If You are in Your Mid 30's, You are Middle Aged...

[Reptile]

Im 28 and have nothing to show for it. Sometimes I feel like aint no point in pursuing what I like because I just started almost 2 years ago. I have fun but I put in no pain or nothing. Wish I wouldve done when I wanted to instead of fukking around playing video games all damn day.

 

[Shadow King]

keep making excuse for yourself and they become self-fulfilling prophecies
I didn't say a millionaire driving a Bentley but financially stable
you can't make 45-75 a yr
I feel like that is attainable for anybody
u can drive a truck, work for ups, be a manager in retail and make that
have some health benefits and shyt

The vast majority of men by 25 are not supportinf a family, and that's by design. You're telling people to work certain jobs for that reason and that reason only as if there isn't more to life than that and that everyone is supposed to do the same thing.

And no, 45-75K isn't supporting a family, so again, be stuck in 1993, brehs.

 

[Van Cleef]

keep making excuse for yourself and they become self-fulfilling prophecies
I didn't say a millionaire driving a Bentley but financially stable
you can't make 45-75 a yr
I feel like that is attainable for anybody
u can drive a truck, work for ups, be a manager in retail and make that
have some health benefits and shyt

$45-75k a yr is not financially stable

 

[Diyhai]

Just being realistic.. I'm going by how me and people I came up with made out.. None of us had it poppin before 30.. I'm pretty sure there are black folks that have it together before then but they are the exception and not the rule.

you can work retail and become a manager
if u can't work somewhere 4-5 yrs and make like 40-50k you not trying

 

[Uncouth Savage]

One size doesnt fit all, everyone is truly the expert in their own path. They can take notes from others and use them and throw them away as needed, which I think is what we're trying to do, maybe. I'm just not a fan of advice(outside of moral/ethics) saying we should all follow a path that's usually centered on money. Alot of families struggled with the kids and still had great outcomes in life years later.

Alot of the advice is based on having unlimited liesure time for yourself. I'm not against liesure either, it's a great thing, but money and selfish pursuits(sp?) can blind us to other kinds of wisdom that harship and struggle teaches us.

I can agree with that. I think where each generation goes wrong is that they think they understand what the current young people are going through.
Technology, laws, jobs, environment, dating etc is WAY different now than it was 10 or 20 years ago.

It is very difficult times, especially for those stuck in long ago mindsets of "manhood".

Threadstarter is basically saying he going all the way, no matter what, for his family.
He will work to death.

I think we have to be super careful of the advice we give, and make sure its not some shyt we theorise, yet based on reality and facts.

I agree though.

 

[Diyhai]

The vast majority of men by 25 are not supportinf a family, and that's by design. You're telling people to work certain jobs for that reason and that reason only as if there isn't more to life than that and that everyone is supposed to do the same thing.

And no, 45-75K isn't supporting a family, so again, be stuck in 1993, brehs.

you can't support a family with 60k?

 

[Diyhai]

$45-75k a yr is not financially stable

where you at u can't live with 60k?

 

[ba'al]

Im 28 and have nothing to show for it. Sometimes I feel like aint no point in pursuing what I like because I just started almost 2 years ago. I have fun but I put in no pain or nothing. Wish I wouldve done when I wanted to instead of fukking around playing video games all damn day.

What is it you would like to do exactly?

 

[Reptile]

$45-75k a yr is not financially stable

Finically stable is how you manage your money, not what youre actually making. You live comfortably making 45k - 75k.

 

[Shadow King]

you can't support a family with 60k?

You really are stuck in 1993, hell the fukk no

where you at u can't live with 60k?

No niqqa where are where you can?

A single person can survive on 60K in some places but that wasn't your premise. You and yours ain't living off 60K.

 

[Amo Husserl]

You still breathing.
Do something about it.

 

[Shadow King]

Finically stable is how you manage your money, not what youre actually making. You live comfortably making 45k - 75k.

 

[Dameon Farrow]

Im 28 and have nothing to show for it. Sometimes I feel like aint no point in pursuing what I like because I just started almost 2 years ago. I have fun but I put in no pain or nothing. Wish I wouldve done when I wanted to instead of fukking around playing video games all damn day.

It's literally never too late to turn shyt around. At 28 it def isn't too late. It gets harder as you age for sure. But you aren't out of the race until you decide you are. Corny but true. Take shyt on tlr with a grain of salt. A lot of defeatism gets pushed on here.

 

[Reptile]

What is it you would like to do exactly?

Making beats/composing scores and shyt. Been wanting to do it since I was 18 (probably before then). I have fun and get lost in it sometimes but Im also easily discouraged by my age and how late I started.

 

[Gloxina]

Use to be the case but more people living to be 80...just know 30s is the cut off to do what you need to cause once you hit 40s and you working at Home Depot and shyt....

Now this is real. It isn’t over if you didn’t figure it out in your 20s, but definitely have it figured out/be on track by 40


My uncle retired at 50 and stays screaming at us about finances because he expects us to retire early too