Why do so many men lack self-confidence?

[Mowgli]

That was the path I took, my vision is trash without contacts/glasses and I paid too much in dental work over the years so I opted for firearms training and weight lifting over the years. I ain't want to get hit in the face and have to pay out of pocket

Yeah, and being able to handle firearms proficiently will build confidence and discipline. I'd be doing more 3-Gun training if ammo wasn't so expensive.

I wear my training on the internet to inspire others to train in a fitness related disciplines but offline you'd never know unless I meet another who's initiated in the arts.

The confidence still permeates and people respect it. You can be kind without reciprocation. It's easier to let bullshyt slide. It's easier to be encouraging and happier for others who are winning. It's easier to take inspiration from others who dedicate themselves to activities outside of fitness. I enjoy encouraging people. Overall it's done a lot for my attitude.

 

[Taadow]

We know the solution for men that lack self confidence is action. However, that statement in itself causes melancholy in men.

There are many men out here who do not see a way out because, again, deep down they know that they're literally incapable of focus, drive and stress tolerance in a demoralizing world.

I think it goes deeper than this.

It’s not that men are incapable of focus, drive, and/or stress tolerance - but we are wary of wasting those efforts in the wrong pursuits. Yes action is needed but if you take action and don’t see much benefit from it, was it worth the action?

Especially if you have few resources to invest, we don’t want to be careless with how we act with them.

 

[Double Burger With Cheese]

Cause they not that nikka in the flesh like me. That’s why.

 

[High Art]

A lack of positive reinforcement is part of the issue. Dudes need to be encouraged, like anyone else and at times, be told that they can achieve shyt if they try. You'd be surprised how many of them honestly think they are unable to do things until someone tells them otherwise. Not having a plan or resources is part of it as well. I saw this when I used to mentor kids, since a decent number of them were boys.

 

[dr. pill biden]

it’s a lot of reasons that all boil down to men have given up on God and are lost wandering about like a sheep without a shepherd

& the more people double down on their pride that they can do this life without him, the more lost aimless and confused they end up

 

[mbewane]

We've had this thread some months ago. Basically men, as opposed to women and babies, aren't loved for what they ARE but for what they DO. Huge difference. When have you ever heard anyone say that men deserve love, attention, care, sympathy, patience, understanding...regardless of their socio-economic situation? How many times do you see/hear that men are beautiful, strong, intelligent, worthy of success, etc? Right.

 

[darryl]

Agree for most part but awhile back there was a thread on LSA where they were just posting their hands and the young LSA girls saw the truth for what it was they were laughing and SHOCKED at the amount of women who posted some of the fattest hands you ever saw. They started clowning the owmen talking about they only want millionaire men or men on their level and was like now I see why yall always complaining about men, I will say that shyt caused such a storm and divide they had that thread wiped off the website.. One of the funniest things I have ever saw, was a huge crack in old fat demonic women giving the young girls bad advice to ship them down the wrong path.. They barely even let them girls bring it up ever, lol..

Omg!

 

[africngiant]

cause nobody (elders, peers) wants to put young ones on game due to hatred, competition, and or laziness

 

[Stir Fry]

I almost said this in my first post…but I don’t think the problem is initiative, per se

It’s more of not knowing where to go with your initiative.


When I was a boy, I used to want to be a policeman.
It seemed like a noble job, you catch bad guys and help the neighborhood.
But then the Rodney King situation jumped off. And getting older, I had my own situations
with the One-Times. Those killed any dreams I ever had with that.

One of my interests was city maps, neighborhoods and infrastructure
(ironically - that partly stems from being from L.A. and gang science. Go figure. LOL)
I didn’t know what that kind of thing was called - I just knew I was interested in it.
If I knew then what I know now, when I went to school I probably would’ve studied
City Planning - but I was a whole adult before I knew what that was.

My cousin literally invented something. Like, we were sitting in the living room one day
years ago and he explained his idea for a product. We said it was a good idea…after that
he went and got form from the Patent Office for his idea. Sometime after that he got a phone call
from somebody asking about his idea, but he wasn’t home and never called them back.
Today a lot of the newer cars have his idea on them but he never followed through.

I said those to say that we have the “spark”, but we don’t know how to start the fire.

Which all stems from beginning with taking an initiative to find out. Kids these days don't know how easy they actually have it with the internet at their fingertips. The irony is that everyone's scouring the same internet looking for it to give them a solution to their problems *bloop* lol

The next part of finding one's is following through.


I live by the motto that there ain't nothing to it but to do it.

If someone can do it, so can I we live in an era where so many tools and gadgets have been thoroughly engineered that lotsofpreviously difficult tasks are actually rather easy these days compared to the past.

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Its a lack of male energy and social media.

Social media rewards attention getting behavior, whether its being able to show off, or being a dramatic enough victim.

A lot of boys aren't being taught about the different parts of masculinity and how a man can show strength from men who are aware of their emotions and introspective. The result is grown men that still act like children because they never progressed beyond a certain mental age. Nobody taught them how to master their desires and harmonize their emotions and social media has rewarded them for being unstable through views and responses. They find themselves in echo chambers where they just complain to each other all day.

 

[RARI_Godwind]

Yeap there's a generation of boys raised by educated women who had to enter the workforce that predicate the entirety of their selfworth on what they can provide for women who actually don’t need them.

 

[UpNext]

How they were raised at home. Alot of parents kill their children's self confidence because they don't go out their way as adults in the room to put things in front of their kids that enables them to build that confidence.

 

[Bumblebreh]

Social media, being an average woman on the internet world >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> being an average man on the internet world.

You make it seem like it is a good thing, when the reality is it is not all cracked to be.

 

[Bumblebreh]

We've had this thread some months ago. Basically men, as opposed to women and babies, aren't loved for what they ARE but for what they DO. Huge difference. When have you ever heard anyone say that men deserve love, attention, care, sympathy, patience, understanding...regardless of their socio-economic situation? How many times do you see/hear that men are beautiful, strong, intelligent, worthy of success, etc? Right.

Men do not become men by being coddled. Now I do not agree with the men do not cry and men should always be stoic bullshyt. But it is also dangerous to create a victim mindset. I do believe that men can be loved and valued, but it should not be an entitlement.

 

[mbewane]

Men do not become men by being coddled. Now I do not agree with the men do not cry and men should always be stoic bullshyt. But it is also dangerous to create a victim mindset. I do believe that men can be loved and valued, but it should not be an entitlement.

So for you saying to a man that he is worthy of love and intelligent etc is creating a "victim mindset"