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[TheNig]

I mean...this is soul burn slow type shyt.

I’m uncomfortable with the premise of the thread. I don’t know anyone’s parents here but feel like the OP is giving a biased opinion...children don’t know exactly what’s going in with the dynamics between their parents, all they know is that dad left or a divorce happened. I wonder what your mom would think of your words, and how she perceives your father and what he did or didn’t do.

And end of the day you seem to have married or impregnated a woman you resent now too, which seems like...a choice you made. She didn’t morph into that after birth...you knew and nutted in her anyway.


The truth of the matter is that men will fukk anyone and anything, which means they make anyone and anything a mother. And then bounce. This isn’t right or sustainable guys. The demographic numbers are embarrassing...

I don't think it's embarrassing it bias. It's his perspective. No one is without blame.

I have two friends who's mom's tried to kill them as kids. Girl I used to date mom tried to run her over with a car at 16.

My wife's friend's son is currently a runaway because she's a terrible fukkin parent.

 

[Piff Perkins]

My mom isn’t an educated woman. She’s not traditionally attractive. She can be passive aggressive and abrasive. And because she married a very successful/handsome man, she dealt with people looking down on her and underestimating her because “he could have done better than that.” Which she used to her advantage: what she lacks in book smarts are replaced by a lot of common sense and she is a major reason why my dad remained successful. But like I said, she can be extremely aggressive and abrasive. And emotionally ignorant: saying inappropriate things or blaming victims to the point I don’t share any personal information with her. She has wild mood swings that make her intolerable.

She was strict and like many have said, the mother role leads to children resenting that discipline. But she could also be fun. After the work/chores/etc were done she introduced us to her favorite older movies. Or took us to the park. All types of stuff. Fun was earned, basically. But that didn’t last.

It wasn’t until later that I understood why she constantly had wild mood swings or felt like a tyrant in the house though. My dad had been cheating for decades. Giving away tons of money to a single mom. My mom would catch him, there would be a blow up, he’d promise never again and things would return to a stalemate. I remember running across a letter on the computer one day, where the author asked what to do about a cheating husband. All the details matched my family but as a kid I didn’t put 2 and 2 together.

I didn’t know for sure until I was an adult and the police got involved because she tried to kill him, after catching him cheating. I bailed her out of jail. That’s when I realized so much of her behavior revolved around being disrespected. The way my dad would convince us she was just being mean or emotional, while he would take us to sports events to escape the house. Her constant solo trips to my grandma’s house.

They’re still together and in love but you can sense that tension. To the point I don’t go to their house often. I loved that Covid allowed me to skip all the holidays last year, and I plan on skipping them this year too. I hate that feeling. When you’re watching a movie and there’s a scene about cheating...and the air is sucked out the room. Or they start fighting over a trivial thing, and you realize they must have been fighting over this small thing for days. I can’t tolerate it anymore.

 

[Stuntone]

Best thread in a while.

One thing I've learned is women are very deep and very secretive about their deepest feelings and desires. Alot of times it turns unto secret resentments for their husband. Thats why a lot of them turn cold and have these sexless marriage.

on top of that society has turned women into dreamers. Most really feel they should have lives similar to Michelle Obama or whoever they admire. So here comes a good faithful man and provider. Things are great for a few years, but slowly her secret desires and aspirations get the best of her Though unattainable, this woman secretly resents here man for not providing her dreams. That's why u her married men complaining they've bought bigger homes and better cars for their wives but she's still not happy.

Took me 5 years for my girl to dig out of my girl that she felt a she shouldn't pay any bills. I was paying 80 of our bills. She never expressed it. When we first moved in together I asked her how much can she afford towards bills. She said 500$, I was like cool, ill pay 1500. 4 years later she said I was getting over on her.

So there are things women know aren't logical attainable, so they don't speak on it, but deep down will resent you not providing it.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

My mom isn’t an educated woman. She’s not traditionally attractive. She can be passive aggressive and abrasive. And because she married a very successful/handsome man, she dealt with people looking down on her and underestimating her because “he could have done better than that.” Which she used to her advantage: what she lacks in book smarts are replaced by a lot of common sense and she is a major reason why my dad remained successful. But like I said, she can be extremely aggressive and abrasive. And emotionally ignorant: saying inappropriate things or blaming victims to the point I don’t share any personal information with her. She has wild mood swings that make her intolerable.

She was strict and like many have said, the mother role leads to children resenting that discipline. But she could also be fun. After the work/chores/etc were done she introduced us to her favorite older movies. Or took us to the park. All types of stuff. Fun was earned, basically. But that didn’t last.

It wasn’t until later that I understood why she constantly had wild mood swings or felt like a tyrant in the house though. My dad had been cheating for decades. Giving away tons of money to a single mom. My mom would catch him, there would be a blow up, he’d promise never again and things would return to a stalemate. I remember running across a letter on the computer one day, where the author asked what to do about a cheating husband. All the details matched my family but as a kid I didn’t put 2 and 2 together.

I didn’t know for sure until I was an adult and the police got involved because she tried to kill him, after catching him cheating. I bailed her out of jail. That’s when I realized so much of her behavior revolved around being disrespected. The way my dad would convince us she was just being mean or emotional, while he would take us to sports events to escape the house. Her constant solo trips to my grandma’s house.

They’re still together and in love but you can sense that tension. To the point I don’t go to their house often. I loved that Covid allowed me to skip all the holidays last year, and I plan on skipping them this year too. I hate that feeling. When you’re watching a movie and there’s a scene about cheating...and the air is sucked out the room. Or they start fighting over a trivial thing, and you realize they must have been fighting over this small thing for days. I can’t tolerate it anymore.

This shyt sound claustrophobic af

 

[Vodun]

Best thread in a while.

One thing I've learned is women are very deep and very secretive about their deepest feelings and desires. Alot of times it turns unto secret resentments for their husband. Thats why a lot of them turn cold and have these sexless marriage.

on top of that society has turned women into dreamers. Most really feel they should have lives similar to Michelle Obama or whoever they admire. So here comes a good faithful man and provider. Things are great for a few years, but slowly her secret desires and aspirations get the best of her Though unattainable, this woman secretly resents here man for not providing her dreams. That's why u her married men complaining they've bought bigger homes and better cars for their wives but she's still not happy.

Took me 5 years for my girl to dig out of my girl that she felt a she shouldn't pay any bills. I was paying 80 of our bills. She never expressed it. When we first moved in together I asked her how much can she afford towards bills. She said 500$, I was like cool, ill pay 1500. 4 years later she said I was getting over on her.

So there are things women know aren't logical attainable, so they don't speak on it, but deep down will resent you not providing it.

Also remember all this is going on with them while we're focused on providing and dealing with the world. Kinda reminds me of a child in a way. Im Starting realize and learn the only women you should truly love is your mother( if she was decent) and your daughters

 

[Pseudonym]

My father put up with a lot man.....

The lady is crazy

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

Best thread in a while.

One thing I've learned is women are very deep and very secretive about their deepest feelings and desires. Alot of times it turns unto secret resentments for their husband. Thats why a lot of them turn cold and have these sexless marriage.

on top of that society has turned women into dreamers. Most really feel they should have lives similar to Michelle Obama or whoever they admire. So here comes a good faithful man and provider. Things are great for a few years, but slowly her secret desires and aspirations get the best of her Though unattainable, this woman secretly resents here man for not providing her dreams. That's why u her married men complaining they've bought bigger homes and better cars for their wives but she's still not happy.

Took me 5 years for my girl to dig out of my girl that she felt a she shouldn't pay any bills. I was paying 80 of our bills. She never expressed it. When we first moved in together I asked her how much can she afford towards bills. She said 500$, I was like cool, ill pay 1500. 4 years later she said I was getting over on her.

So there are things women know aren't logical attainable, so they don't speak on it, but deep down will resent you not providing it.

This post is on point as fukk got damn. No lies told at all.

 

[Bmezy]

I think I’m starting to understand why a lot of you perceive women the way you do..

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

I think I’m starting to understand why a lot of you perceive women the way you do..

Mommy issues

 

[born of fire]

you nikkas need therapy

 

[Alvin]

Couldn't maintain a normal family structure with a man in the house?

Honest convo.


I was thinking about this the other day, the older I get the more I'm exposed to women and their habits....sure I still love my mom...shes a lovely mother, I adore her but she absolutely has a way of emasculating a man. She's very head strong and the idea of a man being a man in the home seems to be the antithesis of her existence. Crazy thing is I see the exact qualities in my child's mom. Its to the point where I feel like wverytime I get off work I have to mentally psych myself for the new battle that is the "power struggle" of my home. It is exhausting.
For a long time I was very mad at my dad for leaving but the older I get the more I accept how it literally feels like the only choice you have left.

homie that's terrible and I'm sorry to hear this. But you need to nip this in the ass before you go psycho norman bates, either have a talk with her, go to couples therapy or break up.

 

[Alvin]

You are insinuating that women are to blame for a normal family structure while you went out and got a woman pregnant that was as toxic as your mother which means that the chances that the child has a healthy environment is close to zero.

Perhaps you should reflect on that instead of attempting to rationalizing becoming a deadbeat like your own dad and continuing the cycle.

I was raised by a single mother and I don't jump to these weird conclusions that don't acknowledge my own doing in the problems I encounter in life. Tbh, you sound like the 'stereotypical' woman you are talking about by placing all of the blame on the opposite sex.

Seek therapy

believe is he talking his situation though and is looking at a pattern of behavior with women who were raised in single parent household, no different than a woman acting more butch and independent if raised solely by their father.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Couldn't maintain a normal family structure with a man in the house?

Honest convo.


I was thinking about this the other day, the older I get the more I'm exposed to women and their habits....sure I still love my mom...shes a lovely mother, I adore her but she absolutely has a way of emasculating a man. She's very head strong and the idea of a man being a man in the home seems to be the antithesis of her existence. Crazy thing is I see the exact qualities in my child's mom. Its to the point where I feel like wverytime I get off work I have to mentally psych myself for the new battle that is the "power struggle" of my home. It is exhausting.
For a long time I was very mad at my dad for leaving but the older I get the more I accept how it literally feels like the only choice you have left.

Wait you grew up seeing these behaviors up close and had a kid with a woman showing those behaviors...

Growing up with my mom and little sister exposed me to the games women play and by the time I was in high school I was Jedi Master level at maneuvering around women’s BS.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

Oh yeah

if your girl made more than you then Yalls relationship would be COMPLETELY different.

No man should be in a serious relationship with a woman that makes more than him unless he likes being disrespected

I tend to agree but it depends on the difference in incomes. If the wife makes $145k and the husband $140k it’s not a big deal.

wife making $125k and the husband making $60k... welp

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

I'm currently married and iv gone though hell completely. My wife suffers from Entitle wife syndrome and me and our daughter is suffering behind it. She pretty much took all the wonderful compliments over the years that I gave her and turned it around to think she is better then me. She is a shytty mother. I do EVERYTHING for our daughter

are you unable to divorce?