She’s not wrong.
And yes I know I’m on a male forum and ya’ll want women to give up everything and expect nothing in return.
p*ssy, money, submission and don’t want women to ask or expect shyt outta you except dikk and side chicks.
But yes. Her mentality is 100% correct. The problem is her not being proactive and matching her actions to her mentality. She should have had this passionate epiphany BEFORE she fukked him.
I have personally only had sex with three black men my entire life. And I knew each of them for more than 4 years of was in a serious relationship with 2 out of the 3 before I ever became intimate with them. Never had an STD, never had an OOW baby. In fact NOBODY in my family on my dad or mother side ever has.
Why?
Not because I’m stuck up.
Not because I’m unrealistic.
Not because I’m trying to shyt test men or play games or any other dumb shyt men say to get women to give up p*ssy easy.
Its because my p*ssy won’t even work if you don’t or can’t demonstrate that you give a damn about me as a person.
It’s that simple. I love myself too much to allow a sorry nikka to try and finesse me into getting a few wack strokes but can’t be there for me when I need someone.
Why the fukk would sex even be in the equation with a man who doesn’t care about if I’m hungry or need help, or a kind word in my time of need? Who don’t even care if I make it home safely?
If you don’t like me as a person, a friend, a human being, then the last place you need to be is between my legs.
And I don’t give a fukk if that makes you mad. Fukk you. It’s my body and my life that I have to look out for.
All that sex no strings attached and “just fukking” shyt will never be the move for me as a woman because I could care less about how fine you are, how long your dikk is or your stroke game. My p*ssy won’t even let you in if you don’t treat the woman attached to her with kindness, respect, care, romance, and love. I’ve tried this shyt before. I know what it’s like to get horny and be like “lemme try the dikk out”. But It don’t work for me and the sex isn’t even satisfying. I’m not set up to just fukk people I don’t care about who don’t care about me. And hell I don’t even need a dude to pay rent so it ain’t even about that with me. I stay blessed, but I STILL don’t want just sex with a man.
Sex divorced from genuine connection is worthless. A dude’s dikk has about as much value as penny with a hole in it outside of the context of his value as a human being, friend, mutual support system that I can love and be loved by and court mutually.
Women don’t realize, you don’t have to be the finest thing in the world to apply this mentality to your life. All you gotta do is love yourself. That’s how a woman can avoid these types of Ls. And that’s why you keep seeing women in these situations. Because life has beaten them down so much that they haven’t cultivated self love.
Now as for men
When some of you hypocrites start pearl clutching about OOW rates, here’s what you need to realize. Ya’ll start this shyt by looking for unstable, low self-esteem chicks in dire straights to get easy p*ssy from. MANY of you clown women with standards, get mad at women who don’t give up p*ssy easy, say they playing games. But when the consequences of messing around with chicks like these come full circle, you wanna avoid accountability. THESE are the chicks some of ya’ll love to fukk with so much.
They’ll suck your dikk for next to nothing. These are the pick mes that some like to brag about. The side chicks ya’ll love dogging out. And when these unstable bytches have a trap baby and get these sorry dudes giving up 70% of their checks for child support, THEN it’s a problem. These are the baby mamas having black babies in dire situations. So while you looking at her, also save some hypocritical finger pointing for the sorry nikkas with low self-esteem who see she in a bad place and are still willing to use her for a nut, because he feels so broken as a man that the only thing he got is dikk and broken promises to offer somebody.
That nut he leaving behind due to him not valuing himself or his legacy is being left to a broken female vessel. That nut is just another black baby aborted or another black baby that goes on to be raised in a broken home while the rest of black men and women with sense refuse to have kids at all.
Stop fooling yourself. Ain’t no chick just down to allow you to use her sexually because your dikk is sooo amazing.
She trying to leverage sex for love and emotional connection. She’s alone and wants love and affection and is hoping for some type of Full Metal Alchemist type transmutation of a bussdown situation becoming a family dynamic.
Dudes know this shyt and just keep leaving nuts behind in these types of chicks raw and everybody in the equation wrong as hell.
If it’s too long to read, I don’t give a fukk. Skip it. If it makes you mad, fukk yo feelings. If I’m talking about you then tighten up instead of bytching like a hurt dog hollering whether you the chick with self esteem in the gutter or the man whose only value is in his dikk.
If you don’t do shyt like this then join me on the sidelines and watch this shyt unfold while people try and pretend they don’t know what the hell is really going on.
Never change. (The plethora of opinions here proves just how diverse this place is because I know some people saying one thing aren’t the ones saying other stuff.)
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