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[Astroslik]

You are insinuating that women are to blame for a normal family structure while you went out and got a woman pregnant that was as toxic as your mother which means that the chances that the child has a healthy environment is close to zero.

Perhaps you should reflect on that instead of attempting to rationalizing becoming a deadbeat like your own dad and continuing the cycle.

I was raised by a single mother and I don't jump to these weird conclusions that don't acknowledge my own doing in the problems I encounter in life. Tbh, you sound like the 'stereotypical' woman you are talking about by placing all of the blame on the opposite sex.

Seek therapy

To be fair, he never said he would be a dead beat, simply that he would leave.

Nice dap fish attempt though.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

I actually had the opposite experience.

My father was (is) a rancid POS and my mom stayed anyway.

I feel bad for her.

 

[Astroslik]

mine wasn’t, but ma dukes thought a man should pay all the bills and agree with everything she say.

he dipped and tried to take us with him. Ma was like heelllll naw... lol

instead she waited until I got a little older to start getting on my nerves about “helping out”.

love ya ma but I gotta go.

hell I look like doing everything but not being free do as I wish in somewhere I pay for.

pops taught me well lol.... for real though, he instilled a toxic trait within me. I just leave any situation when I feel stress. Something I had to work on over the years. Especially compromising.... I will say that, although I’m working on me, bytches ain’t working on themselves. My girl have me real close to going back the old me... alot.

That’s not a toxic trait breh. That’s being pragmatic.

 

[Macallik86]

To be fair, he never said he would be a dead beat, simply that he would leave.

Nice dap fish attempt though.

For a long time I was very mad at my dad for leaving but the older I get the more I accept how it literally feels like the only choice you have left.

This sounds like he is dipping.

Aint no dap fishing over here. My dad wasn't shyt and so this whole "all single mother's" narrative is disrespectful AF to a lot of people who are better people solely because their mom stepped up and did double duty. Yall need to be mindful of that so that you don't come across like the male version of LSA/BlackTwitter babble about all black men not being shyt.

 

[Astroslik]

This sounds like he is dipping.

Aint no dap fishing over here. My dad wasn't shyt and so this whole "all single mother's" narrative is disrespectful AF to a lot of people who are better people solely because their mom stepped up and did double duty. Yall need to be mindful of that so that you don't come across like the male version of LSA/BlackTwitter babble about all black men not being shyt.

Bruh..dipping out and being a dead beat are two coherently different things. You’re reaching hard as hell. You sound like a male feminist.

Says a lot you’d assume a black father who steps out is automatically a dead beat. Plenty of supportive black fathers in their kids likes although they primarily live with their mother

Very LSAish to make these presumptions about a black man

 

[J.E.T.S]

When I said he was a bum, I mean that when he died, he was literally sleeping in his van lol. Only child support my mom ever saw was a couple bus passes here and there for me to get to school when I was growing up. He wasn't a bad person per se, my mom never instilled that in me about him, he was around, he just chose never to get his shyt together and just wanted to be a rolling stone travelling back and forth to mexico living off his social security checks. Before he passed he admitted to me that he realized later on when he was talking to some friends about their children that he couldn't come up with one skill or trait that he had ever taught me. Last week I was framing a new office partition at my job by myself, and everyone was tripping about how I was doing it without any help. It was to the point where I carried up and installed a 10 foot long double top plate, 15 feet high in the air for it on the dolo, and I simply told them that I was a latch key kid, and that growing up I had to learn to get things done without having anyone around, so I guess we could say that's the one thing that my father taught me how to do lol

I see what you did right there.

I learned how to do a lot on my own too, not because of having an absent parent, but because of a parent that was somewhat selfish... so asking for anything came with a price.

Not to mention the fact that I just up and left. So, I also learned how to survive without anything including money or a place to live.

 

[TEH]

I was raised in a two parent home and my mother is toxic at times manipulating us (siblings) against each other and spinning to her siblings how they should view any one of us if she doesn’t get her own way. This is especially after my father passed a few years ago.

 

[Macallik86]

Bruh..dipping out and being a dead beat are two coherently different things. You’re reaching hard as hell. You sound like a male feminist.

Says a lot you’d assume a black father who steps out is automatically a dead beat. Plenty of supportive black fathers in their kids likes although they primarily live with their mother

Very LSAish to make these presumptions about a black man

Last comment I'll respond to you with before this devolves further. He is talking about unresolved feelings associated with his dad leaving. If his dad was in his life in a meaningful way, I think that those conversations could've been had.

I make a comment explicitly saying let's not be one-sided around gender like LSA and you respond by calling me LSA

 

[Astroslik]

Last comment I'll respond to you with before this devolves further. He is talking about unresolved feelings associated with his dad leaving. If his dad was in his life in a meaningful way, I think that those conversations could've been had.

I make a comment explicitly saying let's not be one-sided around gender like LSA and you respond by calling me LSA

You’re just babbling at this point .

Good day sir.

 

[Mr swag]

Good luck, brother.

My only advice is start stacking your money and finding a good lawyer who will represent you, should you need to fight a custody battle.

Or……… go to counseling?

 

[Astroslik]

Yeah. My mom is a scorpio.

she hell my boy.

At 17, my momma made me feel like I
overstayed my welcome... so I packed up my shyt and went for seldom

What’s that correlation supposed to mean?

 

[TheNig]

A lot of our moms did foul shyt that we don’t know about or don’t want to accept.

My pops wasn’t perfect but as I get older I’m starting to realize neither was my mother.

we are taught to think of our mom as angelic.

but it’s not that simple.

especially once you realize that accountability in relationships isn’t something we hold women up too.

My cousin is starting to realize this now and we're the same age. My aunt is a slut and did my uncle dirty back in the day. When my uncle found out about her wrongdoings, he was getting ready to leave her ass so she tried to set him up to be killed....


When we were younger, all we used to hear was that Uncle Bruce beat up Aunt Lo and some dude she was with. I just found out the real story last year, which is basically the nikka she was fukkin with was tryna kill my uncle. Unc beat the nikka up and my aunt tried to jump in so he beat her up too.

For thirty fukkin years we were led to believe that Unc was this abusive piece of shyt. My mother (my aunt's older sister) just broke this shyt down for me about a year ago.

That situation had a lot of people in my family not fukkin with Unc but I guess those that still did, knew the deal.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Yall really need therapy

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

OP why did you choose to get a headstrong woman who loves to emasculate men pregnant? Did you not see these traits before?

He literally letting yall know he always wanted to smash his mom

 

[TheArchitect]

Some of us didn't exactly grow up in a single mother household, but in a way we might as well of.....The "man" of the house wasn't shyt, not even really a man...that could be worse in a way.....