HONEST QUESTION: Are You Comfortable With Getting Old & Dying Alone?

[analog]

I despise the idea of being responsible for another adult's happiness, so in that case, I'd absolutely be comfortable (and happy!) dying alone then in a miserable relationship with a miserable woman. I don't feel the need, nor have the desire to have anymore kids to the point I'd be willing to sacrifice my happiness.

With that said, I'd ideally prefer a like minded partner whose company I adore to grow old with

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

I just don’t want to decompose in a room for days and leave it I want my next of kin to know

 

[Bossino]

Plenty of men in shape who make money have good women. Don’t you care about a woman’s appearance? Would you date an unattractive fat woman with a great personality? There is no such thing as dating just for personality if you are building a life together. Mortgages, insurance, food, utilities don’t care about your personality.

I understand your point but I think you're missing my underlying concern. I'd date 5 with all the personality attributes I'm looking for and I consider myself a 7 at my best 6 at my worst. I'm in shape so no I wouldn't date any fat woman. My concern is if she doesn't build/growth with me from a base level I'll never fully trust her, and there's always gonna be a high floor/entitlement to some degree because she came to know me when I was rising, but if an unexpected injury, or job loss, etc. occurs where I take a step back how do I know she'll want to work through that. When you have someone from those struggle phases you can always hit the "Shiiiiit we've seen worse we got this", but when the meet you got it altogether that's the standard, not the expectation, and I don't feel comfortable with that.

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

I’m genuinely saddened by a lot of theses replies

I’ve seen enough death of loved ones to know that I don’t want to die alone, I want my people, my wife and my kids there.

What an incredibly sad way to go, alone in yo draws by yourself

 

[Bossino]

I despise the idea of being responsible for another adult's happiness, so in that case, I'd absolutely be comfortable (and happy!) dying alone then in a miserable relationship with a miserable woman. I don't feel the need, nor have the desire to have anymore kids to the point I'd be willing to sacrifice my happiness.

With that said, I'd ideally prefer a like minded partner whose company I adore to grow old with

This is where I'm at, though ITT I see a lotta "man I'm more worried about death". Ironically I don't fear death I fear pain though so a slow painful death ain't it, but if I died tomorrow I'd be unbothered. From my perspective if life ain't fair why do people fear death fairly simply process. I assume those who fear death enjoy or value life/aspects of life far more than I do.

 

[Bossino]

I’m genuinely saddened by a lot of theses replies

I’ve seen enough death of loved ones to know that I don’t want to die alone, I want my people, my wife and my kids there.

What an incredibly sad way to go, alone in yo draws by yourself

A lot of people are far more unhappier than they let on, and for many that stems from how they feel with/because/around others. It's mad interesting I value genuine connections and real friendships, but I can also count how many I've had of those on one hand. I'm not pressed to continuously search through haystacks for few needles.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

I understand your point but I think you're missing my underlying concern. I'd date 5 with all the personality attributes I'm looking for and I consider myself a 7 at my best 6 at my worst. I'm in shape so no I wouldn't date any fat woman. My concern is if she doesn't build/growth with me from a base level I'll never fully trust her, and there's always gonna be a high floor/entitlement to some degree because she came to know me when I was rising, but if an unexpected injury, or job loss, etc. occurs where I take a step back how do I know she'll want to work through that. When you have someone from those struggle phases you can always hit the "Shiiiiit we've seen worse we got this", but when the meet you got it altogether that's the standard, not the expectation, and I don't feel comfortable with that.

If you believe that thoughts create reality, then that is what you will end up with. Be upfront and straightforward. Most people don’t ask blunt questions before marriage. Talk about money. You’ll notice how she feels about money when dating. I’m not talking about going out to dinner. I mean she’s asking for Chanel bags, and expecting you to pay her bills, or give her money.

In that case



Just don’t go into it thinking there is a limited supply of women. If one throws up red flags, get rid of her.

 

[Ashley Banks]

I’m not afraid of dying alone because that’s inevitable but I am afraid of being old and not being able to care for myself and having no one to make sure I’m okay. For example, my great grandfather is in the early stages of dementia and he has trouble with regular tasks so the whole family works together taking care of him, we take turns grocery shopping for him, hiring care staff for him, making sure his bills get paid etc sometimes I think about what it would be like for him if he had no one and just ended up in a shytty care home.

 

[Mike Ock]

Hell no. The feeling of creating a family unit is and watching a little one grow into themselves is a great experience.

It can be rationalized anyway you want to, but I've been alone and single and I am currently a father and husband. The latter dynamic > me being alone and single.

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

A lot of people are far more unhappier than they let on, and for many that stems from how they feel with/because/around others. It's mad interesting I value genuine connections and real friendships, but I can also count how many I've had of those on one hand. I'm not pressed to continuously search through haystacks for few needles.

i used to feel the same way, fukk these nikkas I’m good on my own....then your fam start dying off and when you see them at the hospital and notice their surroundings...rooms full of patients left alone for days, no flowers, no cards, no old coworkers stopping thru to reminisce on old times, no laughter, no yelling at the kids to sit down it’s a damn hospital, nobody but that over worked nurse tending to you...and all she thinking about is checking on yo ass real quick cuz her shift almost over

that shyt ain’t the way to go out in this world brehs It’s sad and painful to see.

but y’all do y’all I guess.

 

[analog]

This is where I'm at, though ITT I see a lotta "man I'm more worried about death". Ironically I don't fear death I fear pain though so a slow painful death ain't it, but if I died tomorrow I'd be unbothered. From my perspective if life ain't fair why do people fear death fairly simply process. I assume those who fear death enjoy or value life/aspects of life far more than I do.

It's funny you should say that. I hardly see those that fear death doing everything they can to make the most of their current one. They're not out there taking risks, pursuing their dreams, seeing the world, etc.

Perhaps it's the fact they've lead an unfulfilling life that drives the fear as they won't be able to make the most of it before it ends? I don't know...

Personally, it's when I left religion that I became my most happiest. I'm no longer concerned with a hereafter, or the idea of eternal damnation, nor do I let religious constraints hold me back/dictate how I should live my life. It's been absolutely liberating

 

[Cat piss martini]

Caskets dont come in bunkbed.
we all die alone.

 

[SATAN]

Who gives a fukk if I'm alone or not when I die? I'll be DEAD anyway nikka


I'ma be haunting my exes like

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

the facts. I don't want nobody to cry for my corpse for I'm already gone from existence.

 

[Elle Driver]

I don’t know if I would wanna die around my family. Seeing a family member die traumatized me.