I had three experiences living with men in my life. 1st one was in grad school. I shared a house with three dudes in Canada. 2nd time was with my ex.
3rd time was with a good friend of mine.
All three experiences taught me my triggers. You learn a lot about urself living with others.
My advice:
-Know thyself
-Dont take each other for granted
-Discuss who does what instead of assuming
-Also discuss what you absolutely cannot deal with
-Discuss your expectations and if they aren’t met then discuss that too.
-Dont think your shyt doesn’t stink because you can be irritating to live with just like she could be.
-Respect each other’s boundaries.
-Make sure the living space is big enough for the two of you.
-Have time to be apart and time to be together.
-Do not give up social connections with others to suffocate one another.
-Sometimes you will run out of shyt to say to one another. That’s okay and normal. You don’t have to fill the silence.
-Separate TVs.
-Learn each other’s needs and be honest about them with each other and yourselves.
-Have a good balance of going out and staying in. Also don’t become resentful if either party goes out sometimes without one another.
-Keep other folks outside of your business and relationship. People don’t want you happy. A lot of advice these days is riddled with joy-killing cynicism and bitter agendas. They don’t want your relationship to work b/c if it does, it reflects negatively on some people’s inability to be in one. Take all advice with a grain of salt and keep some shyt private. Not everybody needs to know everything.
-If you gon cheat or think u being cute by being sneaky, it ain’t worth it.
-If she has shown u red flags already, don’t do it. Moving in, IN SPITE of the ass she has shown you is reinforcing bad behavior.
nikka was like damn did a fat nikka sneak in here and shyt?
