Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

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This ish is lowkey patronizing though.

She's not spending money like that and apparently he's not either so she bounced, and yet he flubbed it?

Nah, sounds more like he sniffed her out and she dashed on him.

He's a VP who's single so he probably has a weekly let in service in terms of clean-up(my cousins uncle by marriage was a VP for a local Fleet bank back in the day so I know this stuff).
Did she have a decent job herself or was he dating well below his social status?

Basically what did she spend her money on?

Because that's what she treasures.
I don't have every detail breh, I got my own wife and kids to deal with. But from everything I gathered she was a good woman. Think he said she had a job in IT or maybe marketing or some shyt like that. I don't think she was trying to use dude bc he never talked about her ever asking him to pay a bill for her or none of that. She just came from an African household and was traditional. I really think son let his ego get in the way of locking that situation down running all these tests on her n shyt.
 

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Stall em out breh ...

You'll see Mexican woman holding it down with their dude on the side of the road selling fruit, tamales, flowers, etc. But our "boss bytches" don't need (nor want) us but for money.
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If your woman working like that she need to commit that
Dating based on income level feels so superficial to me idk.
As long as a person has goals, working hard to achieve those goals, and you see success along the way that should be enough. A person character is way more important than any money.

What happens if breh gets laid off one day and it takes him a while to find another job? You going to leave him cause the money not coming in anymore?

What is with all this traditional shyt too about women and men playing their roles in marriage too? Do some people really talk about this in relationships?
Most healthy relationships I seen are people treating them like a partnership.

"I pay the bills around here, so I better have a home cook meal and clean house when I get home" is weird af to me.

To the bolded, hell no
The big and bolded, these losers ain’t trying to hear that
 

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What are the differences?

If I made 150k I would date a Mcdonalds worker as long as she has a good soul and higher goals. Shyt even if she just loved working at Mcdonalds for some reason for the rest of her life I would still date her if I really liked her.

I think it's more proper to date someone who fits your lifestyle, not income.
Her availability to do a lot of things as an hourly worker is going to much different than yours so if you want to go to Spain for 7 days she isn’t getting paid for a week. Sure you can pay for the trip but are you covering that gap income for that week? Or when she has those weekend night shifts and you aren’t spending time tighter to grow the relationship.

Extreme yes but as you build a relationship those things matter unless from the very start you (or anyone) plan to subsidize thier lifestyle to align with yours. Part of your lifestyle is fueled by your income.
 
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i don't understand the movement of acting like majority of black men are bums or broke. The economy of 2023 for men in general is not that of the 1950's where a man could raise a whole family in a nice house with no college degree on one income. Thats a diffrent era.....I can't blame black women for wanting a man who can do all of the things....but so do every other woman.....and what are these women doing to stand out?

Most of these broads are out here fat and unhealthy, can't cook for shyt and don't want to listen to their man......they want the dream man but ain't the dream woman. BW gotta decide if they want love + good relationship or if they want to impress random people on IG and their bitter friends.
Keep in mind that the 50s existed because of WW2.

United States was the lone superpower along with the USSR. Outside of the Top 5% of men, history has mostly relied on men/women working together....either on a farm, him working manual labor and her being a maid etc.

The working class man/middle class man that can support a large family by himself while ALSO being financially comfortable probably existed for maybe 20 to 25 years tops.
 

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What restaurants you was working in breh :heh:
I was a bartender at some fine dining joints but I started at TGI Fridays. They also gave me a little bullshyt front of the house manager job. Lost it when I hired my brother and we both had to quit.

Point being that i wasn't a boss and neither is those assistant manager of first impressions ( they used to call them receptionists) even that dude from Two smart brothas went in on hoes like this.
 

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I was a bartender at some fine dining joints but I started at TGI Fridays. They also gave me a little bullshyt front of the house manager job. Lost it when I hired my brother and we both had to quit.

Point being that i wasn't a boss and neither is those assistant manager of first impressions ( they used to call them receptionists) even that dude from Two smart brothas went in on hoes like this.
I only asked that since only a food industry worker would know that term (I didn't hear it till my 3rd and final company but still).
 

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We're at this point because we've been coddling black women and letting people like push lies and misinformation about the stats and so on. We've been lying to black women. In that we've done them a disservice instead of being like other races and being honest.

Also, here is the issue, and I'm going to be blunt and hurt some feelings but I don't care anymore: Even if all black men became top flight earners, they still would not want a lot of these women that have been left over. They would not want them because black top flight earners already exist and many of these women do shyt all to try and get those men. They won't even approach them.
That's why I loved KS. He talked to them women like a disgusted uncle, perfect tone for the job.

I mentioned somewhere on here that I approached my man and brehs and brehettes were taken aback. Life is a competition. You miss every shot you don't take.

What is with all this traditional shyt too about women and men playing their roles in marriage too? Do some people really talk about this in relationships? Most healthy relationships I seen are people treating them like a partnership.

"I pay the bills around here, so I better have a home cook meal and clean house when I get home" is weird af to me.
My household is very traditional, but low key. So we're intellectual equals, debate politics and shyt, listen to battle rap, you know, regular shyt, but then he'll randomly buck up on me, like, "go make me a sandwich :hhh:" or "come do xyz :steviej:" and I be like ":skip: .... :manny: "


Its funny to me, and sexy, ngl. :ld:
 

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I find that it's a very complex issue that tends to lean towards extremes on opposing sides with little middle ground. I know a dude from DC that looks like he don't have a problem getting a woman but he struggles. Once they realize he's not a street ninja, or a super high earner and will actually treat them nice, they dead the situation.... :mjlol: :mjlol: :mjlol:It's disgusting for normal black men.
isn’t this an extreme in itself?
 
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