I agree with you, but understand these women are afraid to speak out, some was even worried about what I might say about them. They get written off as being bitter so many times, its literally destroys them because all they wanna do is be heard by us. To some degree i think us men are afraid of agreeing with them, god knows I was. I didnt wanna feel soft and agreeing with women about blaming my brothers would have make me worse but it wasnt that they was blaming us, they was just speaking from the heart and I had to leave my feelings at the door to understand them.. I think we have to do work in our groups before we can help each other, cause it can take on comment to be taken the wrong way and its all over.
I agree. I think black women are afraid to speak up for the same reason you might find a black male afraid to speak up about general black issues.
I think society created an environment of shaming any black person that speaks on black issues. They constantly show black people who commit crimes or make mistakes and they never show black people that are doing well. What that does is it conditions people to loose all compassion for black people. "The deserve what happens to them...look at how they act."
"Angry black man", "Angry black woman", "Blacks complain too much", "blacks deserve what happens to them". Because there is this public shamming when a black person speaks out on issues that affect black people, it conditions us to hide our pain.
When I used to fukk with hood bytches, I swear no matter how hardened a chick acted you can tell they were extra vulnerable on the inside. It's fukked up that the world hates us so much its makes woman afraid to look for love. I dealt with chicks with deep male issues (mainly daddy issues) and the ironic thing about it is that their resentment and dis-trust they have for the men of their pasts pushes away any possible positive man from being in their future. I understand completely why they are hurt.
But as complex as the problem woman are, the issues that black men deal with are equally as complex.
I tihnk in order to fix this thing and end the cycle is to start a completely new way of thinking and both black men and black women will have to forget about our scars of the past and take a leap of faith. We have to trust that when we jump out partners will catch us but that is a hard thing to do when black men and black woman have been mentally and emotionally traumatized by all that we have been through in recent history and in present day society.
Its fukked up what these cacs started...they are innately evil.