Is It Worth It To Still Try To Date/Find Love After 40?

[Be Strong Blackman]

Thanks man. I’m a UX Researcher

How do you like that field... I’m trynna do my ux/ui thing

 

[Actually6Foot3]

Head over to LSA. plenty of middle age femcels for yall to pick from

 

[MJ Truth]

I'm 34 and I'm not gonna front, I don't know what happened (I'm assuming it's because of the pandemic, that shyt really put life into perspective for me, being forced to slow down my lifestyle), but my anxiety has gotten a crazy high with thinking about the possibility of me hitting my 40s with no kids and wife.

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

I'm 34 and I'm not gonna front, I don't know what happened (I'm assuming it's because of the pandemic, that shyt really put life into perspective for me, being forced to slow down my lifestyle), but my anxiety has gotten a crazy high with thinking about the possibility of me hitting my 40s with no kids and wife.

But why do you feel kids and a wife are prerequisites to be happy? Do you not feel you can be complete or content without them? Is it from pressure from society or family/friends?

 

[MJ Truth]

But why do you feel kids and a wife are prerequisites to be happy? Do you not feel you can be complete or content without them? Is it from pressure from society or family/friends?

I don't think that shyt is gonna make me happy breh lol.

The pressure is more so the timing of it all. I don't want to wake up at 45 and decide that I really want kids and to be settled down and all of that shyt, and have to do it then. I don't wanna be one of those 65 year old dudes going to their kids' graduations and shyt. It's better for me to start that process now, particularly since I likely have yet to meet the woman I would marry (all of the chicks I've been with or know in my personal life, I can't really imagine building with them on that level).

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

I wasn't aware that the coli had an age limit

You do realize that there are MULTIPLE late thirties, early forties brehs that post here, right? You do realize that, God willing, you'll be 40 one day right? Or did you think you got to 25 and stopped aging?

At that age you won't find me posting on thecoli though. Hopefully by that time i've made enough money in STEM to retire and travel the world.

 

[Dave24]

But why do you feel kids and a wife are prerequisites to be happy? Do you not feel you can be complete or content without them? Is it from pressure from society or family/friends?

I havent read the whole thread but what is your situation like currently? Is it the same as when you first made this thread?

 

[Phitz]

Did they say specifically why that was the case with younger women?

No they didn't, I assumed maybe it was that the men had more life experience/knowledge and/or the women had a natural respect level. A woman their age would probably not have the same level of respect and not speak to them with that level of respect. All assumptions on my part.

 

[Ciggavelli]

How do you like that field... I’m trynna do my ux/ui thing

If you’re doing UX research, you need a masters degree in a social science that is heavily based upon research. If you’re doing design, you need a graphic arts or computer science degree. Plus you need a good portfolio for both. If you can get an internship, that will help a lot

 

[SATAN]

It's not worth it at any age.

FWIW, most women are attracted to men 10+ years older than them

 

[I Really Mean It]

First off

don’t listen to majority of these potato chips in the basement living motherfukkers

being 40 in real life u not going to find some woman in her 20s looking at you in the long run, unless u a fukking celebrity

it’s going to be hard finding a black woman in her 30s or 40s without a kid or who’s in that age range who’s not masculine, have a shytty attitude, etc,,, because the previous nikkas never put a ring on it because of it

Y’all have a very depressing outlook on life. I know brehs in their 40s who have no problem dating women in their 20s. At the end of the day, if you are good looking and presentable, you will have no problem dating when you’re in your 40s.

 

[Peter Popoff]

Y’all have a very depressing outlook on life. I know brehs in their 40s who have no problem dating women in their 20s. At the end of the day, if you are good looking and presentable, you will have no problem dating when you’re in your 40s.

I agree. This whole thread is misinformed, depressing and ass backwards. That being 40 and alone bs only applies to women which is why women purposely procreate before their biological clock runs out in their late 20's, early 30's.

Being mid to late 30's, 40's doesn't disqualify you from meeting women in their 20's as long as you don't look . I always encourage brothers to focus on your well being, growth and your wealth because it's never to late to be an eligible bachelor. Plus most these hoes only care about money. You can be 50 years old smashing the finest broads living good while these ig thots that wanna travel have a limited time frame need to get their shyt together.

You might have to lie about your age to some women but fukk it.

 

[Alvin]

This is pure silliness


Relatability like what? Why is age a factor when it comes to knowing things? If you're over the age of 25 you should be able to converse with most adults with most topics unless they happen to be 70+ years old. Most people talk about the same things. I've spoken with 50+ year olds and they all talk about the same things

I mean what exactly are you gonna be talking about? Think about that question and realize how silly you sound and how you're holding yourself back.

Tbh I agree with the previous poster, a lot of people in their 20s haven't gotten they shyt together, they act like teenagers mentally with adult responsibilities.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Speaking as a middle-aged Black man, finding 'love' in this age group is RIDICULOUSLY easy. It will find you. You don't have to put in any more work than you already have establishing yourself. Keep in-shape/groomed, keep your record clean, stay out of debt, live within your means, avoid drama.

I haven't told anyone at my office my wife passed because I know what'll happen next with the women there and I won't get any peace once they find out.

Let me mourn for a while longer.​

 

[Da King]

After 40 and still single?