Be honest brehs & brehettes...how many of y'all just don't see yourself getting married?

[*L*E*G*A*C*Y*]

I'm 26 going on 27, and I only met one woman in my entire life that was marriage material.
She wound up throwing me in the bushes, so I doubt I'm gonna get married barring a miracle. shyt isn't worth the headache or the heartache these days.

Pickings is slim for Black men that only date Black women, our sisters are so destroyed. Looking for a Black woman that woman that is racially aware and has knowledge of self is like looking for a needle in a haystack in a yellow convention on the sun. I refuse to have kids with a dumb bytch nevermind marry one.

The bolded is how I feel.

Especially as a Nigerian man? You know how hard it is to find a good Nigerian woman in America? Or a West Indian woman? (I'm West Indian as well)Shieet. I don't even see myself marrying an AA woman...sorry, there are just too many cultural differences between AAs and Africans and I just don't see a marriage like that working. And the hell with marrying a white bytch...f*ck that. I couldn't handle that BS.

 

[MikelArteta]

When your grandparents were married even parents.

There was no tinder where you can find someone more attractive with the next swipe, there was no online dating where you are like at a buffet and can search by race and height , there was no Facebook to snoop or chat up to a old ex, there was no Instagram filled with attractive people a DM away. Women didn't have a million SIMPs worldwide feeding their ego.

Nowadays women got 50 men texting them good morning, thousand of followers on Instagram, in their phone and headphones in their ear when out and about. Saying anything may be a harrasment in this generation.

Gramps probably only had to compete with a few other men, now you gotta compete with hundreds maybe thousands for her attention.

Have a fight with your partner or break up on tinder a hour later, its never been easier to have that new car smell.

My folks have been married for 30+ years. That doesn't happen anymore...like you said.

I think my generation is just messed up and really that type of companionship and those type of values don't exist anymore.

 

[Poitier]

I plan on living past 40 so yes.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Marriage is awesome when you have someone whos really in your corner and lives to serve you.

Sad friends would rather live for the money instead of their families.

Last night my wife and i had a brief debate at 3am this morning as to why my son was crying and squealing like a madman. I told her.

*go get the milk out the fridge *

"but he just drank milk not to long ago "

Babe? Get the milk, hes hot and wants to drink something cold

Ok, stay here with him

(son stops all that ridiculous squealing that woke me up when he hears someone with Bass in that voice aka Da da)

(wife comes back with bottle and hands it to me)

(gives bottle to son)

(silence)

Goes back to bed

THAT LIFE

 

[Mr210]

No time soon

 

[Timeis$]

I'm 26 going on 27, and I only met one woman in my entire life that was marriage material.
She wound up throwing me in the bushes, so I doubt I'm gonna get married barring a miracle. shyt isn't worth the headache or the heartache these days.

Pickings is slim for Black men that only date Black women, our sisters are so destroyed. Looking for a Black woman that woman that is racially aware and has knowledge of self is like looking for a needle in a haystack in a yellow convention on the sun. I refuse to have kids with a dumb bytch nevermind marry one.

I feel you breh. We the same age.

But Breh all our sisters aren't destroyed don't say that man. Where you live? It's like when sisters say all black men are in jail, have babymomas, or don't want black men. Don't feed into the gender stereotypes. I hate this BM vs BW war. In our grandparents time BM and BW didn't hate each other and supported each other. I think from both sides we need more faith.

Finding a goodmate is hard for most. But my current chick and I've been dating for almost 3 years. She's like a dream. She's sexy, smart, funny, sweet (every morning makes me breakfast), cooks, and exercises. So don't give up man. But as a man you gotta be ready to get that one.

I think a lot of people don't know what they really want in relationships so they don't work. Marrying a IG thot isn't going to work. My girl doesn't even have IG. Also just getting into a relationship because a girl is attractive doesn't work either.

I genuinely enjoy being around my girl and not even talking about sex .

 

[concise]

In my ocean analogy, unconditional love is represented by the ABYSS, A lot of people have tried to swim down in the ABYSS or the DARKER parts of love, but the pressure of trying to love somebody for their darker side is to much. You say unconditional love is commitment, compromise and courage? which is true since it's unconditional, but that is easy compared to trying to love the darker stuff. Can you love your spouse if they cheat on you? can you love your spouse if they murder somebody? can you love your spouse if they threw acid in your mothers face? can you love your spouse if they RAPED or molested your children or other peoples children? that's the true test of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, because you should be able to love somebody under ANY CONDITION.

You must be insane.

 

[okocharuud]

Especially as a Nigerian man? You know how hard it is to find a good Nigerian woman in America? Or a West Indian woman? (I'm West Indian as well)Shieet

I feels you breh...now think of a nigerian nikka in scotland tryna find a traditional bish

Like my moms said "these girls are easy to fukk, not marry...go home and I'll find one for you"

 

[MikelArteta]

Yup
Average woman of today is unworthy to ever walk down the aisle


Its never been easier to get sex
Its never been easier to get a dime chick with big titties and a big ass

But Ita never been harder to find a chick whose loyal and respectful that you can bring home to mom's

A

I feels you breh...now think of a nigerian nikka in scotland tryna find a traditional bish

Like my moms said "these girls are easy to fukk, not marry...go home and I'll find one for you"

 

[saint25225]

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[concise]

naw i'm in my right mind fam, are you confused about the definition of unconditional love?​

I don't care for the concept anyway.

 

[philmonroe]

My s/o and I already said we're not getting "married". We might just have a private ceremony and give each other rings or whatever. I rather spend all that money on a place to live, debts or a kickass vacation.

Why don't y'all just step that $$$ game up? Just saying I know plenty of people that didn't have no wedding or place to live/debts/kickass vacation decisions.

I'm 26 going on 27, and I only met one woman in my entire life that was marriage material.
She wound up throwing me in the bushes, so I doubt I'm gonna get married barring a miracle. shyt isn't worth the headache or the heartache these days.

Pickings is slim for Black men that only date Black women, our sisters are so destroyed. Looking for a Black woman that woman that is racially aware and has knowledge of self is like looking for a needle in a haystack in a yellow convention on the sun. I refuse to have kids with a dumb bytch nevermind marry one.

Man why type all this elaborate shyt just say you can't get girls you want cause your money funny, looks ain't right, etc. Stop all this you can't find stuff that is very common all you have to do is hang around the right crew. Now if you live in shytsville ill give you a pass but if you like @*L*E*G*A*C*Y* and stay in NY or some shyt FOH.

 

[Poitier]

Man why type all this elaborate shyt just say you can't get girls you want cause your money funny, looks ain't right

 

[philmonroe]

im just being real cats be like I can't find a chick with 2 legs that like me and some other weird or regular shyt. Its like come on dude stop the bullshyt. I know we online but only a fool or another nikka that want you to co sign his shyt can't see these stories don't be matching up. Guarantee you follow most of these cats that be kicking this shyt around you'll see the real reasons why it ain't poppin and it don't got shyt to do with looking for a chick with an African medallion or whatever stupid shyt they pumping as a reason today.

 

[XII]

If I can find a chick that meets the ten commandments of reinscarf then maybe I'd consider it .

You really tried to slip out the thread without dropping these?
Drop.

Guarantee you follow most of these cats that be kicking this shyt around you'll see the real reasons why it ain't poppin and it don't got shyt to do with looking for a chick with an African medallion or whatever stupid shyt they pumping as a reason today.