Why do women match you on tinder just to give one word answers and bland conversation ?

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Bumble is the better app but the problem is that the quality of the girls goes down compared to Tinder:francis:

Be some wilderbeasts liking me on Bumble:picard:

Lol

I used to swipe right indiscriminately until i ran out of profiles

True story though

I matched with a girl on bumble in like August on there..she disappeared and i didnt snag her number

I was swiping right again in november and didnt even realize i matched her again and she messaged me, finally got her number

She came over once and ghosted again

She messaged me out of nowhere first week of February and weve been talking every day since. I might be in love :yeshrug:

Never know with these women
 

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Not that it matters cause I'm a woman, but yeah actually I do. :yeshrug:
Yes.

What do you mean exactly? Messaging first? Or trying to open up a bland convo?

I meant the first but either or

And how exactly is a convo supposed to start with a total stranger?

What's wrong with beginning with hey and letting it go from there?
 

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Reading this thread. A lot of y’all just don’t understanding or just don’t want to understand women. Some flat out don’t like women and dont even realize it.

You gotta carry the convo sometimes
You shouldn’t have to spend all day thinking of witty one liners, it should come natural.
Women love talking about themselves, so find a way to get them to do that.
I’m just going to stop here
 

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Reading this thread. A lot of y’all just don’t understanding or just don’t want to understand women. Some flat out don’t like women and dont even realize it.

You gotta carry the convo sometimes
You shouldn’t have to spend all day thinking of witty one liners, it should come natural.
Women love talking about themselves, so find a way to get them to do that.
I’m just going to stop here
All thats a given breh. But we're not opening with a variation of "hello" now? To a total stranger?
 

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Thats why I avoid online dating/apps..

The game is twisted on them apps...

Those same chicks that out guidliness like

"Don't msg with "Hey ma" ",Or got height guidlines will trip over themselves in public to get the attention of a dude they find attractive.

I get way more choosing signals in public...

Online broads have the option of setting criteria, and judging everything about you based on picture. They're too confident on dating apps.
 

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All thats a given breh. But we're not opening with a variation of "hello" now? To a total stranger?

Adapt to the times. Like others have said, women get “hello” texts all the time now, so you gotta say something to standout or gain her interest(unless you’re a celebrity, obviously rich, or really damn attractive:dame:)


I’m not going to tag the poster but R=G gets a lot of pornstars to reply to his tweets because his tweets standout, instead of just the typical “damn I wanna fukk you” tweets.
 

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Facts!

I don't respond to "hey/whats up" texts at all because it goes EXACTLY how OP posted.

Start a real freaking conversation.

You could be boring yourself. Nothing is stopping you from coming up with a conversation after "hey what up?"

"Hey what up?"
"Nutin just chilling watching X"
"Oh what's it about?"
*Describes X*
"You like those kinds of genres?"
"Yea because....."

Carry on, carry on , then a full conversation happens. It ain't like yall dont know what to talk about, it's the fact that you're not really invested to talk to the said person.
 

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OP I can't even get mad at ol girl. That conversation you did was absolute trash.

"how are you?"
"nothing. Just at work."
:hhh:

Most boring shyt ever. You don't need to be some fake don Juan ass nikka but you couldn't spice it up even a little bit?

You had the opportunity to take the conversation wherever you wanted. You coulda talked about music, food, anything going on in her pictures, but no.

"i ain't about nothing. Just at work.:troll:"

nikka probably expected for the bytch to lead the entire interaction to the point of asking him out on a date
 

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I know they need attention and validation but this shyt makes no sense to me. We both swiped right, you could've easily swiped left if you weren't interested. Do these bytches need validation that badly ?

Me : Hey how are you

Her : Hey, I'm fine and you ?

Me : I'm doing good, just at work

Her : Nice

:stopitslime: the fukk bytch why did you swipe right then
Asking how is she is where you loss.

You gotta ask interesting stuff to stand out. Make sure they’re open-ended so she can go on and on about herself. If she doesn’t bite then move on.

And yes, they need constant validation.
 

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Unless you are super attractive to a woman, have fame or money that you are showcasing or you say some outlandish stuff, you will be ignored by most attractive women because they probably get like 40 people right swiping them a day. So while she might swipe right because you look decent enough, she won't respond because you are probably the 25th guy that is saying 'hey' in her inbox.

If you're going to do the online thing, focus on building up your instagram following and showcasing yourself at your flyest... but really, mashing in real life is where it's at.
 

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OP I can't even get mad at ol girl. That conversation you did was absolute trash.

"how are you?"
"nothing. Just at work."
:hhh:

Most boring shyt ever. You don't need to be some fake don Juan ass nikka but you couldn't spice it up even a little bit?

You had the opportunity to take the conversation wherever you wanted. You coulda talked about music, food, anything going on in her pictures, but no.

"i ain't about nothing. Just at work.:troll:"

nikka probably expected for the bytch to lead the entire interaction to the point of asking him out on a date
I just wrote something similar. lol
 
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you lost for using tinder in the first place probably was a russian bot or one of these coli nikkaz posing as a woman talking to you lmao
you probably got women checking for you in your everyday life but you too oblivious to even notice
 
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