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[StayOffMe]

I’m a woman and I had a mother that ruined everything. I never blamed my father for the deterioration of the marriage/household because he tried everything then called her bluff and filed for divorce.

 

[FaTaL]

I’m a woman and I had a mother that ruined everything. I never blamed my father for the deterioration of the marriage/household because he tried everything then called her bluff and filed for divorce.

Really, what would she do?

 

[StayOffMe]

Really, what would she do?

Lol, not discussing that here. But she fukked up. My father passed last year and she took it harder than we expected.

 

[FaTaL]

Lol, not discussing that here. But she fukked up. My father passed last year and she took it harder than we expected.

Like mind games type of sh!t?

 

[null]

My mom is a crazy ass bytch and it’s a miracle my dad stayed involved in my life and didn’t just leave us behind but then my fathers not that type of man

It only took me 5 years of life to realize ayo something is not right with this woman

It’s why I can’t understand the mother worship some of these nikkas have like I love my mom too but she’s a psycho

 

[null]

I agree there is a disparity in how we view them, but that's because the onus is on men to be adults, while women are really just grown children themselves.

Look at it another way... It's unfortunate things played out the way they did, but that chick who got killed trying to murder another young girl rightfully reaped the consequences of her actions. Tough. On the flip side, however, if that was Micah Bryant killed while trying to murder a young chick, the response would be WAY different from everyone. It would be fukk that nikka, the world is better off without him. And I would have to agree.

Women, in general, act like children and should thus be treated like children. Where the West has gone wrong is absolving women of the consequences of their actions, but we don't necessarily need to harshly punish women for them. Allowing natural consequences to their place would be well enough, in my opinion. Men, on the other hand, are equally capable of razing society as we are building one, so this is why punishment is meted out more harshly for us.

"big children" rearing children single-handedly ...

 

[null]

This is a case in point how women are grown children. @Cape Town JHB

Despite @Booksnrain's lengthy juelzing, the males of our homo sapien species have borne the brunt of imagining, building and maintaining society since the beginning, and as a collective, men have never looked down on women despite this. On top of that, there has never been a single woman in history who has come up with an idea meant to benefit men only or solved a male-only problem, despite the fact that men's lives have been immeasurably more difficult than women's and yet men still seek ways to make women's lives easier at the expense of our own.

In less than fifty years, women - like children - obtained the ability to contribute directly at the societal level and instead of elevating things, they've essentially used this ability to shyt on the non-female group, the group that made each and every one of their achievements possible, no less.

"male only problems" like what sort of things . scope are you talking about?

health and ...? social issues??

 

[null]

Women are women. What they do got no bearing on what I do or how I live my life as a man.

You might have some woman hate energy in your blood chief

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Honestly one of the better threads that I've seen on here.

Anime avi - never fails. Thats a signal like the bedwenches cosplaying for cacs of the comic-con.

 

[null]

I grew up without a father in the house and me and my man been together 20 yrs.

so possible but not probable.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Honestly one of the better threads that I've seen on here.

Anything condemning black women is a “best of” thread to you.

I like Asian Women

I’m shocked.

 

[HabitualChiller]

Anything condemning black women is a “best of” thread to you.

I’m shocked.

I like all races of women tho, so what actually are you saying?

 

[null]

one easy one not ... watch both ... and then pay attention to what is going on around you for the next 24 hours

 

[TinFoilSnapBack]

she absolutely has a way of emasculating a man.

Cold, not very personable, she’d attack you with anything you happened to share with her.

I clashed with my mom b/c I thought she was so negative, pessimistic, and stifling. I thought she was a dream killer. And she is.

All of this is my mom exactly.

Both my parents have their faults.

When you reach a certain age you just gotta accept people for who they are and keep it pushing.

My mom is borderline a bytch, and my dad was irresponsible and impulsive.

All of this describes my parents as well. They're both severely fukked up people in their own right, but they both have good qualities. I've worked through a lot of the trauma they put on me via therapy, confronting them, and years of inner work on myself.


In further thought on OP's question, I think Black women (starting from the 60s) haven't been socialized as women. In all sides of my family there is a stark difference between the disposition of the women in my grandparents' age group and those of my parents' age group and younger. Since the 60s, Black women have been socialized to be heads of household, and completely "independent" of a man. Our grandmothers were socialized to be ladylike and pleasant, and most other cultures of women are still socialized this way.

 

[Cape Town JHB]

My mom isn’t an educated woman. She’s not traditionally attractive. She can be passive aggressive and abrasive. And because she married a very successful/handsome man, she dealt with people looking down on her and underestimating her because “he could have done better than that.” Which she used to her advantage: what she lacks in book smarts are replaced by a lot of common sense and she is a major reason why my dad remained successful. But like I said, she can be extremely aggressive and abrasive. And emotionally ignorant: saying inappropriate things or blaming victims to the point I don’t share any personal information with her. She has wild mood swings that make her intolerable.

She was strict and like many have said, the mother role leads to children resenting that discipline. But she could also be fun. After the work/chores/etc were done she introduced us to her favorite older movies. Or took us to the park. All types of stuff. Fun was earned, basically. But that didn’t last.

It wasn’t until later that I understood why she constantly had wild mood swings or felt like a tyrant in the house though. My dad had been cheating for decades. Giving away tons of money to a single mom. My mom would catch him, there would be a blow up, he’d promise never again and things would return to a stalemate. I remember running across a letter on the computer one day, where the author asked what to do about a cheating husband. All the details matched my family but as a kid I didn’t put 2 and 2 together.

I didn’t know for sure until I was an adult and the police got involved because she tried to kill him, after catching him cheating. I bailed her out of jail. That’s when I realized so much of her behavior revolved around being disrespected. The way my dad would convince us she was just being mean or emotional, while he would take us to sports events to escape the house. Her constant solo trips to my grandma’s house.

They’re still together and in love but you can sense that tension. To the point I don’t go to their house often. I loved that Covid allowed me to skip all the holidays last year, and I plan on skipping them this year too. I hate that feeling. When you’re watching a movie and there’s a scene about cheating...and the air is sucked out the room. Or they start fighting over a trivial thing, and you realize they must have been fighting over this small thing for days. I can’t tolerate it anymore.

Monogamy is not normal for a man