Wow at some of these misconception or I just got lucky no matter the case it can work.
1). I met my wife when I was 23 I had no kids, she was 27 and had a 8 year old.
2). She has never been on any public assistance
3). Her baby daddy was deported years before we met and has never been back in the states
Now that those things are out the way let me explain, we've been married 10 years, my wife makes over 100k a year with no degree, we have 3 little girls together, we're building a empire worth at least 500k right now, I never had to pay for babysitting my parents watch them when needed.
With that said, you could be missing out due to your misconceptions, not all are worthy but some are. Best discision I've made wouldn't trade it for the world...