Why do men give up on love so fast?

[Arithmetic]

A man dont usually fall no more then twice and if he does you'll never know cause he wont say,
for the fear of being fooled taken twice by the heart, it's in his nature, to be afraid, he starts to
wonder if its really right, to let his past take control of his life, maybe I'll run into hope, someone
thats right for me, and she'll love freely and fall in love again


@Raye82

 

[Vandelay]

Space and opportunity ruins most of us when it comes to relationships. Social media only accelerated it.

The only equalizer is age.

 

[Dr. Narcisse]

He told you how it is

 

[jbrad]

I'm personally a rare commodity in the "hood". My parents are still together til this day and my perspective on love is somewhat altered? I rarely saw my parents being hmmm...mushy and saying "I love you.". I just knew my pops held things down on the financial tip and that's what I figured what a relationship and love was all about so when I got deeply involved and my paper was funny, I became angry and took it out on my companion not understanding at the time it was deeper than just having money. My pops ain't teach me how to express my self emotionally or how to deal with a woman's emotions. It destroyed my relationship and I've come tot he conclusion that I'm emotionally unintelligent. Love is hard.

 

[Arithmetic]

@Emperor_ReinScarf
song old as shyt but still holds truth till these days

lyrics on the song for those who wanna read it

them lyrics

 

[Incogno]

Even tho women are the ones made of emotions, men are the most unrealistic when it comes to the opposite sex. Most women know love=work. We know the nitty gritty ins and outs.

But men reside in a world of fantasy when it comes to women. For some their only teachers in intimacy is porn. So when faced with the reality that women are, oh I dunno, human, some can't handle it.

Not to mention the choices some are making in women. Oftentimes, men resent women so much for their initial choice in a chick, that they can't emotionally bounce back.

Then they go around trying to punish all women for their impaired judgement...

this sums it up perfectly...

...in my opinion......a lot of men do not care to look at a woman in a light that is beyond the superficial....that is why it's so easy to make generalizations


There's a song by bruce springsteen called secret garden.....and i think it's one of the most beautiful songs i ever heard....because,to me, it talks about a man's lack of concern in truly appreciating a woman's heart and soul....and the result of that being...his inability to reach the very essence of a woman...cause of the woman's self consciousness about showing her "secret garden" to the man

the song reminds me of the saying ..."a woman's heart is as fragile as a man's ego"

 

[MikelArteta]

You know I had time to think about it, and as men we SHOULDN'T give up on love, but that doesn't mean we should entertain the MAJORITY of these american women(and speaking as a black man) the majority of these african american women either. We should seek out black women from other countries, or if we are going to deal with black women from north america ONLY deal with the ones that are about something and leave all the thots, rachets and self entitled ones ALONE. Infact we should start today acting like they don't exist. Stop going to clubs and bars and approaching them, buying drinks for them. Stop liking their photos on IG and other social media sites. Stop talking about them on the coli and making threads about them, simply put STOP GIVING THEM ANY ATTENTION OR ACKNOWLEDGEMENT. That's what men and specifically black men need to do in my opinion, and that's what i'm going to do.

I've never said to give up on love, just choose wisely.

As I get older I'm much more pickier who I decide in my life, women from broken homes nope, women with alot of male friends nope, women with a promiscious past nope, women who club and drink and ain't doing nothing with thier life nope, women who seek validation from men online and talk to a bunch nope. Women who are not religious, tatted up nope. Just because she looks good doesn't mean she's good for you

 

[street heat]

women don't love men, only what they can do for them at the time.

date down and focus on yourself. that's the key for a man to have true happiness

 

[AAKing23]

You know I had time to think about it, and as men we SHOULDN'T give up on love, but that doesn't mean we should entertain the MAJORITY of these american women(and speaking as a black man) the majority of these african american women either. We should seek out black women from other countries, or if we are going to deal with black women from north america ONLY deal with the ones that are about something and leave all the thots, rachets and self entitled ones ALONE. Infact we should start today acting like they don't exist. Stop going to clubs and bars and approaching them, buying drinks for them. Stop liking their photos on IG and other social media sites. Stop talking about them on the coli and making threads about them, simply put STOP GIVING THEM ANY ATTENTION OR ACKNOWLEDGEMENT. That's what men and specifically black men need to do in my opinion, and that's what i'm going to do.

This is my mindset

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

Do men feel stronger/longer emotions than women?

It seems like they hold grudges and heartbreak longer and that they also pine for "the one that got away" longer.

Women are emotional, but it's usually fleeting. We get over things faster and move on. It seems crazy to men how we have "mood swings". But you just learn not to hold on to things.

It could also be nurture because I've noticed a lot of things men do is ego driven. And when their ego gets bruised, watch out.

I really think so.

It took me 3 years to get over "the one that got away"


A lot of men are dead or in jail because of emotional outbursts.


Mass murders (majority male) are usually emotionally damaged people

 

[Hyperion]

As you grow old, as a man, you realize most people want you for what you offer right now. Especially in relationships. Most women don't want a guy that's going to tell her about how hard his day was at work, how stressful it is that his whole family relies on him, or that he doesn't know where he wants to go in life. They want a man that's gonna do something for them, whether it be excite them, please them, or protect them. What happened yesterday doesn't mean a thing, and tomorrow ain't here yet. So when you can no longer offer anything, they can no longer offer love. It's that simple. And when a man realizes that a lot of people don't love people, a lot of people love things, that's when he starts being selfish. And he starts looking out for himself first.

Yup. This is why you see dudes out here about his money only and breaking hearts like it's in his job description. People love you for what you can do for them. It doesn't matter if you're suffering or sick. Only your family will care, and even then you're on a short leash. Like @Emperor_ReinScarf said, the only person that will love you unconditionally is your mother, and that's only because she gave birth to you. (But even then, some mothers don't like their children, so there's that as well.)

Love exists and there might be hope for everybody, but the way I see it is that in the time that you're single... you better learn how to love yourself and be happy on your own. nikkas here hate the idea of going to the movies alone. Why? It's just another place. And don't even bring up the idea of going to a fancy restaurant by themselves. You gotta start getting used to all of these things. I used to dislike doing things alone, but now I'm cool with it. I don't have to wait on anyone, I can do what I want to do, and you learn a lot about yourself in those moments. Having a companion is cool, but in these times of selfishness and deceitful behavior, you're at an advantage if you hold out and play by your rules. I mean if you already are content with being by yourself, what power can someone else hold over you?

 

[lightbearerchef]

It's kinda like this.

Most, not all, but most men were raised to believe women were these angelic, flawless creatures. And we believed we had to be on top of our shyt, basically be the best man we could be in order to attract the best woman.
When that first inevitable betrayal comes, it literally shakes the foundation of a man. You learn that everything you thought women were is a lie. You learn how selfish and cold and callous a woman can be when you no longer have her favor.
Then, the rules change.
You learn that you don't have to be the best man or really even be a good man. All you have to do is be a little bit more exciting and a little bit flashier than the dude she's with now. That's it. There's no honor or depth to it.
You learn that women are as simple as we are.
So we adapt.
We stop giving our all, because it wasn't going to matter anyway.
We stop being honest, because we learn that ya'll don't covet honesty.
We look out for ourselves, because it's what you would do in our situation.

That one woman who got the best of us, well she'll never know, nor would she care.

Say bruh make this a movie & let me co star in it.

 

[sfgiants]

"love" or feeling like you're "in love" takes away all logic and reason and makes you conduct yourself and make decisions based on emotion

all i want is good company and orgasms. and there are too many women on earth to believe that ONE is going to fulfill all of your needs and desires
it's like eating burgers for the rest of your life and abstaining from steaks and vegetables and chicken and everything else you can eat and enjoy, because in your own mind you think the same burger is going to satiate your perverted desires forever

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Say bruh make this a movie & let me co star in it.

lol, strangely enough I wrote an outline for a screenplay for my experiences years ago. Of course, because I'm a sci-fi geek, it gradually shifted into a lame superhero epic that would have been right at home on the CW (remember the show Roswell? It kinda ended up like that).

 

[RiffRaff]

"They say that the first love is the sweetest, but that first cut is the deepest"

"Time heals all, and heels hurt to walk in"

I've dealt with heartbreak once and not nearly as bad as I've seen done to others and honestly looking back on it, it was more of an ego thing than anything else. The thought that this girl didn't want to be with ME which is what infuriated me more than anything else I believe. So I haven't totally written off love, I'm just a lot more cautious with the woman I deal with. Those little red flags, I take a lot more seriously now and women get categorized between potential and quick fukks very quickly. I don't brag about how well I'm doing, my finances, and try to keep my social status as lowkey as possible, so outside of my looks I want them to like me for me before I get seriously involved. Lucky for me I've seen some women do the absolutely grimiest things to nikkas and then tell them they love them like it's all good so I take all those compliments, emojis, etc. with a grain of salt as well.

Far from off love, but in 2015 if you want to get with me, you got to be all in, and I've got to know it

Women test men all the time. I do the same thing just to see how far she is willing to go for the team. You have to test that boundary if you have so much to lose

None of this 100% prevents heartbreaks, but I'm sure it gives me better odds in the long-run.

I wasn't done dirty enough to mope around all day about love, but I was hurt just enough to be thankful for the experience and now have my eyes wide open.