2016, I took my ex-wife to court for custody and lost. She went to jail three times during the court proceedings. Mind you, over driving without a license but I saved videos, text messages,, the whole nine. I'm the educated one with a stable profession, she was and still is living her second childhood. I had it in writing that I didn't want child support from her. Child services was involved in my ex's household. She had two more kids after our three. I know I'm not the only breh that fought for custody but short of the woman doing blow in front of the judge, it's damn near impossible to win.
In my case, I truly believe that given her situation, no job, SNAP and WIC for the kids, etc, that it became more than just my kids here, the judge unfortunately looked at everything and thought if they remove this child support from this household, everything is going down. Almost all the reasons that I went to court in the first place have come to fruition. Youngest daughter deals with trauma from her upbringing. Imagine on your weekend with your then 14 year old, her calling her mother to check on her and make sure she's OK? That's wild and sad to me. My twins, while financially taking care of themselves, are living lives that I didn't think they'd be living. Not bad lives but they both graduated high school early. Premed and law was the destination. They both dropped out of IUPUI here in Indiana. To the credit of one, she's back in college but man, a lot of shyt would be different had I won the case. Sigh