Why do some men act like talking to women is rocket science?

[semtex]

. Talk to women, brehs.

If that weird ass foot fetish dude from YouTube with the speech impediment talkin bout "y'all mad cause I'm gettin feet" can get as far as he does, there should be no issues for anyone for the most part

 

[AyBrehHam Linkin]

Nah, not necessarily some dudes just feel sorry for themselves and refuse to improve themselves or their life situation.

They refuse to hit the gym daily
They refuse to eat clean
They eat like shyt, smoke trees, cigs and drink daily
They still love at home with moms
They surround themselves with other dusty nikkaz who ain't on shyt
They continue this same cycle for years

Most of that shyt dont even matter tbh. I live with my mom, dont workout n i can still get bytches. I know nikkas that literally fill all those and still get bytches

I know nikkas that work 2 jobs, got they own crib, workout and get NO play

 

[raoulduke187]

well it is rocket science to me breh

never had a male role model growing up, my mom raised me

I have a good social circle but they're 1) dudes in long-term relationships who are not interested in meeting new women and 2) single guys who don't approach women

I'm just recently out of a 3+ year relationship and needless to say, my contacts with women are almost non existent

this would all be cool if people were humble about it but everyone wants to portray the player image and rejection is clowned and frowned upon

I don't fear getting rejected and it happpens, the real problem is I'm clueless how to avoid it

I'm 5'9, around 160lbs, a really average looking guy fairly intellegent, in college atm

 

[BrothaZay]

The people who make these threads(OP) need to show proof of them getting women

 

[RTF]

I would argue this is not necessarily the case. A lot of times when women are out drinking they are in packs. And you know there's always that one ugly friend playing defense

And if anything nikkas get way more emotional and sensitive when liquor is involved. So nah. Even if what u say is true.... u can't be drunk all the time. Don't use liquor as a crutch

True but you can't be shook on all fronts. You need to have a comfort zone. Whether it's mutual friends, the club, tinder, malls...you just need an element. If you live in a major city you just need to find your element and stick to it.

My element is social settings. Clubs, events, concerts, parties - especially where there is music and alcohol. Anywhere people are enjoying themselves. I rarely holla at women randomly going about their business unless the vibes are strong (which in itself, is rare).

I live in a city where I can go to these spaces twice a week, if needed. Shoot my shot with over a dozen women.

Conversely, I have friends whose game is so-so in the physical. But they killing it on Tinder, POF etc. I think I get a better quality of woman in the flesh so don't do that but whatever works is the key.

 

[RTF]

well it is rocket science to me breh

never had a male role model growing up, my mom raised me

I have a good social circle but they're 1) dudes in long-term relationships who are not interested in meeting new women and 2) single guys who don't approach women

I'm just recently out of a 3+ year relationship and needless to say, my contacts with women are almost non existent

this would all be cool if people were humble about it but everyone wants to portray the player image and rejection is clowned and frowned upon

I don't fear getting rejected and it happpens, the real problem is I'm clueless how to avoid it

I'm 5'9, around 160lbs, a really average looking guy fairly intellegent, in college atm

Bro, I would look to get a squad that like to be around attractive women... as in... just in the same space. Even the types to be like "yo there's hella chicks in here" and not make a move to any - at least they in space. Now if you need more support than that.... you need 1 associate, 1 buddy that will go out on the prowl with you. The easiest way to make a friend like that is to be a guy like that yourself. Don't play it cool - don't be afraid to look corny. Be the breh to always ask where the chicks at.... that dude will eventually be where the chicks at.

If you're in college there's things going on 7 days a week. You just need the right people.

Also - this might take some doing but consider going places solo. they might not be interested in action but a small group of chicks will take you in at the very least (a group of 2 or 3) - on some maternal ting. So you won't be lonely the entire time and you'll make new female friends. I'm nothing to write home about in the looks department and have always at the least chilled with a group of chicks when solo dolo.

 

[Black Panther]

Just be confident.

Seriously. No need to stunt or put on a front.

Forget that stupid "alpha male/beta male" nonsense.

Forget "heightism". (I'm 5'7" and my wife is taller than me )

Figure out who you are and what your strengths are, and be self-assured.

How do you think ugly dudes be getting these thots out here? :denzelcmonson:

Having a skilled trade or interesting hobby is important too. (Tell a woman you fix cars and watch her go )

But seriously, be confident.

 

[Ohene]

Just be confident.

Seriously. No need to stunt or put on a front.

Forget that stupid "alpha male/beta male" nonsense.

Forget "heightism". (I'm 5'7" and my wife is taller than me )

Figure out who you are and what your strengths are, and be self-assured.

How do you think ugly dudes be getting these thots out here? :denzelcmonson:

Having a skilled trade or interesting hobby is important too. (Tell a woman you fix cars and watch her go )

But seriously, be confident.

nope. it's not that simple

one thing i learned a long time with women is that there is simply no cheat code. What works on one girl wont work on the other and what you're saying is implying there's a cheat code.

I'm a very confident dude and because of that I get my fair share of women. But girls often perceive my confidence as arrogance and think that I think I'm better than people or I'm narcissistic. Even when i give them no reason to feel that way their stupidity and or insecurities lead them to that conclusion. So no. It isn't just about confidence.

Confidence gives you the audacity and bravery to approach women, but it doesn't mean youll be successful after approaching

 

[Larry Lambo]

I don't get what the big deal is around "talking" to women. Women are people. My success with women increased exponentially once I stopped looking at women like they're sacred creatures and just spoke to them normally. They piss and shyt just like us

I don't think most guys have an issue talking to women in the way you are discussing. I think the issue comes with approaching and escalating.

The issue is when you are approaching women in a different situation than you would talk to guys in. I wouldn't walk up to a dude in Whole Foods, and introduce myself and start talking about random stuff. So when you do it to a woman it can be nervewracking. If I meet a woman in the same situations that I meet my friends (work, school, social groups), then it's really no nerves involved.

Also, I had to learn there are "mistakes" you can make around guys that you can't afford to make around a woman you're trying to get romantic with. You say something that makes you look lame to a guy, and most dudes will just brush it off, as long as you aren't annoying. You say something that makes you look lame to a girl, it's a wrap. I did a much better job of portraying myself when I was 27, versus when I was 17, and the results showed.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

The fact that OP has to ask this question shows hes as socially inept as the people hes trying yo clown

Why dont all ppl get the dame results?

Duhr, because ppl are different dumbass?

 

[Black Panther]

nope. it's not that simple

one thing i learned a long time with women is that there is simply no cheat code. What works on one girl wont work on the other and what you're saying is implying there's a cheat code.

I'm a very confident dude and because of that I get my fair share of women. But girls often perceive my confidence as arrogance and think that I think I'm better than people or I'm narcissistic. Even when i give them no reason to feel that way their stupidity and or insecurities lead them to that conclusion. So no. It isn't just about confidence.

Confidence gives you the audacity and bravery to approach women, but it doesn't mean youll be successful after approaching

No cheat code implied.

Of course there's more to it than confidence. But OP was initially talking about approaching women in general, and a confident man will usually get a woman's attention.
Maybe some dudes can float on confidence alone to keep a woman, but that's not what I was implying.

 

[RTF]

nope. it's not that simple

one thing i learned a long time with women is that there is simply no cheat code. What works on one girl wont work on the other and what you're saying is implying there's a cheat code.

I'm a very confident dude and because of that I get my fair share of women. But girls often perceive my confidence as arrogance and think that I think I'm better than people or I'm narcissistic. Even when i give them no reason to feel that way their stupidity and or insecurities lead them to that conclusion. So no. It isn't just about confidence.

Confidence gives you the audacity and bravery to approach women, but it doesn't mean youll be successful after approaching

A guy with "the juice" probably bats 50% with chicks with a cold approach. Handling rejection is the best part.

If a girl thinks your cute, she'll gloss over a fumbled, no confidence approach. This might be 1 in 20... you have to be ok with the other 19 rejections.

 

[RTF]

No cheat code implied.

Of course there's more to it than confidence. But OP was initially talking about approaching women in general, and a confident man will usually get a woman's attention.
Maybe some dudes can float on confidence alone to keep a woman, but that's not what I was implying.

A confident dude is still getting curved more times than not. At least I do anyway.

 

[Hungry Rabbit]

well it is rocket science to me breh

never had a male role model growing up, my mom raised me

I have a good social circle but they're 1) dudes in long-term relationships who are not interested in meeting new women and 2) single guys who don't approach women

I'm just recently out of a 3+ year relationship and needless to say, my contacts with women are almost non existent

this would all be cool if people were humble about it but everyone wants to portray the player image and rejection is clowned and frowned upon

I don't fear getting rejected and it happpens, the real problem is I'm clueless how to avoid it

I'm 5'9, around 160lbs, a really average looking guy fairly intellegent, in college atm

Read this very carefully, breh:

IDGAF who raised you - get out of your fukking feelings. You're a man. You are not a woman. The fukk do you look like being a grown ass man afraid of a damn woman?

This shyt is incredibly simple. You work on improving yourself and reducing your weaknesses, and then you showcase your positive qualities to a bunch of women until they let you fukk. Period. That's it.

Now go and get it young breh

 

[Youseenmywork]

Threads like this is one of the problem