Black Engineer advice to young men: Don't date seriously until you're 30

[Elle Driver]

Yeah, its hard out here for both men and women who actually want marriage.

It's a compatibility and luck thing.

 

[BrokePhiBroke]

I say this a man in a happy relationship and got in early. Don't settle down unless you absolutely want too. Honestly there is no benefit for a man to marry at all so do at your own risk. This is coming from a breh who has a good lady. It is best to wait until your 30's if you want to be serious. All you single brehs who don't have a wife and kids, don't rush into marriage or a relationship. Live your life and enjoy your money because once you get a lady and kids your life is finished.

And how is ones life finished?

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

Yeah man, cats got to realize that high quality women get wifed early more times than not. Passing those women up and wilding around until you are in your 30s is a questionable endeavor. If you keep up with yourself in your 30s, yes, you will have access to a a lot of women, but really, most women your age who are unmarried have too much going on, whether its a lot of kids, drama with exs or general craziness. More and more of your friends are going to be married during this age and having kids, so that cuts out on a lot of the 'rolling with the boys' time. The younger women, yea, you might be able to get at them, but the generational gap is going to be there, so it might be a bit harder to relate to them, especially the longer you wait.

I really feel sorry for a lot of the younger generation because they won't get that experience of growing in life with a woman... having that one woman from way back that you just experienced your life with.

Now I'm not saying to rush into marriage. Never force something that's not there. That's how you get caught up in a bad situation. What I am saying though is if you find that jewel of a woman, leave the game alone and don't look back. Wilding out with these party women won't give you anything but headaches and problems in the long-run.

I think the one thing one coming up might have to their advantage is that more and more millennial adults are living at home later, forgoing relationships, marriage, and buying homes until they're financially stable these days. Adulthood has been delayed for many so they'll be both men and women in their 30s looking to settle down later these days. It's a side effect to lack of jobs.

That said, everything we both said applies. It's much better to get a woman before she has children, before she's jaded by failed relationships, before she has baby father issues, etc

 

[PikaDaDon]

He is right.

You don't get to experience the "college experience" unless you want to fail in engineering. I mean you can have a girlfriend but she has to understand school is the priority and if she is in an easier major, she may need to get used to that.

For me, I went back to school for my degree at a later age so that wasn't really an issue, but you really have little time for anything else.

How late? I'm thinking about going back too.

 

[Ricky Fontaine]

And how is ones life finished?

I take it as YOUR life is finished (as an individual).

The days of getting out of bed and just saying "fukk I'm a just do me " are officially done because there are two other people whose feelings you're always gonna have to consider first.

All your important decisions are officially "US".

And if you're not ready to make that commitment you're going to be a shytty parent and a shytty spouse.

 

[rantanamo]

do what makes you happy. Lots of unhappy older single people and you have to realize that's a possibility unless you're going to have an arranged marriage. Not saying don't get your money, but it can be lonely brehs when you get older and slow down

 

[Eastside Get The Money]

I wouldn’t say don’t date but definitely don’t wed or have kids until 30

 

[badtguy]

This nikka is a damn nerd.

he said the quality of women by 30 is better than the quality of women when you're 20.?

Hell no, I was smashing way badder chicks in my early 20's. You meet women who genuinely want a relationship with you, disregarding your money.

I'm not 30 yet, but the amount of women esp black quality women will never be experienced after college, unless you work in a hospital or live around HBCU'S.

 

[SchrodingersStrapped!]

Be a security blanket brehs....

 

[BmoreGorilla]

That whole your 20s is the time to grow thing is dumb advice. Truth be told we never stop growing

 

[Bonk]

I concur.

It's always better to be in the right mental space and settled before getting in a serious relationship.

 

[Dr. Acula]

How late? I'm thinking about going back too.

late twenties

 

[A1aaa]

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[FSP]

Yeah man, cats got to realize that high quality women get wifed early more times than not. Passing those women up and wilding around until you are in your 30s is a questionable endeavor. If you keep up with yourself in your 30s, yes, you will have access to a a lot of women, but really, most women your age who are unmarried have too much going on, whether its a lot of kids, drama with exs or general craziness. More and more of your friends are going to be married during this age and having kids, so that cuts out on a lot of the 'rolling with the boys' time. The younger women, yea, you might be able to get at them, but the generational gap is going to be there, so it might be a bit harder to relate to them, especially the longer you wait.

I really feel sorry for a lot of the younger generation because they won't get that experience of growing in life with a woman... having that one woman from way back that you just experienced your life with.

Now I'm not saying to rush into marriage. Never force something that's not there. That's how you get caught up in a bad situation. What I am saying though is if you find that jewel of a woman, leave the game alone and don't look back. Wilding out with these party women won't give you anything but headaches and problems in the long-run.

lmao but who do you think is wifing up these chicks early? Successful men in their 30's, often times.

 

[Shorty K]

You meet women who genuinely want a relationship with you, disregarding your money.