Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

[Gloxina]

I agree with everything you said, but what if he picks up extra shifts or a part-time gig during pregnancy and after pregnancy so you can stay home. Is he still undesirable?

Then that would mean he isn’t a man who can only cover 1-2 bills and is actually trying to be in a position to provide, so he isn’t the type of man Tyler was describing.

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

Do ya’ll ever get tired of getting mad and arguing over this shyt

Its the same exact arguement day in and day out

right....

Tyler Perry is part of the problem with that content he pushes....i dont know one black woman that doesnt watch atleast one of his shows...

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

it could also be the way some people lifestyle set up

i know dudes with good job 60-70k jobs with hella kids to pay for and bad spending habits that end up having to room with their cousin for lack of rent money. at least he was always fly though

Then again... They missing the biggest part of TP story.... IF HE LOVING YOU CORRECTLY AND RESPECTING THE HOUSEHOLD IN ALL WAYS

That's not respecting the household at all. Women just want to throw any bum ass nikka into the quote and ask "Why should I settle" but missed the entire part about that man having you walk on clouds all day AND coming home to a household full of respect and him busting his ass to maintain it

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

Then again... They missing the biggest part of TP story.... IF HE LOVING YOU CORRECTLY AND RESPECTING THE HOUSEHOLD IN ALL WAYS

That's not respecting the household at all. Women just want to throw any bum ass nikka into the quote and ask "Why should I settle" but missed the entire part about that man having you walk on clouds all day AND coming home to a household full of respect and him busting his ass to maintain it

that's your interpretation. i think someone can be perfectly respectful to you and still not be a good match due to aspects of their lifestyle.
plenty of men will say they aren't going to support a single mother even if she is perfectly respectful because they don't want to take care of a kid that is not theirs. and also plenty of men complain about the way their gf spends money but the other aspects make it not that big of a deal and they pay for all the bills anyway.

either way, all i know is @CouldntBeMeTho

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Babe.

Men subscribe to that because men and women are not the same.

When I’m 8mon pregnant, feet spreading, organs squished, life LITERALLY growing inside of me, then I give birth and only have 8-12 weeks to stay with my baby when all I will truly want to do is NEST and stay home instead of handing my child over to some strangers at daycare—

As a man you won’t experience any of that. THAT is why women stay home with the baby and men go make the money. Because our bodies literally house the baby and then provide food for the baby. We are literally created to birth and protect the child until it’s ready and able to interact with the world.

Men don’t turn to women for provision. We turn to yall for provision because of what happens to our bodies after sex (procreation).

Stop it... Cause you just made all that scenario up like most women stay home with the kids.. They do not..

They are also not selecting partners who would allow them to stay home cause most americans don't make that much to allow supporting a family on one income

So back to REALITY... Men don't pick women based on money cause they not in a rush to spend up her money and be provided for... Women want this, and will throw away a good man who cant, for the POSSIBILITY of one who can... But what they are finding out, like everyone already knows, most men can't, and you winding up lonely, single and searching in your 30s, 40s and 50s, cause the dude who would love the fukk out of you and treat you right, makes 35k instead of 45k, and you make 40k

And what Tyler is saying is, if he covering the 80%, don't let the 20% fukk it up... And what you saying is... fukk that... We want 100%... but 90% of women ain't getting 60%, so what fukking world is y'all living in?

 

[UberEatsDriver]

If black women make more money than black men...

then is there really a patriarchy in the black community?

They still believe so use that to sh*t on black men more. Also black women do not make more than black men

 

[UberEatsDriver]

Black women do not make more money than black men.

Anyway, terrible fukking advice, and nobody ever says this to other races of women.

Why didn't he suggest that black men get their money up instead?

Because we make more money than black woman. We don’t need to get our money up.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

No one is saying throw the man away, but children don’t need to be birthed in a situation like that. Those salaries are for the building phase of your relationship.


I think part of the issue is no one is talking about building and working towards better.

Tyler is a billionaire who literally kept climbing until he reached the top- like literally created his own lane.

HE is the one who said BM aren’t doing as well as BW. I know the actual stats don’t say that, but we’re talking about how Tyler views his fellow Black men.

Instead of speaking about brehs doing better in their respective fields, instead of talking about brehs matching the efforts of BW (again, referring to what he said about brehs), he says black women are killing it and need to be with a man who essentially isn’t really competing with other men.

He didn’t word that shyt well at all.

You keep bringing up kids.... Tyler ain't talking to no 25 year old women... He's talking to these old bitter women crying about being single and can't find a good man.. They probably can't even have kids at this point

 

[Peachstate]

Because we make more money than black woman. We don’t need to get our money up.

I asked why he didn't suggest that based on HIS argument.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

That has no relevance to what I said.

Nobody tells other races of women to date men who can only afford to pay the light bill.

What if I said other races of men take pride in providing for their women and work hard to make sure she doesn't have to settle. Would you agree? Of course not, so don't do the reverse to me.

According to the median average income of all ethnic groups this is a lie

 

[Voice of Reason]

Those women are ill-informed and hustling backwards. If she’s
1- unmarried
2-unmarried making 35k

She shouldn’t have kids. That isn’t enough for an individual let alone a family. That’s my point.

The women aren’t fit to have children and the men aren’t fit to impregnate anyone.


If you as a man want to have a family, why the hell would you be ok making 45k? That should be your salary during the building phase. That’s what you make at 22 in an entry level position.

I understand your sentiment but you are living in fantasy land

Black folks don't make the same money as cacs we have to be real here.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

I asked why he didn't suggest that based on HIS argument.

I think all blacken raised in fucntional homes are taught to get their money up. Every black man I know raised in a functional home does so. When I hear black women say this it’s another red flag that this lady has been dating too many pookies.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

Don't black women have more degrees/education on average than black men? Them making more money would add up.

No black women with all due respect often rack high student loan debt and get a lot of “useless” degrees

 

[UberEatsDriver]

you think women of other races live like Ms Ann, dont pay no bills, do nothing but drink starbucks all day. And all they do is lay on their back.


This is simply not the case.

3 married white male coworkers, all of their women are either lawyers or work in investment banking.


All their women contribute financially on their apartment and they go even or close to it on bills.



This narrative pushed by some black women online is out of touch with reality.



Some black women out here allowing themselves to be used as prostitutes by non black men for a season and let go just because they believe this nonsense



Come on ladies, wake up. All these years of "strong black woman" and "independent women" trope has warped yall minds out of reality.

This is fact. In corporate America I see women of all colors and ethnic groups working

 

[UberEatsDriver]

Finances are a pretty big box. The biggest box, actually. My example was silly and superficial, I grant you that. Financial concerns literally affect your future and your descendants' futures.

Hard agree on your last paragraph.

Compromising is not settling and I think that’s the issue black woken have. There is nothing in life where you don’t have to do some form of comprising.

My mom made more than my dad but I don’t think she dated down cause my dad made good money and he took care of the house and the kids better than my mom. My moms strengths was just always looking out for our education