Dear Dr Lukats, My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. We moved in together about a year ago. He really is a kind and loving man and he treats me with respect, except he’s seriously boring.
I know I probably sound like an ungrateful cow, but it’s really getting me down. It really is like living with an old woman.
To give you a few examples; all of our carrier bags are folded up neatly in the draw, He keeps and old towel in the bathroom to wipe up puddles from the floor. We even have to order the shopping list according to the isles in the supermarket.
Going out for dinner is a usually a diatribe and history lesson of wine and
certain foods, and when we go on
holiday he thinks it’s fun to create an hourly itinerary before we get there. As he says preparation is the key to success. Then when we’re away he insists on keeping a diary of all of our activities, meals, excursions, taxi journeys etc. He logs how much money we spend and then rates each activity with a satisfaction index so that if we visit the same place again we can monitor any social and economic changes.
All of this planning is sucking the life out of me. There is no room for fun.
I’m expecting a marriage proposal in the very near future. I know I should be happy but I’m not. I’m not sure I could routine for the rest of my life.
Is it me, am I ungrateful or should I move on?
