Why do women keep remarking that I’m quiet at work?

[panopticon]

The funny thing about these threads to me is cats say they anti social but got all the online yaps though. Cats know everything online but IRL mouths shut like the tinman without oil.

Part of it is, honestly, the conversations on here are a fukkload more interesting than hearing about Todd's on again off again relationship with his "fiance" that cheated on him

You can't tell him anything real because it might fukk up your money, especially in a white-collar environment

We got brehs on the Coli posting on so much interesting shyt...even the fukkery here is better

Just a week or two ago I learned about the complex Igbo social hierarchy and traditional spiritual practices. From the Coli.

The breh @ab.aspectus wrote a detailed ass post on all the black ski clubs that exist and how to get involved

But at work...for the most part its just a lot of people expecting you to play therapist...meanwhile you're sitting there just absorbing all this bullshyt energy

It isn't productive or constructive or intellectually stimulating. Just draining as fukk.

Nothing better than a real, meaningful conversation - even if it keeps you late at work. Shyt is energizing to me.

But listening to people drone on about their personal problems and drama...just miss me with all that shyt.

 

[Rozay Oro]

I just realized most of y’all work with mad white folks

Why is that funny lol

 

[CASHAPP]

Because OP you are skinny. They are likelier to say this if you are skinny or average size

Get yoked and things will change

 

[panopticon]

There's a Dipset song for every occasion

Its more than music

 

[MasterOfAllHeSurveyz]

I just realized most of y’all work with mad white folks

Boy, when I quit the 9 to 5 thing in '01, I was the topic of discussion for months after I left.

"He didn't even give us two weeks notice."

I swear this scene from Office Space are the final days of my 9 to 5 life.

 

[Uitomy]

Because OP you are skinny. They are likelier to say this if you are skinny or average size

Get yoked and things will change

You got a point, I do need to beef out a bit

 

[RoyalQ]

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Black folk usually seen as the “entertainment” aka tapdancers at work. We always gotta be the loudest and always in the middle of work drama. Or you got homo flamboyant nikkas always “yassing” nshyt

We arent ever taken seriously. We always supposed to be on playtime

people seem shocked that im a quiet black woman. Like you dont think quiet people exist in all races?? All black people are just loud and humorous?

 

[Smokin Rider]

. Your dumb ass can get caught up if you want to.

Think you're going to get Metoo'd for conversing with female coworkers brehs.

Well you might actually have that happen, with your antisocial "everybody out to get me" ugly cowardly punkass

 

[philmonroe]

Part of it is, honestly, the conversations on here are a fukkload more interesting than hearing about Todd's on again off again relationship with his "fiance" that cheated on him

You can't tell him anything real because it might fukk up your money, especially in a white-collar environment

We got brehs on the Coli posting on so much interesting shyt...even the fukkery here is better

Just a week or two ago I learned about the complex Igbo social hierarchy and traditional spiritual practices. From the Coli.

The breh @ab.aspectus wrote a detailed ass post on all the black ski clubs that exist and how to get involved

But at work...for the most part its just a lot of people expecting you to play therapist...meanwhile you're sitting there just absorbing all this bullshyt energy

It isn't productive or constructive or intellectually stimulating. Just draining as fukk.

Nothing better than a real, meaningful conversation - even if it keeps you late at work. Shyt is energizing to me.

But listening to people drone on about their personal problems and drama...just miss me with all that shyt.

Nah these convos are that interesting to be honest. They are the same few topics over and over tbh. Colorism, Who a cac or c00n, introverts support thread, what wild stuff some white person did today, talk about how we can be better as a people with most not actually doing more than yapping online. They about the same level to me. Only difference to me is most of these cats wouldn't open their mouth IRL because its a lot of different things at play that online you can hide that you can't offline when cats actually know you. Its also stuff that folks say on here that you say offline folks clowning off top and that's why at times the stuff you hear online in general is way different than offline.

The stuff you think is interesting I would've found that on my own if I was interested in that already. Now some new music, clothes, or other random stuff I'll give you that. I do agree I don't want to hear too much about folks I don't know problems but hell I feel that way on here too when folks yacking about who they can't get dating wise man or woman.

 

[Falcozer]

I always get told I'm quiet too But I don't care though.

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

Cacs like to play dumb at work.All races to be honest. Bottom line is they know when you are quiet, it's common sense that you are not feeling them. So it's more of who the hell does this guy thinks he is not wanting to socialize with us.

These Cacs claim they don't want to be associated with us, but if it's a "safe place" They expect us to cater to their social needs. I remember telling this white broad at work, that why are you so worried about me? If I didn't work here and was walking down the street, you would cross the street. This is in broad daylight. She didn't say anything but have a stupid look on her face cuz she knew it was true.

This is my main thing. I'll occasionally chop it up with a dude, particularly one around my age or a black female but never a white/asian women for this reason, its so inauthentic and fake, these bytches wouldnt even acknowledge my existence if we didnt work together

 

[ThrobbingHood]

And it sure as hell don't help matters when there's cats there that act like that gif either
A few of us were using the bathroom on break, and the goofy ass resident tap dancer walks in with going " TOOT TOOT!!! " We looking at dude like Who does that wack ass toot toot shyt in a bathroom full of dudes

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Please Explain.I'd like to hear the craziness these people think.

It goes deep. Negro spirituals used to be sung for various reasons. The main reason was not just to keep the spirits up during slavery but it kept the slave masters happy to see them singing. It meant they were working and not plotting anything. That’s why secret messages were communicated through singing to escape through the railroads.

Hearing silence unnerved slave owners because it meant without physically checking on the plantation, they’d have no idea what was going on. So psychologically, hearing that singing was “comforting” to them because they knew (at least in their mind) that nothing was being plotted.

That has trickled down today. A buck dancing comedic negro still makes them feel comfortable. In their mind, a black person like that is non-threatening. They’ve figured him out and can see he’s “one of the good ones.” A quiet one scares the shyt out of them. They think we’re plotting against them or deep down they’re just nosy as fukk (especially white women). They have to know what’s going on and feel included in everything.

That’s why it’s been mainly white women calling the cops on us. They can’t stand to see black people just having a good time or doing well without them. Imagine being at work and one wanting to be all up in your business. The world revolves around them and when you don’t reciprocate that it fukks with their psyche.

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Think you're going to get Metoo'd for conversing with female coworkers brehs.

That's not what you said. . Try again.

 

[b_low_brown]

I feel like if a young black male isn’t all extra and being the “entertainment” for people he’s automatically labeled “quiet” which is unfair. We can never just sit back and mind our damn business

This hit me in my chest man