there is not a deadbeat problem in the black community

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Quoted for a hundred percent truth. How can anyone who has experience in the dating game NOT acknowledge that more of the blame should go to women? Who gets hollered at? USUALLY the girl. Who decided whether or not the date will occur? USUALLY The girl. Who decides whether or not there will be a second date? USUALLY The girl. Who decides whether or not sex will occur? USUALLY The girl. Who decides in what manner sex will occur? ALWAYS The girl. Who decides whether or not sex will occur again and how often? USUALLY the girl. If the girl becomes pregnant who decides whether or not the baby will be born? ALWAYS the girl.

So basically YOU pursued the woman throughout the entire process but when YOU knock her up its predominantly her fault? GTFO. She didnt make you have unprotected sex with her or bust a raw nut in her either so at what point in this process do YOU take any responsibility for your own actions?

If the girl becomes pregnant who decides whether or not the baby will be born? ALWAYS the girl.

How about wearing a condom so It doesnt get to this scenario in the first place? Its never failed me once. If more black men simply did this not only would we cut back on oow black children, but we would also cut down on the disproportionate amount of us catching STDs and giving black women HIV.


I will never understand why Black men who declare how much they want to be leaders then also make it a point to tell us that they will never be responsible for where they put their dikks and if there is ever an opportunity "to fukk" they will do it and its up to the women to say no. Why would anyone allow someone with that mind set to lead them? That seems to be the very definition of choosing a deadbeat, which is ironically what they are trying to argue against at the same time :wtf:

But :salute: to all that ladies that exposed OP. I started to do the same thing in another thread and he ran off and never responded once he could no longer defend his terrible logic and hypocrisy.

Im not the biggest fan of feminism but I have to call it like it is. These posters are behaving in the same manner they constantly ridicule feminists about. They say feminists want to be treated like men but dont want the responsibilities that come with being a man, but at the same time, they want to be treated like leaders in the community but dont want the responsibilities that come with being a leader. Even though both parties share some of the blame the bulk of the responsibility falls on our (mens) shoulders since were suppose to set the example.
 

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I will never understand why Black men who declare how much they want to be leaders then also make it a point to tell us that they will never be responsible for where they put their dikks and if there is ever an opportunity "to fukk" they will do it and its up to the women to say no. Why would anyone allow someone with that mind set to lead them? That seems to be the very definition of choosing a deadbeat, which is ironically what they are trying to argue against at the same time :wtf:

But :salute: to all that ladies that exposed OP. I started to do the same thing in another thread and he ran off and never responded once he could no longer defend his terrible logic and hypocrisy.

I find it funny at this point. They pretty much confirm the need for Black feminism, even though they hate it. Like, they honestly expect BW to hand over control to people who confess and are proud of their lack of control :russ: :russ:

I don't understand how black men who have no affiliation with black women have so much to say about them.

Giving them that work
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Maybe nikkas should stop being deadbeats in the first place?

Also raising a womans self esteem so they don't become hoes attracted to deadbeats. But that's a whole 'nother beast.

You on the right track but not necessarily..

@His_Excellence_Reincar : How are you supposed to be in a healthy relationship, or pick a decent partner when you don't know what exactly a healthy relationship or decent partner is?

Also, it's funny how y'all rag on women for getting pregnant by a "deadbeat" and then changing her ways and raising her standards to wanting a better man and wanting to be a better woman. Speaking from the perspective of being a young single mother, when you know better, you do better.
 

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You on the right track but not necessarily..

@His_Excellence_Reincar : How are you supposed to be in a healthy relationship, or pick a decent partner when you don't know what exactly a healthy relationship or decent partner is?

Also, it's funny how y'all rag on women for getting pregnant by a "deadbeat" and then changing her ways and raising her standards to wanting a better man and wanting to be a better woman. Speaking from the perspective of being a young single mother, when you know better, you do better.

who said i don't know?

you have no idea about the relationships i've been in
 

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How hard is it to get abortions in 2013? But no, a woman gets pregnant by a good for nothing nikka then decides to keep it and we put the blame on the dude :comeon: How many babies would really be born out of wedlock if men and women had equal rights in DECIDING whether the baby should actually be born?

Women use that religious crap when they are pregnant because they are addicted to drama and are addicted to that free check.
 

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You on the right track but not necessarily..

@His_Excellence_Reincar : How are you supposed to be in a healthy relationship, or pick a decent partner when you don't know what exactly a healthy relationship or decent partner is?

Also, it's funny how y'all rag on women for getting pregnant by a "deadbeat" and then changing her ways and raising her standards to wanting a better man and wanting to be a better woman. Speaking from the perspective of being a young single mother, when you know better, you do better.

If you see better, you could develop the sense to become better.

Male or female, we go through periods of self pity and taking it out on the world. But we also need identity capital. Instead of looking at what we don't have, and looking at what we do have and what we can achieve.

No one healthy wants to be a deadbeat.
 

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:dead: oh comon, this is pathetic :dead: :laff:

Every thread like this you present, dapping up bed wenches and black feminists. Then when you asked, "are you a Black feminist?" you like :whoa: but you seem to agree with everything they say, which is primarily Black men ain't shyt :lupe:. Women stick together :whew: I won't hesistate to call out a bum nikka but yall protect these dusty bytches, Why won't you call out the dusty bytch? Every male point in this thread has been overlooked. Yall amaze me :banderas:

You got that right.
 

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so we gonna act like women don't get wet for a certain type of man.

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these guys while fun and exciting tend to make horrible husbands and fathers and women find out the hard way.

its no different men wifing up a slore and expecting her to be Claire Huxtable.

shyt kills me, breh :heh:

They want that Stevie J to suddenly become Obama when dealing with women and to be husband material. Nah, that Stevie J dude a dude that fukk with mad ratchet hoes and abandon them.
 

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who said i don't know?

you have no idea about the relationships i've been in

I'm not talking about you and your relationships. I'm saying in general, a lot of people don't know how to pick a decent mate or be a decent mate. Its easy to sit here and say, damn she should've known he was a deadbeat, or he should've known she was crazy. But if your self-worth isn't where it should be then you're not going to choose a decent mate or be a decent mate. This goes for women and men. And then when you consider the fact that there are a lot of women (and men) in the black community raised by a single parent, why would you automatically expect them to value a "two-parent" household?

And even if they do value a "two-parent" household, how are they supposed to learn to communicate and compromise with someone to maintain that "two-parent" household if they've ever only seen them on tv and in the movies?

Yall are getting so caught up in attacking people instead of attacking the root of the problem.
 

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Women use that religious crap when they are pregnant because they are addicted to drama and are addicted to that free check.

Y'all need to stop it with that. No one gets pregnant for a "free check" unless they feel they have no other options. So the real solution is providing young black men and women with other options.
 
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shyt kills me, breh :heh:

They want that Stevie J to suddenly become Obama when dealing with women and to be husband material. Nah, that Stevie J dude a dude that fukk with mad ratchet hoes and abandon them.

it kills me that they try to pretend like that aint how it is :heh:

like Stevie J ain't swimming in puzzy right now. i don't think any chick says to herself, "hey, you know what, I want a baby and a deadbeat baby daddy/husband".......but what happens is the guys that tend to attract alot of female attention also tend to be guys that won't settle down.
 

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it kills me that they try to pretend like that aint how it is :heh:

like Stevie J ain't swimming in puzzy right now. i don't think any chick says to herself, "hey, you know what, I want a baby and a deadbeat baby daddy/husband" but what happens is the guys that tend to attract alot of female attention also tend to be guys that won't settle down.

Stevie J type of dudes get all the hoes, and it makes some nerds into them as well. If all the attention goes to the scumbag dudes and none for the progressive dudes,what is gonna happen to the community?
 
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