As A Man How do u make amends with never being married or having kids?
I was married at 31, daughter at 31.
There is no timetable on marriage and children though, too many people rush into these things and are unprepared for them and become shytty spouses and bad parents.
I think there is a natural sense of "i`m getting older, i want to settle down" that is a healthy thing if you want a family. I gotta say, i had a good time in my 20's, but at 30 after having an unsatisfying 3 year relationship, i knew i wanted to find a partner and start building a family.
I was so glad i finally got outta that bad relationship, because i was able to find the woman of my dreams and have an amazing family to come home to every day because i refused to continue to be unhappy
There is no timetable on marriage and children though, too many people rush into these things and are unprepared for them and become shytty spouses and bad parents.
I think there is a natural sense of "i`m getting older, i want to settle down" that is a healthy thing if you want a family. I gotta say, i had a good time in my 20's, but at 30 after having an unsatisfying 3 year relationship, i knew i wanted to find a partner and start building a family.
I was so glad i finally got outta that bad relationship, because i was able to find the woman of my dreams and have an amazing family to come home to every day because i refused to continue to be unhappy
People only share their life highlights on Social media, don't let it get you confused.
Not saying they're not happy, but i know a lot of unhappy couples who go through the facebook facade of presenting an image of a relationship
African Peasant
Veteran
Yep. Men enjoyed the sexual liberation of women; then they realized that they were supposed to marry those same women 10 years later. They became scared of their own creation. It's a trade off : men have a bigger access to sexuality before marriage, but when come the time to get married, they find themselves with a large number of thots.
Of course, you have some innocent bystanders getting hit in the process.
African Peasant
Veteran
30 is not late, not at all. However, at that age you should start making preparation. My father had me at 30; I am his first kid.
But don't wait to be 40 to have your first kid. You need to grow up with your kid.
If you don't have a particular problem, 35 should be the limit you give yourself. If you have your first kid at 35, you'll be 65 when he/she turns 30. It's a good thing.
Because you can make up all kinda shyt, but you cannot deny that human nature gears us to procreate.
I`m not saying everyone has to have that life, but i think at some point people who choose to be single forever, at a point in life there is going to be some regret. Knowing your life didn't amount to a lot outside of having your own experiences that go away once you're gone
It's easy to have that "i got all the time in the world, no one to answer to and live it up" mindset at, 20, 30 or 40. But when you're 70, have no one who gives a fukk about you and end up dying alone, that's a cold way to go
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
There's gonna be regret no matter what you do, because you'll always think about what you didn't get to do because you chose the other path.
But even outside of "human nature", marriage and kids is not a catch-all remedy for single people like people tend to think -
which is why I said "still" in my question. That kind of thinking is antiquated.
You know what's worse than being single at 70?
Being married at 70 to someone you don't like being around anymore.
You know what's worse than being childless at 70?
Having children, but they still don't give a fucc about you and still end up dying alone.
(sidebar: everybody dies alone anyway)
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TROLL IS LIFE
Nah
I just don't have any crab in the barrels friends or people who hate women and black women and shyt
Of course I know that but a lot of these people I actually know from college and from coworkers.
Of course every couple has their issue but the coli acts like they are never getting married and you are a sucker if you are in a relationship.
Or maybe just the people who are married or in happy relationships don't vocalize it enough
If you have a decent job and in good health, you should be cool. Just because you're not married doesn't me you're unhappy.
That's why I believe it's important to live by family. Black people are communal. We need support systems. Weren't made like cacs to live across the country from each other and only get together for the holidays.
That's why I believe it's important to live by family. Black people are communal. We need support systems. Weren't made like cacs to live across the country from each other and only get together for the holidays.
BrokePhiBroke
Superstar
No one said anything about a second child childhood.
I meant that a woman is content and comfortable, not this desperate narrative you all try to plague the innanets with.
I will do me as always, and y'all keep missing out on women in your age range because y'all feel they're all used all hags then complain about it.
But nice dialogue with you.
BrokePhiBroke
Superstar
Not listening to that...if you wanna break it down cool. If not, cool too.