sounds, etc. they will all eventually demand (and complain about) the same things in a relationship. That's when being 'exotic' wears off and many IR relationships hit the rocks. I have seen it many times.
That's all for now
STEVE
MIami Beach on the check-in.
1) Always show up even if you're not prepared.
2) Always take the first available transportation.
3) Never lose track of your luggage.
4) Everyone has the potential to become a confidential informant so do not get in the business of selling drugs.
Life advice from my dad (lawyer) ^
2) Always take the first available transportation.
3) Never lose track of your luggage.
4) Everyone has the potential to become a confidential informant so do not get in the business of selling drugs.
Life advice from my dad (lawyer) ^
Be real with yourself and always stay in tune with reality.
Never run away from your problems. Better to deal with them sooner than later. You can run from them but you can't hide. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger and it will make you a better person. Sometimes the shyt you're worrying about ends up not being as big of a deal as you're making it out to be.
Use your time wisely. The time you waste having fun in the club or doing nothing could be used to do something productive towards your future.
Don't be afraid to ask for help
Save your money
fukk being cool and fitting in. Sometimes doing the uncool thing is what will make other people gravitate towards you vs being a follower. It can also save your life.
Be yourself and the right people will love you.
Love yourself.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Don't do it. No bad or good feeling last forever.
No one owes you anything in life.
Never run away from your problems. Better to deal with them sooner than later. You can run from them but you can't hide. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger and it will make you a better person. Sometimes the shyt you're worrying about ends up not being as big of a deal as you're making it out to be.
Use your time wisely. The time you waste having fun in the club or doing nothing could be used to do something productive towards your future.
Don't be afraid to ask for help
Save your money
fukk being cool and fitting in. Sometimes doing the uncool thing is what will make other people gravitate towards you vs being a follower. It can also save your life.
Be yourself and the right people will love you.
Love yourself.
Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Don't do it. No bad or good feeling last forever.
No one owes you anything in life.
TrebleMan
Superstar
That's the truth.
Maybe one of the greatest things I've ever read:
"Accept the things with which fate binds you and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart."
-Marcus Aurelius
"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking."
-Marcus Aurelius
"The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts."
-Marcus Aurelius
On money:
"If you weren't happy yesterday, you won't be happy tomorrow. It's money. It's not happiness. If you were happy yesterday, you are going to be a lot happier tomorrow. It's money. Life gets easier when you don't have to worry about the bills."
-Mark Cuban
-Marcus Aurelius
"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking."
-Marcus Aurelius
"The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts."
-Marcus Aurelius
On money:
"If you weren't happy yesterday, you won't be happy tomorrow. It's money. It's not happiness. If you were happy yesterday, you are going to be a lot happier tomorrow. It's money. Life gets easier when you don't have to worry about the bills."
-Mark Cuban
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Love yourself inside and out.
Treat your vessel right, you only have one.
Validate yourself.
Don't fill your voids with people or possessions.
Be as self sufficient as possible.
Have an unquenchable thirst for growth and knowledge.
Don't fall for potential.
Do not enter ANY relationship with baggage and toxicity, hurt people hurt people. Fix your issues first.
Don't be selfish.
Say "NO" and stand up for yourself, don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of.
Don't use and discard people. Get out and get it by any means.
Buy assets not liabilities.
Believe in yourself and walk in your truth.
Improve the qualities you dislike about yourself. It will build confidence and self worth.
Dont underestimate your FREEDOM.
Do not settle down at a young age!
Fear keeps you stagnant and stressed out. Let it motivate not paralyze you.
Do anything you can to keep your vibes high. When your vibes are high there's nothing you cannot manifest.
Practice makes perfect.
Treat your vessel right, you only have one.
Validate yourself.
Don't fill your voids with people or possessions.
Be as self sufficient as possible.
Have an unquenchable thirst for growth and knowledge.
Don't fall for potential.
Do not enter ANY relationship with baggage and toxicity, hurt people hurt people. Fix your issues first.
Don't be selfish.
Say "NO" and stand up for yourself, don't allow yourself to be taken advantage of.
Don't use and discard people. Get out and get it by any means.
Buy assets not liabilities.
Believe in yourself and walk in your truth.
Improve the qualities you dislike about yourself. It will build confidence and self worth.
Dont underestimate your FREEDOM.
Do not settle down at a young age!
Fear keeps you stagnant and stressed out. Let it motivate not paralyze you.
Do anything you can to keep your vibes high. When your vibes are high there's nothing you cannot manifest.
Practice makes perfect.
YaFingerDealMe
All Star
I stooped living my life as a task based thing, always worried about what I have to do next and just focus on actually living more, only been three weeks but I really haven't been this happy since my childhood
Stacker Pentecost
Superstar
Allow feelings to come and go
Everything is temporary
Everything is temporary
