Take the L out of lover, cuz it's over brother
Tho seriously if you don't mind dating younger or your standards aren't that rigid it still could happen, wouldn't hang my hat on it tho
Is It Worth It To Still Try To Date/Find Love After 40?
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Tho seriously if you don't mind dating younger or your standards aren't that rigid it still could happen, wouldn't hang my hat on it tho
Same, I realized in h.s. actively looking will only lead to an L because you'll overlook red flags out of desperation. If it happens it happens if not whatever, but a lot of people are hard pressed for a family to give their life meaning, when life is largely meaningless. Just salvage what joy you can
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Take the L out of lover, cuz it's over brother
Tho seriously if you don't mind dating younger or your standards aren't that rigid it still could happen, wouldn't hang my hat on it tho
What do I do if it won't happen for me?
Bruh I'm 22 and based on my personality, interests, standards, and the way society is trending I don't see happening for myself. The economic regression post 2008 has highlighted just how conditional love/affection from women is. Every women likes a guy with shyt going for him and in decent shape, but I can see the vast majority wouldn't spit in men's direction when they're on the way (barring top flight men in looks). I'm not mad at that it's their nature but I'm also not tolerant, Hence after I reach a point where I'm done with school and making 60,000+ and completely self sufficient I'm not looking. The way things are trending I'll be 26-27 when that happens. AKA when women start to worry about settling down. The same way a woman doesn't want to be a man's second choice when asked to prom. I'm not interested in a women who had to learn that dependability, intellect, and character matter along with money looks. If they not checking for me when I'm broke, I'm not checking for them when I level up for anything serious because I'll never truly know the authenticity of their affection.
To answer your question, my plan is to explore my interests and do as much as I can with my life. Granted I'm comfortable alone, and when given the option more of a homebody. If you don't do well alone for long periods of time try to work on it and gain a better sense of self. Take personality tests, figure out what you can't handle. If you need to be with someone or want a family that bad, you'll have to settle. If you're okay with the possibility of dying alone push on explore your interests, travel, have fun, try new shyt for the fukk of it.
Personally I may just adopt in my late 30s if I want to raise a kid, but I'll take like a young black boy as opposed to a baby, and try my best to make sure they don't end up a statistic and let them know someone's rooting for them even when it seems the world ain't. I see that as better than settling with a woman that wouldn't of wanted me before money, or that I find vapid, or that already has kids of her own, etc.
Simply just do what you love to kill the time, salvage what joy you can from life, don't have to tie yourself to someone you don't truly love and doesn't truly love you to do that.
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People in general annoy me and women you date are more annoying than regular people because they always want something.
Social conditioning got people thinking like that; if you don’t find your “soulmate “ then it’s something wrong with youIs being alone that tough for people. Maybe I'm an outlier personality wise but y'all SAWFTer than Charmin
The ironic part is most people never do, they simply find someone they're willing to "make it work" with. Very few people have the hand in glove theatrical relationship.
I'm fairly happy with the way I structure my life and for me to change any of that hence compromise would take an added benefit (net positive) of the likes I have not yet encountered. I'm not saying I would never do it. I am saying I haven't had reason to do so as of now. Moreover if it's worth it, it wouldn't feel like work to me I'd be happy to do it, but again I've yet to come across a woman that's worth it and with societal trends and predominant female nature, I wouldn't hang my hat on it happening.
I'm an open communicator, so I'll always let anyone know what's up if they ask, or if I feel it's important for them to know even when unprompted. But I've found the vast majority of women, hell people aren't like that and will let things they hate maintain a close proximity to them. You can call it selfish but it couldn't be me, I can only compromise when it objectively makes sense, I'm a huge efficiency/rationality guy so I realize that alone puts me at odds with women. But that's okay. I just get sex when I need it and enjoy my own company in the time outside of that
I actually feel lucky that I don't have bouts of severe/considerable loneliness, but that's because I don't feel like there's anything of substance I'm missing out on
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DatLBCGuy562
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all facts. repped.The ironic part is most people never do, they simply find someone they're willing to "make it work" with. Very few people have the hand in glove theatrical relationship.
I'm fairly happy with the way I structure my life and for me to change any of that hence compromise would take an added benefit (net positive) of the likes I have not yet encountered. I'm not saying I would never do it. I am saying I haven't had reason to do so as of now. Moreover if it's worth it, it wouldn't feel like work to me I'd be happy to do it, but again I've yet to come across a woman that's worth it and with societal trends and predominant female nature, I wouldn't hang my hat on it happening.
I'm an open communicator, so I'll always let anyone know what's up if they ask, or if I feel it's important for them to know even when unprompted. But I've found the vast majority of women, hell people aren't like that and will let things they hate maintain a close proximity to them. You can call it selfish but it couldn't be me, I can only compromise when it objectively makes sense, I'm a huge efficiency/rationality guy so I realize that alone puts me at odds with women. But that's okay. I just get sex when I need it and enjoy my own company in the time outside of that
I actually feel lucky that I don't have bout of severe/considerable loneliness, but that's because I don't feel like there's anything of substance I'm missing out on
All the older guys that I know that got married in their 40s got women in their late 20s or early 30s. They said it was easier and more peaceful.
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I want kids... my relationships with women have been pretty good though. I’ve learned a lot from each one I’ve dated.
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The right woman at 40 doesn't need you.
She wants to share your best moments with you and invite you into hers.
She will be your best friend and personal comedian.
Life is too short and she knows it and makes sure to cut off negative things and promote joy and peace of mind.
She wants to share your best moments with you and invite you into hers.
She will be your best friend and personal comedian.
Life is too short and she knows it and makes sure to cut off negative things and promote joy and peace of mind.
DatLBCGuy562
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Did they say specifically why that was the case with younger women?
