Why do a lot of married men seem so miserable?

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I went to a destination wedding in PR
building with the groom and he gave me that ol "happy wife, happy life" bullshyt
Thought "I give them 2 years"
lo and behold
exactly 2 years later
dude stepped out on his wife with some IG BBL mutant
his wife's one of them corp VP alpha boss types (think Vanessa Williams in Soul Food)
emasculated him and that's all she wrote
 

Richard Glidewell

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If you only acknowledge the bad situations you see someone else going through then of course its all bad. in order to do that you have to purposely overlook the good times. Acting as if everything is always supposed to be roses is some bullshyt and you are setting yourself up for failure
 

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I went to a destination wedding in PR
building with the groom and he gave me that ol "happy wife, happy life" bullshyt
Thought "I give them 2 years"
lo and behold
exactly 2 years later
dude stepped out on his wife with some IG BBL mutant
his wife's one of them corp VP alpha boss types (think Vanessa Williams in Soul Food)
emasculated him and that's all she wrote

Wives hold that ass hostage

Stop doing things they were doing before they got the ring

Most of my boys cheat on their girls

The homie J fukked up the most. Cheated with a woman at work, got caught, got suspended and eventually fired from his county job.

Sounds like some of these guys are miserable because of a lack of their own discernment, decision making skills, and discipline.

Some guys partner up with the wrong woman (wife) for a job he doesnt have the skills for (husband). Marriaging the wrong woman especially when youre the wrong man can fuk your life up.
 

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They get birds off the clearance rack and expect things to just work

Yep.

You get a woman’s most “honest” self when she’s in her early 20s. It’s like when kids run up to you and tell you exactly what’s on their mind / no filter. Thats them in their 20s.

After that it’s just survival & retirement plan / safe haven hunting.
 

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Yep.

You get a woman’s most “honest” self when she’s in her early 20s. It’s like when kids run up to you and tell you exactly what’s on their mind / no filter. Thats them in their 20s.

After that it’s just survival & retirement plan / safe haven hunting.
The wall forces them to go into pure survival mode. For most women, Dating after the age of 30 will be purely calculating, sober , businesslike, straightforward, strategic, pragmatic and utilitarian. When they are young, They are dating under the influence of unrestricted passion and through the waves of emotions and when they’re older ,they’re dating under the influence of cold reason and with intention. When they are young they run on pure instinct while when they are older, they operate with more caution, pragmatism and foresight.

It won’t be based on love at first sight, raw lust / immediate sexual attraction, primitive/genuine desire, pure fun, social popularity contests, charisma, physical, emotional and visual stimulation, authentic emotional connections and fickle feelings anymore. It will be based on familiarity, reliability, longterm deliberate life planning, pragmatism, etc

I specifically reduce female sexual psychology to the fundamental opposition between these two opposite and ultimate feminine archetypes: the mother and the white.

On one hand, we have the devoted mother, and on the other one, the selfish whore-two natures and two ways of life present in most women. On the one hand, the mother, who seeks physical security and financial stability above anything else in her relationships with adult men and otherwise devotes all her energy, true love, passion, care, time, thoughts and desires to her own child; on the other hand, the selfish and mercenary whore, who seeks fun, adventure and lusts for certain men but she actually doesn’t love men as she only uses them to satisfy her own sexual, social and financial needs. However, most children, no matter how ugly, violent, sick, handicapped, or stupid they are, still receive unconditional love from their own mothers regardless while even the most nice, educated, well- spoken, intelligent, funny, wealthy, charming popular and attractive men can only receive intense lust but ultimately conditional love at best from women who are in whore mode.

At the end of the day, women are pure slaves to their reproductive/sexual functions and desires. All women want to have kids before it’s too late ( beating old age and that biological clock ) and all women are hypergamous and always seek a higher caliber of man. Over enough time, they won’t be satisfied with their man and will be on the lookout for someone better, richer, more handsome etc

Indeed, women live through the prism of socio-sexuality: their conscious and subconscious minds are mostly focused to selfishly satisfy Their own desires for their own gains (attention whoring, validation, clout chasing, raw sexual pleasure ) and use wisely and strategically the sexual functions (pragmatic marriage that leads to planned sexual reproduction and family creation )for longterm mating and dating.

Sex is the only true purpose of their existence—either for herself or as a breeder/bride/matchmaker. This enslavement to her base sexual needs/wants makes her essentially inferior to man. Therefore, she does not need to be liberated from man, but from herself.
 
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Yep.

You get a woman’s most “honest” self when she’s in her early 20s. It’s like when kids run up to you and tell you exactly what’s on their mind / no filter. Thats them in their 20s.

After that it’s just survival & retirement plan / safe haven hunting.
A woman’s true character when she is in her prime years. The way she acted back then is who she really is. And even though she’s older and hitting this hard wall, her true nature is still there underneath because people don’t change after a certain age, unless they have a crazy/drastic life changing experience. They just hide their true selves with a facade and fall back from their old shenanigans because they can’t afford to pull them off anymore. Defensive strategy. They need to pretend they’re someone else to lock down a man for marriage and kids. They’re tying to Secure that bag, that’s why they move carefully and strategically on the dating market.

Because when people are on top with all the leverage, power, energy and options at their disposal, they show their true colors as they don’t need to cater to other people. That’s why they are Almost always on offense. They feel they can do whatever they want and they don’t believe that they have to answer to anybody. You know people are good if they treat other people well when they have all the privilege and power. It’s genuine niceness, not strategical/hypocritical/performative niceness.

When she’s in her prime, the way she acts and treats other people is genuine. With most young women, What you see is what you get. If she was a mean, fickle, capricious, superficial and selfish bytch with bad vibes then, she’s still more than likely one now, she’s just older and less attractive than she used to . If she was a sweet, traditional, Christian feminine woman with good vibes in her youth, that’s who she really is deep down at the core. Leopards can’t change their spots. People remain what they are until the end. Nice people are still nice, bad people are still bad.

If she wouldnt look twice at most men in her best years, her acting hypocritical and fake later on is just another attempt from her to use men for her own needs as everything isnt going her way this time and the harsh realities of life are directly humbling her.

« You’re all about her and she’s all about her » - Chris brown( loyal)

Life is already short, youth even more shorter - me
 
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