Are u still holding out for marriage and a family or given up hope?

[stave]

I dunno and honestly I don't really care. You can be with someone and not get married, and I'm leaning towards just doing that.

I lose interest in people pretty quickly so I accept my part in that, but I also know most of these women don't interest me to the point I want to be serious with them. Just because you don't want to marry them doesn't mean you want to play the field and can't be faithful during your time together. They just aren't "it".

I have more to add but maybe later

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I'm 33 with no kids.

It's over for me.

It's not gonna happen I'm too old.

My sisters having a kid tho I'll encourage my nephew to do it when he get older

Really? If I don’t have any children by age 40, then my ship has definitely sailed. Being 33 is still young, especially if you’re in shape. fukk being an old ass dad though.

 

[Shadow King]

I'm 33 with no kids.

It's over for me.

It's not gonna happen I'm too old.

My sisters having a kid tho I'll encourage my nephew to do it when he get older

You're a man not a woman you not too old

I get this but..


this part makes 0 sense. most of the most powerful and wealthiest (real wealth - not some random 6 figure breh with a run of the mill financed luxury car) people in the world take part in marriage and create families. This basic ass fukk women, get money mentality shows you don't have a thorough understanding of how wealth is built and maintained. not to mention the shyt is completely opposite of pro-black as family is one of the most important foundations for black community to thrive.

But do they always "build together"? Or do they find success and marry later? It's probably a mixed bag leaning towards the latter.

 

[semicko82]

It's not jaded it's reality...

I don't know where people get the idea that adding someone else to their life...gives them more options...and more freedom...

It is not about whether or not she is a good woman, it's about the struggle for power and control in a relationship. People want things...

It is the same for women too...

I would tell any woman...if you really wanna be some shyt in your life besides someone's girlfriend or wife or mother...don't get with a guy while you are young...spread that p*ssy around..and get your rocks off....

Do what you gotta do...and when your older and done doing what you gotta do...

You gonna find the male version of you at 35

Someone like me...

And Ima be like..."Well this ain't an ain't shyt bytch...she did something with herself besides getting knocked, cooking dinner and going to PTA meetings..."

And I'ma fukk with her and we gonna do cool fly shyt together cause we ain't gonna be none of these broke ass let's build together motherfukkers...

I already built my shyt...she built hers...we gonna go fukk off some money cause we ain't got no kids and we can travel and do all types of cool shyt...

Now I'ma enjoy a mature stable relationship with a motherfukker that has something and I ain't gonna try to knock her up and all this wack shyt because I wanna have a heir cause I maxed out at 28. If she gotta pull a 55 hour work week...I ain't being like..."Baby you need to be at home..." nah bytch...go get your bread and I'll see you next week...cause I have my own life...

It's 2018...

It ain't 1955...

Nobody is leaving their momma house at 19 getting the equivalent of a $20 hr job and a wife and a house and having a pension ready for them at 64 and going off into the sunset...

People gonna move and hustle and fight and claw for their money and as a man...you shouldn't have stragglers...you shouldn't have to explain why you gotta do this and why you gotta do that...

You should do what you gotta do because nobody else is gonna do it for you...

And no woman wanna hear why you can't do something...or why you don't have this or why you don't have that...

Women ain't getting with no man because of her heart or because you make her feel warm and fuzzy inside...

Black men need to get off this "I gotta have a wife and kids..." shyt....get your money first Black man....cause motherfukkers ain't gonna take care of you...

And that relationship you get into at 28...can be the death of you at 45...if you wanna take that risk in this economy go the fukk ahead...

Ain't nothing like a single stable Black man with money...ain't fukking nothing in this world

let the church say AMEN

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

Most men have trouble having kids by 28.


THere no benefit for men to get married really.

To each its own tho.

 

[African Peasant]

I'm 33 with no kids.

It's over for me.

It's not gonna happen I'm too old.

My sisters having a kid tho I'll encourage my nephew to do it when he get older

You're not young but it's not too late.

If you were 38, it would be another story.

It seems that you're looking for an excuse.

 

[semicko82]

You're not young but it's not too late.

If you were 38, it would be another story.

It seems that you're looking for an excuse.

38 is not old

 

[Dont@Me]

i never had hope for any of that shyt in the first place

I legitimately never genuinely entertained the thought of a married life

My brain doesn't work that way. I think it's because of the hostile household i grew up in with divorced parents.
I do see the beauty of having a kid, but I'm not financially stable enough for that. Kids love me more than their own damn fathers
If I don't have a kid and i just did big brother program and entertained and taught other children and made them have fun, I feel like that would be satisfying enough.
I think the whole "need to have MY OWN kid" is an ego problem when I can do as previously mentioned or even adopt

 

[SuperPawgHunter]

I'm 37, and have no kids.

There is a war between my logical side, and my 'human' side.

It is very difficult for me to engage in things my mind subconscious deem extremely risky.

Imagine seeing a wet floor sign, and trying to force yourself to run across that wet floor.

That is how I see marriage and parenthood.

Yes, I feel the same about kids.

You can end a marriage, but unless you're shytty ass individual, those kids are going to be there.

I just fear I'm going to roll some gutterballs. At least with a woman, you have some level of control over what you get. Kids? You can raise them motherfukkers right, and still end up with Magic Johnson's big ol', flagrant son. Even if it isn't birthing a 'mo, you can easily end up with someone disappointing. I'll admit to have ridiculously high standards for my own self, and I know I will expect AT LEAST the same from my kids.

 

[DirtyMoney]

I’m male 33 with a child & not married.
Do you. Don’t focus on any relationship
Get money. Women & options come with it
You’ll have your pick if u hustle & stack

 

[mortuus est]

dont think 'ill get married, but i want a family someday

 

[LoStranger]

I'm at a crossroads of sorts. I really want a wife to build with and at the very least a companion to share my life with but we live in crazy times were I'm not sure if that's possible for a large amount of people.

My goal is to find a like minded soul mate to love and build if not I'm just going to stack money and try to leave the country. I don't see any other way to live logically. I'm definitely not trying to be around multiple random American women. These chicks r hurting and got fire in their eyes looking for a meal.

I do get lonely tho holding out for this like minded spiritual connection that's suppose to be waiting for me. I don't think it exist anymore.

Time will tell I guess. I'm hoping once I move I'll have a good dating pool of women with diverse backgrounds and personalities but I'm starting to think woman everywhere r the same because of social media influence.

Dr X and anybody else who wants to answer please tell me what is the benefit to having a family and children these days? Furthermore there are over 7 billion people on the planet do we really need more?

 

[Mr swag]

You shouldn’t even start thinking about marriage until you are 30

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Dr X and anybody else who wants to answer please tell me what is the benefit to having a family and children these days? Furthermore there are over 7 billion people on the planet do we really need more?

If we’re keeping it all the way real, it’s mainly vanity.

There are plenty of orphans who could be adopted by couples who spends thousands on IVF treatments. But they persist on having their own children. Plain and simple it’s about people wanting their own version of themselves.

I myself am guilty of feeling this way. I don’t have any children yet but I would prefer if they were biologically my own. I’m way too selfish to entertain the idea of taking on someone else’s children. Salute to those who do adopt because that is a truly selfless act (as long as they’re not being exploited that is.)

 

[LoStranger]

If we’re keeping it all the way real, it’s mainly vanity.

There are plenty of orphans who could be adopted by couples who spends thousands on IVF treatments. But they persist on having their own children. Plain and simple it’s about people wanting their own version of themselves.

I myself am guilty of feeling this way. I don’t have any children yet but I would prefer if they were biologically my own. I’m way too selfish to entertain the idea of taking on someone else’s children. Salute to those who do adopt because that is a truly selfless act (as long as they’re not being exploited that is.)

Precisely friend....I was just about to post something similar but was interested in reading people's responses first. It's essentially ego and cowardice (fear of dying alone) which is driving this......When you objectively think about human reproduction there is NO tangible benefits to having children in 2018 and beyond...Not only is it hurting humans it's also hurting other species and the planets ecosystems.....But people don't care all they want is a little "mini me" to show off to their girlfriends and parents.... "Hey look everyone I'm pregnant somebody chose me, herderp!!"

This is why the older and older I get the more and more I get happy when I see human suffering on the television....