Black Engineer advice to young men: Don't date seriously until you're 30

[badtguy]

Depends on the person. If you were a popular, top tier dude in college, you'll never have that many bad chicks available to you again.

But if you were just the average or below average Joe, and then you worked hard and now balling at 30, then you will have access to badder women than what you could pull in college.

I've seen brehs that dealt with basic chicks in college and end up wifing a fine ass braud in their mid/late 20's. Happens all the time.

I know I've smashed plenty of chicks that wouldn't have looked my way if we were in college together because they was fu**ing the athletes and frat boys. I also had several chicks that turned me down college, basically throw me the P years later. My pride wouldn't let me go that route, and plus they were looking for hubbys.

Just the nature of the game. That's why the young cats that are struggling need to keep their head up. IF you work at it, things will get better.

I can get with that. Not all people have the same college experience. College for me was a breeze female wise.

in my experience I met some great women, that I wish I would have taken serious.

 

[badtguy]

Word. One of my closest "bestfriends", like I friend zoned her. Cause she wasn't fukkable, she was a daddys girl too, beautiful face, phat ass,long hair, cook, clean.

Anytime we stopped talking, she'd hit me up, everytime she was about to get into a relationship she'd hit me up like "hey come see" .


she married now look so beautiful. Her dude is lucky, while Im still dating decent women, majority are ran through even my girl. She a ex hoe, every time I joke about hoes doing hoe shyt. She get mad

Lmfao

Some days I just reminisce about all of the potential wifeys during them college years I didn't put in the effort to keep cool with


Thats why when I do come across a girl who preliminarily hits all the right notes now, my eyes light up, for better or worse. shyt is rare as I age. A lot of them are commitment phobic themselves tho always trying to upgrade or wait it out Always said I'm solo dolo if I don't have a potential wifey by 35 no matter what


I just can't get down with the idea of "building myself up", go through the bullshyt dating rituals in my 30s, just to trick whatever I worked for to some gold digger or young chick thats probably gonna divorce me.....I'd rather travel the world solo and make my creative endeavors come to fruition

 

[badtguy]

I'm going to start hanging with my little cousins and nephews

 

[That 808]

My advisor in college kind of said the same thing. Not thirty, but get your career right and dont take women serious until you get there

My ECON teacher in college (Older While lady) Told me the Exact same thing. In you 20's get your career and money right. Date all you want, even get engaged if you feel like it. Just don't give her your last name until you're 30

 

[feelosofer]

My physics teacher said the same thing, basically. This was back in the 80s. He basically said don't get married until you are 30 and dont have children before 35.

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

Damn near everyone told me this at my college graduation. I'm still tripping about women, but I think I need to get my mind and money right first. I need to take everything on alone for now.

Even though my female fleet campaign isn't too shabby and have been dating heavy since i started my career...


I still have conundrums and quarrels with party with two X chromosomes.



Its just how it is fam. All boils down on how you navigate them pooseh waters.



Tread these freaks accordingly



Always skeet enormously.



But delete if she boring, b.




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[chowism]

And how is ones life finished?

Your life is no longer about you and what you want. It's about the kids and your wife so no man should be in a rush to end his life until he is good and ready if he ever does want to do that.

 

[NegaDuck]

Your life is no longer about you and what you want. It's about the kids and your wife so no man should be in a rush to end his life until he is good and ready if he ever does want to do that.

I used to be worth the "don't have kids until t
30", until I had my first 2 9 months apart (2 bms at 25...I wasn't wrapping up smh). Now I'm kinda glad cause I only got 10 years left until they both will be 18...I'll be 45 and free.



I'm an engineer in IT and found a dope ass chick and locked her down. We were friends for 10 years thru both our wildin out days. I couldnt stand to have to turn back into the smut I was in this dating environment...dating now looks like it would suck lol

 

[Astroslik]

this is why I keep my Turkish med student within arms reach

working on your career while keeping my options open with NO committments + having a couple good wifeable women on standby is beautiful brehs

 

[Poitier]

I used to be worth the "don't have kids until t
30", until I had my first 2 9 months apart (2 bms at 25...I wasn't wrapping up smh). Now I'm kinda glad cause I only got 10 years left until they both will be 18...I'll be 45 and free.

Yup

Having babies in that sweet range of 25-35 so you're aren't in your 50s stressed out and chipping aways years of your life expectancy is perfect.

I'm an engineer in IT and found a dope ass chick and locked her down. We were friends for 10 years thru both our wildin out days. I couldnt stand to have to turn back into the smut I was in this dating environment...dating now looks like it would suck lol

I hate you you lucky b*stard friends first definitely the way to do it

 

[Cynic]

This. nikkas really need to start looking serious at 21 if they are mature and the woman they are dating is mature but if you are immature, you need to wait till 27 for real.

The problem is, too many nikkas fukk hoes and it clouds your perception of women and takes awhile to get rid of.

A typical 21 year old man has no assets or disposable income. It's not about maturity
but value and he is at a disadvantage because older men are wealthier providers.
Even women know this. Not only that ...he has less prospects due to his low status

At 21 ..women are more valuable due to their looks and fertility.

The mature choice is to delay instant gratification and stunting your career goals

 

[FSP]

Well that's not everybody's experience.

I've seen it with my own eyes. I've seen dudes couldn't pull anything higher than a 6 in college end up with an 8 later on in life.

Personally, I wasn't pulling much in college and moved to a small town after graduation as a professional breh, and half the chicks in the city were throwing it at me.

Maybe I didn't maximize my potential in college (although I spit at a ton of chicks), but the game came way easier to me as a dude making money then it did as one of 8 million dudes on campus.

I wouldn't say that this is applicable to the majority of men, but it's a sizeable portion of men that end up being able to pull something nicer as a successful professional than as a college student.

Personally, at FSU no one seemed more or less down for anything than in the professional field. Not that I can tell. Women seem to be sluts at all ages. Or prudes in my case

 

[chowism]

I used to be worth the "don't have kids until t
30", until I had my first 2 9 months apart (2 bms at 25...I wasn't wrapping up smh). Now I'm kinda glad cause I only got 10 years left until they both will be 18...I'll be 45 and free.



I'm an engineer in IT and found a dope ass chick and locked her down. We were friends for 10 years thru both our wildin out days. I couldnt stand to have to turn back into the smut I was in this dating environment...dating now looks like it would suck lol

I will be free at 48. Look what you said though, your main benefit was you would get your freedom at 45. That means this is slavery so there is no rush to become a slave.

 

[UpAndComing]

Great advice

 

[GoAggieGo.]

I remember one older engineer breh told some of us......get you a women who an engineer or in college studying engineering too. Yall can piggy back off each other help get each other on jobs.

Them asians do this shyt all the fukking time.

Plus you both will make good money and you can pool your money together and do more with it.

This is exactly what I did. Both me and mines engineers. She got me through the curriculum, if I’m being real.