This is all fukking corny.
Cole had two valid points.
First was that yes, sometimes the tone people take online with pursuing causes is too aggressive, and ends up being counterproductive. Not everyone is going to be inspired to be better by someone telling them they aren't shyt for not having knowledge. There's times when that approach works (like people playing dumb about concepts like white privilege, and what these protests are actually about), but when it's a conversation between us about learning our history, our rights, and how to effectively go about getting what we want, that ain't it. There are those of us out here that don't even know how oppressed we are. They're gonna need a bit of a lighter touch, and more work than others.
Secondly, he essentially says that online activism mostly boils down to you telling people who already share your views how you feel. And to an extent, that's correct.
This turning into another "black men don't support black women's argument is truly disappointing. Especially since this started with her calling out men for not doing enough. Everyone involved fell into one of the oldest traps used to water down any attempt we make at progress, and everyone really should know better at this point.