Washington Post: Hookup Culture Isn’t The Real Problem Facing Singles Today. It’s Math.

[mamba]

but if you say it, your a "hater", or "misogynst"

Things a man finds attractive in a woman fades as she gets older while the opposite is true.

I'm 30 and wouldnt even be caught dead looking at a 30 year old woman till im like 36


an older woman got emotional damage, cant have kids, bonded sexually with to many nikkas, looks decaying, best days are gone.

Without makeup, some of them look like corpses, breh.

They say Black don't crack. But, I'd argue that those nikkas haven't seen some of these chicks in the morning!

 

[EndDomination]

Basically, here is the best strategy for the modern man

Take care of yourself(Gym, dress sharp, grooming, look good and feel)
Stack paper(Degree, trade, small business, whatever method)
Game them without any real intention of settling
Pump and dump these women
Never get married

Cold. But this is the reality these days.

The problem is this takes a while.
Sex is more of an instant-gratification thing, no one wants to spend a year saving up money and finishing up their college degree just to be more attractive to women and have sex.
Personally, I'm not seeing the extent of this hookup culture. Maybe its just my own naivety, or the environment I'm in.

 

[Taadow]

But in 2015 if you're a woman who has her own money or a man that can cook for himself or doesnt want kids a lot are like whats the point of a serious relationship or marriage .

I stopped reading the thread here, because I feel it probably will get no realer than this.

 

[Originalman]

I can't disagree with that but again she would end up at a disadvantage. An aging woman who is well educated AND attractive would have an even smaller pool of guys to choose from because she would feel even more entitled to the cream of the crop.

Only way this situation plays out in their favor is if more eligible men get educated

But as long as the modern male is viewed as disposable no one really cares to talk about why there's an education gap and that it's growing.

You make good points but one of the things with this study is that it doesn't address that most these folks in college aren't even looking for mates. You could actually reduce these numbers if folks would actually look for marriage partners in college. But in American society the view is to go to college and have fun and experience.

When actually college is the perfect time to look for a mate. This is the only time in life where you will be surrounded by this many eligible men and women. Plus unlike in the real world you can find out so much about them because you are constantly around them and everyone knows everyone's business in college.

If you are foolish to wait until after college to find a mate your chances of marriage probably decreases because now you have to balance work life and have to find eligible mates.

The realest thing a brotha ever told me (an older kat when I was in college) was college was the time to find your mate. Don't wait until after college because it gets harder.

I stress that shyt to my nephews and nieces who are in college.

 

[mamba]

You make good points but one of the things with this study is that it doesn't address that most these folks in college aren't even looking for mates. You could actually reduce these numbers if folks would actually look for marriage partners in college. But in American society the view is to go to college and have fun and experience.

When actually college is the perfect time to look for a mate. This is the only time in college where you will be surrounded by this many eligible men and women. Plus unlike in the real world you can find out so much about them because you are constantly around them and everyone knows everyone's business in college.

If you are foolish to wait until after college to find a mate your chases of marriage probably decreases because now you have to balance work life and have to find eligible mates.

The realest thing a brotha ever gold me (an older kat when I was in college) was college was the time to find your mate. Don't wait until after college because it gets harder.

I stress they shyt to my nephews and nieces who are in college.

Yeah. It's the best time. You can get the HoeFax without having to do too much digging.

After college, you've really got to peep the signs and keep your ear to the streets.

 

[Guile]

I stopped feeling bad about poor success rate with women when I realized I was competing against older guys more exp ad deeper pockets for the same group of women.

Just got to get there myself.

 

[Guile]

Keep convincing yourself that bad good looking chicks lack options into their 30's brehs. Ya'll know ya'll lying to yourself. Most of them still bad in their 30's unless their white or mexican.

Bruh, their eggs force their hands.

 

[Originalman]

Yeah. It's the best time. You can get the HoeFax without having to do too much digging.

After college, you've really got to peep the signs and keep your ear to the streets.

Real talk I was in college dating my wife. My cousin and I went to the same college. She says I want someone too like you. I am like I got some good dudes I am cool with that I can introduce you to.

She is like naw I don't need to date I just need to focus on school. I am like girl that is silly you need to date.

Fast forward the dudes I was gonna introduce her to are all married with kids. She tried to start dating once she started her career. She works OT and barely has time to date. She does speed dating and online dating but it take anywhere to 4 to 6 months just to find out how folks are.

shyt in college you could get a hoefax on a dude in 1 day. You would know the fool credit score, his STD tests, his momma and dim address and who he related to. All from asking a few people on campus or from his hometown.

To this day I always stress to young black folks to use that time in college wisely to find a mate. Don't be no fool and let pride get in the way.

Just hard as hell to balance a career and try to find someone to date. That is why these jokers stay bytching cause they are dating the couple of folks at work or at some bar or club. shyt gonna take months to find out if the fool about something or on some bull shyt.

 

[Originalman]

Bruh, their eggs force their hands.

Oh they are still fine in their 30s. But we all know men are visual creatures and like young women. Plus in society their is a unfair stigma on women that once they reach a certain age and not married something is wrong with them.

Now saying all that does not mean some women 30 won't get married. shyt a lot will get married. We just getting honest on what men want and women for that matter.

One of my old coworkers who is 42 just married a 32 year old sista. So it is not like 30 plus year old women aren't getting married.

 

[Tommy Sheppard]

I wonder if women who aren't college educated are having a better time dating and marrying men? I guess women nowadays have to pick between what they think is more important. An education, or a husband.

the other majority are nurses if their not college educated

 

[philmonroe]

I always get confused in these threads because on hand cats say only 20% of dudes get most of the girls then these same damn dudes will say as they get older they become rock stars. What's happening to change them from the normal 80% to the rarified 20% tricking? Also of its like that why are the same dudes and y'all already know who the fukk they are always whining instead of swimming in chicks? shyt looking funny on the mathematics side of this. I think these nikkas need to

 

[JerseyBoy23]

I always get confused in these threads because on hand cats say only 20% of dudes get most of the girls then these same damn dudes will say as they get older they become rock stars. What's happening to change them from the normal 80% to the rarified 20% tricking? Also of its like that why are the same dudes and y'all already know who the fukk they are always whining instead of swimming in chicks? shyt looking funny on the math,antics side of this. I think these nikkas need to

Sidebar: I was wondering when I was gonna see someone on The Coli use that meme first.

 

[Guile]

I always get confused in these threads because on hand cats say only 20% of dudes get most of the girls then these same damn dudes will say as they get older they become rock stars. What's happening to change them from the normal 80% to the rarified 20% tricking? Also of its like that why are the same dudes and y'all already know who the fukk they are always whining instead of swimming in chicks? shyt looking funny on the mathematics side of this. I think these nikkas need to

It's a hope.

Men have a better chance of improving themselves drastically as they age. While women can only maintain (a women's money/career generally isn't that attractive to men who have their shyt together at least not over a more attractive physically attractive/engaging women).

 

[philmonroe]

It's a hope.

Men have a better chance of improving themselves drastically as they age. While women can only maintain (a women's money/career generally isn't that attractive to men who have their shyt together at least not over a more attractive physically attractive/engaging women).

Yeah dudes got a chance to hit the lottery too but let's be real my dude not fantasy oriented. How many people switch it up from normal to baller in real life for the most part? That's not a common occurrence after like college age most times. I'm not saying it don't happen but how some of these dudes talk its like its a forgone conclusion and that's not realistic at all

 

[Just like bruddas]

Basically, here is the best strategy for the modern man

Take care of yourself(Gym, dress sharp, grooming, look good and feel)
Stack paper(Degree, trade, small business, whatever method)
Game them without any real intention of settling
Pump and dump these women
Never get married

Cold. But this is the reality these days.

isn't that adding on to the problem?