It has everything to do with the thread topic and even touches on the obvious and constant failings of your post. No doubt due to some shyt you're going through personally that I can't relate to and don't give a fukk about.
And many in this thread have pushed back on that by actually putting up stats that showed where Tyler Perry was wrong, instead of talking out their ass like you did. Even more, pushback against those that talk out their ass and those that support such people is needed more than dancing to their tune.
You sound so hurt and do a terrible job of hiding it. Even more evidenced by the nitwits who dap your posts but misery loves company I guess.
And I understand the foresight that this kind of thing has on the image of black men which is why we're posting stats that go against this bullshyt. On top of that though, we're also honest enough to note how other communities operate and in other communities, there is little talk about settling because most other women either understand the concept and don't act like it is the end of the world. Also, many of those women understand what it means to get a man. A lot of black women can't even bring themselves to approach a man they want, something you don't see in other communities. shyt is wild.
The rest of the stuff you are whining about has no bearing on this topic. I assume that is more personal stuff from you.
Black men should strive to be providers, but they should do it only for women worth their effort, not just any woman out there. What you call negotiation is merely advice. We could just tell these women to fukk off, and maybe we should, since there are plenty of black women not having these problems. Plenty of black women who understand how the game is played. We're at this point because we've been coddling black women and letting people like push lies and misinformation about the stats and so on. We've been lying to black women. In that we've done them a disservice instead of being like other races and being honest.
Also, here is the issue, and I'm going to be blunt and hurt some feelings but I don't care anymore: Even if all black men became top flight earners, they still would not want a lot of these women that have been left over. They would not want them because black top flight earners already exist and many of these women do shyt all to try and get those men. They won't even approach them. They are not going to suddenly change because there are a large number of successful black men. In fact, we know this with black women getting at black men for not wanting to date single mothers, overweight women, women with tattoos, women with high body counts, and so on. Men will say what they don't want and then they get attacked. So if these women aren't even willing to change now, what makes you think they will change later? Also, constantly broadcasting that you don't need a man, that you see rich men as bags and tricks, calling women that actually try or speak up for men as pick-mes, and (Matt is going to love this one I'm sure) glorifying all manner of things that indicate that your p*ssy is made for controlling and mesmerizing men for the purposes just mentioned while doing little to push-back against all of this (and even attacking people who speak against it) is going to sway heavily how these guys view these women. Why am I mentioning all this stuff? Because you were whining about the black man's image and I'd say you forgot to account for the black woman's image in all of this as well.
I didn't even touch on the anti-black male rhetoric that comes from many black women as well. That all plays a part as well. If I assume all things posted by other groups is what they truly think in their hearts, even for black men, should I suddenly ignore that just because a black woman says it? For all this talk of image, you neglect the role these women have played in shaping their own. I feel bad for the decent ones since I'd like to think they are a silent majority. Or not, who knows.
And even more, it is terrifying to think that a woman's feminity is conditional. That is an inherent trait. It's a fukking woman. How is something that is your main trait conditional? If it is something that you can or do put aside and only bring out for "the right man" then trust and believe that woman will be passed over for the woman who is always feminine or has it as a main trait. One canbe feminine and still strive and be successful. Those that don't understand this are the ones that lose out and the ones that many men avoid, unless they are bottom-feeders. The latter are whom woman have to pick from. Survival of the fittest, that's all it is.
Main point: It sucks that some women have to settle but then when you think about who is settling, then you realize that was always the outcome. Even if there were more top earning black men, the world is a big place and those black men would look elsewhere to find the very thing they are looking for since I doubt those settling women would step their game up to match those black men, as evidenced by all the dikk-policing and preference policing.
This post is long but I don't often comment on all the aspects of this kind of topic when it arises, so I figured I would today. It all ties to your post and to this topic, granted that you have the foresight to grasp it.
No, only the shytty ones. There is a reason why black men get pissy when a perceived "good one" dates down, the very thing that even black women pitch a fit about when it occurs (Monica and her love for prison thugs comes to mind).
In the end, this reeks of entitlement, bottom tier black women thinking they deserve what top tier black women have and can get. Sometimes I wonder if the shyt bottom-tier black women spew is just a means to sabotage the chances of top tier black women. They've shown a hatred for pick-mes so who knows.
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