women get emotionally attached QUICKLY but...

[DreadHead P]

Never had my heart broken before

 

[Huellz Santana]

You silly boys. Only men need to be loved. Women need to be wanted.

i cant tell if this is profound wisdom or something simple without meaning. i need to dwell on it a bit.​

i don't know what you're talking about. i can emotionally detach and abandon a person instantly. once i decide a relationship is over i flip my emotions off like a light switch and close and lock the door.

i don't think women emotionally detach quickly either. they just make the decision and lay the groundwork then act on it while most men get stuck looking stupid when a relationship is obviously over.

a man has to go out and find another chick. women get offers every day so when a woman decides she's gonna move on she's already got other guys in her face with no effort on her pert.

hell if most of yall negros get ya girl's cell phone and look through it you'll find all those male friends she's not telling you about but that she harmlessly talks to. those nikkas that's riding the bench.

you're clearly a sociopath tho. this dont apply to you. :cacpls:​

Never really been heartbroken.

then you can't relate. talk to me when you actually fall in love and get your heart broken. b4 i got my heartbroken i couldnt relate to 90% of rnb songs. afterwards I was like ​

As someone posted earlier, this idea only applies to younger women (25 and under), women 25 and under
are at their peak around that age, so the rebound is usually easier for the girl, dudes are ready to take the ex's place. Getting over a relationship has more to do with a person's opportunities than anything, you think Lil Wayne or Kevin Durant are gonna have the emotional issues with a relationship like the average joe would, they have way more options. If you ever recognize broke dudes have the hardest time with break ups and most young dudes are broke. With women their value (initially) deals with looks, and as thoses fade so do their options and hence the breakups become worse, the story of bitter women usually relates to women in their 30s and 40s. I have some older female friends, mid 30s and up, and many of them still are mad/bitter over how their last relationship went years ago.

i think if lil wayne and kevin durant fall in love they'd go thru the same shyt. but their careers don't put them in that position so who knows, they may never experience it. on the flipside its been plenty of famous people who live the lifestyle and went crazy over an ex​

Never had my heart broken before

lucky man.

btw this thread aint bout me. i'm fine. i've learned my lesson​

 

[bouncy]

That's true. And when a woman breaks up with you, she's usually been feeling that way for a long time. She checked out of that relationship a long ass time ago and has already gotten over the heartache internally, hence why bishes be at the club the next day. They BEEN over that shyt...

This is somewhat true. Women don't leave until they have someone who can take your place before they leave you. If it takes too long, and you do something foul then they may call it quits, even though they don't have a man waiting in the wings. Men just leave, if they leave. Most of the time the woman will do it first because they can not take someone dumping them. They have to have the last word, in general of course.

 

[bouncy]

Its silly to talk about these things in generalizations, of course, but my experience, both myself and with friends and such, is that men aren't as well thought out when they break it off.

They may be unhappy, and have been for a while, but they haven't checked out the same way women have.

That's because they think just cause she is smiling, she isn't planning on leaving. Men tend to have big egos when it comes to women, and money. They think that having a chick, means they are the shyt, and because they have money to spend they are living good. Until she just ups, and leave, and he sees someone have more money then he has or better things.

 

[bouncy]

When they're younger they get over it quickly because they have lots of options. They don't really worry about finding someone else really great because the sexual marketplace favors attractive, thin, socially presentable women in their 20's. It's nothing to really worry about. In fact, you'll probably have the last laugh once you get your money right and your education game on point while they wither away like dried up pieces of fruit.

Then they look back. They look back at all the amazing, motivated, good looking, ambition-in-his-eyes type of guys that they turned down in their 20's. They look at themselves and see a body that's beginning to sag. They're starting to see streaks of gray where they had told themselves before that the stray grays were coming from stress. They remember the look of hurt in the man's eyes that they turned down, they cracking of his voice as he asked why she didn't love him, the bitter spiral he may have gone down once it was over... and now she looks at the options that she has currently.

The limited options that she has now: guys that are willing to take a woman who is very much past her prime, has a kid at this point probably, and is showing distinct signs of aging. She'll say that she's "had her fun" now, but in reality she knows that her options are quickly dwindling and that she has to cash out as quickly as possible before she's doomed to never having kids, ever. She'll more than likely find herself forcing the word "yes" out through clenched teeth to a man's marriage proposal who is inferior to the five guys that she turned down in her 20's.

And then there's you. What kind of man are you? Do you want to be the guy who was completely sunk and ruined by a pretty girl that got to your head? Or do you want your life to be centered around you? I know that we're young and dumb and the first time that we fall in love we fall hard, but it's not as if it's something that we can't recover from. I've made stupid decisions over a woman before, but it's not the end of the world if it ends. You just gotta keep on "keepin' on."

Does a part of me still love the woman who did me really dirty? Yeah, I can admit that. But I don't let it consume me in a negative way. I use it to remind myself of where I went wrong, where not to let people wrong me, and to remind myself that love is real and that if I maintain an open heart and mind, it can happen again.

I used to think this happens to women, but most of the time it doesn't. They only think about you when they see you, or want to get out of a relationship they are not happy in, and want you to be the one they trade up with, but most of the time they just use the guy they are with to get what they want. They are not sad that you aren't there when they go shopping. There are so many men who will choose these women that they can still get what they want as they get older, the man just won't look as good, be as cool as the ones when they were younger, and may have a lot of bullshyt that comes along with him, but they can still use him to get what they want.

There are so many men who will take a sucker bytch as his lady, just so he can have in house p*ssy, and not look like a loser by not having a serious lady in his life, even if she will make his life miserable. Essentially, the man & women, are made for each other in this case. They both don't want to work hard to be the best they can be, so they take what they can get at different points in their life. You do you, and let them do them, everything else will fall into place.

 

[GetSomeMoney]

i cant tell if this is profound wisdom or something simple without meaning. i need to dwell on it a bit.


you're clearly a sociopath tho. this dont apply to you. :cacpls:

then you can't relate. talk to me when you actually fall in love and get your heart broken. b4 i got my heartbroken i couldnt relate to 90% of rnb songs. afterwards I was like



i think if lil wayne and kevin durant fall in love they'd go thru the same shyt. but their careers don't put them in that position so who knows, they may never experience it. on the flipside its been plenty of famous people who live the lifestyle and went crazy over an ex



lucky man.

btw this thread aint bout me. i'm fine. i've learned my lesson​

I doubt they go through the same shyt, because after they break up with that chick, there is a new dime at their hotel door ready to top them off, it's a different life, its the reason they DO get married, it doesn't matter as much if it goes bad, they can bounce back easier than the average joe. There are a few celebs that have gone crazy over an ex but not nearly as many as the average broke nikka, people can mention the Belcher situation (KC Chief player) but when else has that happen in recent times, how about like never, but I hear of stories on the news all the time some hood nikka killed his ex chick and her new dude. It's the reason Tiger Woods was wilyin the way he did as a married man, no regular dude has it like that and broke nikkas have it worse. It's a different life, the more successful you are (women = looks, guys = money), the more options you have, period. It's the reason you constantly see threads of dudes saying which would rather have a dime who can't cook or an average chick who can, because the dime at the end of the day doesn't need to cook to pull a nikka, more options, less effort is needed.

 

[ReggieFlare]

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You're right, I can't relate. But personally I don't think I ever will. Just not the type to get hung up emotionally over someone who no longer has any feelings for me. Sure, I might be hurt for a little while but I'm very quick to move on.

Then again I can be cold and cynical at times

 

[Huellz Santana]

I doubt they go through the same shyt, because after they break up with that chick, there is a new dime at their hotel door ready to top them off, it's a different life, its the reason they DO get married, it doesn't matter as much if it goes bad, they can bounce back easier than the average joe. There are a few celebs that have gone crazy over an ex but not nearly as many as the average broke nikka, people can mention the Belcher situation (KC Chief player) but when else has that happen in recent times, how about like never, but I hear of stories on the news all the time some hood nikka killed his ex chick and her new dude. It's the reason Tiger Woods was wilyin the way he did as a married man, no regular dude has it like that and broke nikkas have it worse. It's a different life, the more successful you are (women = looks, guys = money), the more options you have, period. It's the reason you constantly see threads of dudes saying which would rather have a dime who can't cook or an average chick who can, because the dime at the end of the day doesn't need to cook to pull a nikka, more options, less effort is needed.

:bruhwhat:

What are you arguing with me about? This thread is about

A: a man taking longer to fall for a woman than vice versa
Which I’m sure you agree with and…
B: when a man TRULY falls in love it takes him much longer to get over itthan vice versa

You’re sitting here debating with me about lil wayne and durant’s options. Who cares? I don’t even know if them nikkas ever been in love for real. We will never know. But that doesn’t change my argument.
Most people agree and you’re obsessed with being the dissenting
opinion.

imagine being lil wayne or durant, young with money on top of the world. imagine the type of woman it takes to get them to REALLY fall in love. now imagine they fall for said girl. and then imagine she leaves.

all the options in the world aint gonna ease the pain. you think every heartbroken nikka never had options? u think celebs never get heartbroken?

​

 

[GetSomeMoney]

:bruhwhat:

What are you arguing with me about? This thread is about

A: a man taking longer to fall for a woman than vice versa
Which I’m sure you agree with and…
B: when a man TRULY falls in love it takes him much longer to get over itthan vice versa

You’re sitting here debating with me about lil wayne and durant’s options. Who cares? I don’t even know if them nikkas ever been in love for real. We will never know. But that doesn’t change my argument.
Most people agree and you’re obsessed with being the dissenting
opinion.

imagine being lil wayne or durant, young with money on top of the world. imagine the type of woman it takes to get them to REALLY fall in love. now imagine they fall for said girl. and then imagine she leaves.

all the options in the world aint gonna ease the pain. you think every heartbroken nikka never had options? u think celebs never get heartbroken?

​

You are the one the commented on my first comment, you shoulda just dapped me a keep it moving. The thread title said women get over a relationship quicker than men, I simply said with my first comment (that you took the time to respond to) its my opinion its not a matter of sex as it is a matter of options and where you stand in society. I think you would agree a beautiful woman would get over relationship faster than an ugly woman, of course, she has more options, a broke ugly dude is gonna have a harder time getting over a relationship than a rich dude, more options, period. Take Basketball Wives for instance, that dude Eric Williams had already moved on emotionally from his wife Jennifer, Stevie J had already moved on to that Joselin chick while his chick of 10 years was still trying to hold on. My point is its not a thing about one sex getting over it faster than the next sex, its about the individual and the options they have. And I don't necessarily agree it takes most men to fall in love longer, we have a lot of simps in this society today and many men are now bytch made (literally). We can't generalize the sexes today because many woman are taking on "traditional" male roles and vice versa for men. You have your opinion, which is coo, I just have a different view on it.

 

[DerrtySouthpaw]

Im 20 and the same way. Dont love these hoes.

What fukked it up for me was I had older brothers and Ive seen the foolish shyt they've done in the name of "love" . Just wasnt goin let that be me, hell one of my older bros still does dumb shyt for these bytches and he's 23 now.

i've seen this fukk up so many nikkas who was on the come up too. made crazy decisions over p*ssy. lol im just trying to make it love can wait

 

[NYChase718]

@ whiskey and a cigarette

 

[Seea]

That ability to detach

y'all struggle ending relationships for some reason, even if you're suffering.

 

[HoustonHeat]

When they're younger they get over it quickly because they have lots of options. They don't really worry about finding someone else really great because the sexual marketplace favors attractive, thin, socially presentable women in their 20's. It's nothing to really worry about. In fact, you'll probably have the last laugh once you get your money right and your education game on point while they wither away like dried up pieces of fruit.

Then they look back. They look back at all the amazing, motivated, good looking, ambition-in-his-eyes type of guys that they turned down in their 20's. They look at themselves and see a body that's beginning to sag. They're starting to see streaks of gray where they had told themselves before that the stray grays were coming from stress. They remember the look of hurt he man's eyes that they turned down, they cracking of his voice as he asked why she didn't love him, the bitter spiral he may have gone down once it was over... and now she looks at the options that she has currently.

The limited options that she has now: guys that are willing to take a woman who is very much past her prime, has a kid at this point probably, and is showing distinct signs of aging. She'll say that she's "had her fun" now, but in reality she knows that her options are quickly dwindling and that she has to cash out as quickly as possible before she's doomed to never having kids, ever. She'll more than likely find herself forcing the word "yes" out through clenched teeth to a man's marriage proposal who is inferior to the five guys that she turned down in her 20's.

Sir, most of us didnt turn down amazing, motivated good looking guys in our youth. Thats not what youthful men are. Ever think that some ladies left their young, unstable, needy man for a more respectful, progressive and fitter man instead?

I know this concept of a regretful, aging woman helps some of you ease your heartache, but to be honest, most classy, pleasant looking, kind and self sufficient women don't have limited options, even as they age. I'm in my late 20s and I still don't regret breaking up with any ex or turning down some of the guys I did in my early 20s. I've looked at the wedding pics of some of the guys that tried to pursue and think "damn, somebody actually fell for this dudes corny-ness?" Hoping that your ex girl regrets dumping you and has turned sloppy now shows that you still have some healing and self love to work on.

Y'all will also be going grey the same time we are, some of you are already balding, already have kids, etc. The rate of divorce and online dating has created very active, vivid social lives for middle aged people (I'm talking 40s) and from hearing my moms friends discussions, those women aren't feeling all that limited in their dating options either.

When you finally mature and get your life right, you will no longer look at women's looks as the only way of measuring their prime. Hopefully, you'll become worthy of women who also have your level of success and maturity.

 

[AllHolosEve]

i don't know what you're talking about. i can emotionally detach and abandon a person instantly. once i decide a relationship is over i flip my emotions off like a light switch and close and lock the door.. i don't think women emotionally detach quickly either. they just make the decision and lay the groundwork then act on it while most men get stuck looking stupid when a relationship is obviously over.. a man has to go out and find another chick. women get offers every day so when a woman decides she's gonna move on she's already got other guys in her face with no effort on her pert........talks to. those nikkas that's riding the bench.

r!ght, !m agree!n w!t you more & more breh... do you detach as qu!ckly as ! do though??? !m bout to leave a ch!ck, bushes.... "guys dont want me l!ke that", he r!ght over there, l!es bushes... "cant we be fr!ends", no bushes... "can ! call you", *changes number*, bushes... "my k!d loves you", ! love them too but bushes... *stops by my job* "can we talk", ! ask coworker to help her, bushes... she cr!es, !m sorry but, bushes... !ve been called emot!onally detached, unstable & !nsens!t!ve but the real!ty !s ! t!re of peoples bs qu!ckly & chose to move on... what about you???

 

[Cynic]

Realest sh!t I ever read on The Coli

I'm glad I survived this "love" bug with no kids and no long term financial commitments.

I know this concept of a regretful, aging woman helps some of you ease your heartache, but to be honest, most classy, pleasant looking, kind and self sufficient women don't have limited options, even as they age. I'm in my late 20s and I still don't regret breaking up with any ex or turning down some of the guys I did in my early 20s. I've looked at the wedding pics of some of the guys that tried to pursue and think "damn, somebody actually fell for this dudes corny-ness?" Hoping that your ex girl regrets dumping you and has turned sloppy now shows that you still have some healing and self love to work on.

Y'all will also be going grey the same time we are, some of you are already balding, already have kids, etc. The rate of divorce and online dating has created very active, vivid social lives for middle aged people (I'm talking 40s) and from hearing my moms friends discussions, those women aren't feeling all that limited in their dating options either.

When you finally mature and get your life right, you will no longer look at women's looks as the only way of measuring their prime. Hopefully, you'll become worthy of women who also have your level of success and maturity.

This only applies if the guy who was dumped hasn't achieved a certain level of success and has a lead a pretty mediocre life. If said dumped bf turns out to be multi-millionaire entrepreneur, there are a good number of these so called classy, pleasant looking, kind and self sufficient women who will try and rekindle an old flame.