Black Engineer advice to young men: Don't date seriously until you're 30

[Cynic]

You truly are a cynic...

Such a shame..

What are you ? a banker ? How is it a shame to not take on non-business debt ?

 

[Poitier]

But every living breathing thing I do isn't in the hopes of some man finding me "appealing" enough to take the steps that lead to marriage if ya know what I mean.

Wasn't saying it in the sense that it defines your entire being or is at the center of your universe...just that it is something you'd ideally want to obtain.

Some women say they'd be fine if marriage doesn't happen so it just strikes me as confusing when I see a angst towards men about it possibly not happening.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

What are you ? a banker ? How is it a shame to not take on non-business debt ?

She literally broke down how two people can work together to pay off debt IF they were in a marriage.

Regardless of whether the relationship work or not you both can leave on good standing financially with little to no debt....

Your reply was about the woman getting pregnant and dropping outta the workforce...

^^^^^^ just threw in some unnecessary bullshyt to make a point about "women being so evil"...so hey cynic works for you.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

Wasn't saying it in the sense that it defines your entire being or is at the center of your universe...just that it is something you'd ideally want to obtain.

Some women say they'd be fine if marriage doesn't happen so it just strikes me as confusing when I see a angst towards men about it possibly not happening.

I see.

However, everyone want different things.
Every last one of us on this site.
So no matter my opinion on the subject...there could be a woman who could careless because she doesn't desire a marriage.

Black folks live different.
All that wait until you old ass fukk and playing the field (while conveniently making babies) not working for us. <-----but I'm going off into some other shyt with this last part.

 

[Cynic]

Birth control.

You better mean male birth control because women "forget" all the time

You sit here and talk about paying off debt in 3 years ...have you ever dated modern women ?

Good luck mitigating her envying her friends on annual vacations, gettingnew houses, cars, shoes etc ...


Your credit, dreams, networth, checking balance are all gonna look like .......:gmbrehs:

 

[Ashley Banks]

Don't yall say "a large chunk of women don't aspire to get married" so why are yall in this thread trying to paint women as victims if they don't get a marriage that they might not even want? What am I missing here


Women that want to get married don't got mouths to ask a dude his intentions and a sense of time to keep him on a timeline?

There are women that do, obviously were talking about them.

@the bold, just because you ask doesn’t mean he’s going to tell the truth. You’re a man, you know that.

 

[Rawtid]

You better mean male birth control because women "forget" all the time

You sit here and talk about paying off debt in 3 years ...have you ever dated modern women ?

Good luck mitigating her envying her friends on annual vacations, gettingnew houses, cars, shoes etc ...


Your credit, dreams, networth, checking balance are all gonna look like .......:gmbrehs:

Well that’s why I said be strategic and not emphasize on love. Finding a woman on point financially is golden. She may not be the most attractive OR you get a female willing to learn. Either way you sacrifice something. Being married just for the sake of seems stupid.

 

[Poitier]

There are women that do, obviously were talking about them.

@the bold, just because you ask doesn’t mean he’s going to tell the truth. You’re a man, you know that.

Shouldn't the fact you got married young dispel your own narrative, though?


Are yall going to pretend its the mans fault for folks getting married later and later when women are just as commitment phobic these days and steadily trying to upgrade to a better and better option thinking they can cash out on top?

And of course someone could lie....thats why you keep them on a timeline. Yall want to beg a nikka for a ring for 5 years and shyt

 

[Cynic]

She literally broke down how two people can work together to pay off debt IF they were in a marriage.

Regardless of whether the relationship work or not you both can leave on good standing financially with little to no debt....

Your reply was about the woman getting pregnant and dropping outta the workforce...

^^^^^^ just threw in some unnecessary bullshyt to make a point about "women being so evil"...so hey cynic works for you.

Nice theory but it rarely goes that way ... Lotta men paying off their wives college debt out here
If they are in a marriage, the guy almost NEVER EVER EVER leaves in a good standing ...

How is a real life scenario some unnecessary bullsh!t ? I never said women were evil
but notice how you are coming at me because you know it's a valid concern

 

[Rawtid]

Wasn't saying it in the sense that it defines your entire being or is at the center of your universe...just that it is something you'd ideally want to obtain.

Some women say they'd be fine if marriage doesn't happen so it just strikes me as confusing when I see a angst towards men about it possibly not happening.

I think it’s dumb to lock someone into a relationship with no intentions of marrying them. I mean if you’re going to play the part, you might as well get all the benefits. With that said, if I never got to the point of a guy wanting to marry me, I’ll still be good.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

Nice theory but it rarely goes that way ... Lotta men paying off their wives college debt out here
If they are in a marriage, the guy almost NEVER EVER EVER leaves in a good standing ...

How is a real life scenario some unnecessary bullsh!t ? I never said women were evil
but notice how you are coming at me because you know it's a valid concern

It's not the fact that what you stated COULD AND DOES happen.
It's the fact that it has absolutely NOTHING to do with what she's talking about and you came outta left field with it.

Geesh.

 

[Elle Driver]

I think it’s dumb to lock someone into a relationship with no intentions of marrying them. I mean if you’re going to play the part, you might as well get all the benefits. With that said, if I never got to the point of a guy wanting to marry me, I’ll still be good.

I think it's selfish, heartless and fukked up to lock someone into a relationship with no intention of marrying them although their partner has expressed that they want to.

 

[Rawtid]

It's not the fact that what you stated COULD AND DOES happen.
It's the fact that it has absolutely NOTHING to do with what she's talking about and you came outta left field with it.

Geesh.

I was going to say, I’ve listened to a lot of Dave Ramsey and couples do this all the time. Dude just being difficult for the sake of.

 

[Clark Griswold]

Wait allllll the way until your 30 to JUST start dating “seriously” and get your feelings hurt by some bytch because you have no experience with women until you get to 30 brehs...

 

[Poitier]

I think it’s dumb to lock someone into a relationship with no intentions of marrying them. I mean if you’re going to play the part, you might as well get all the benefits. With that said, if I never got to the point of a guy wanting to marry me, I’ll still be good.

Not all relationships end in marriage but are still of value. That said, I agree that monogamous dating should be with the end goal of marriage even if you don't get there.

And when you say "a" guy you must mean a guy with "xyz" as surely there have been guys who would put a ringer on your finger.

I think it's selfish, heartless and fukked up to lock someone into a relationship with no intention of marrying them although their partner has expressed that they want to.

Depends. If its early in the relationship and you are still evaluating then I think its fine. If you lock that person in for 3, 4, 5 years and still giving them false hope then yeah that is terrible.