It's cute to say that, but let's be real for a second
I lived with my girl and my son for the first 3 years of his life. At NO point and time did it take 1000 a month, every month, to raise him
If we had no kid, we'd still have the house. So you can't count that. You didn't have a kid and suddenly need to move out your cardboard box. same with a car. You had one before him. Don't blame that on the kid for you having one now
Food and clothing yea. Clothing not so much. How many fukking clothes are you buying? You can buy enough clothes for a year with 1500 on a 7 year old. Does he need $50 jeans? $60 polos? No. But if you wanted too. That still enough.
Food. We never spent no damn $400-500 a month for the whole family. Let alone just him. Learn how to cook meals instead buying that expensive overpriced processed frozen shyt.
A lot of what y'all are adding up ain't for the kid. It's for the kids. Not for the parents. Buying groceries for the kids is not buying groceries for you and the kids.
A car payment is zero to do with the kids and the judge will tell you that. As a parent you are to provide clothing, shelter and food. Shelter to include daycare but his kids are in school so that's not a factor either
It's all bullshyt. I don't live with my bm anymore. She works. I work. Our child is in school. I asked her flat out how much does she need. She said pay my electric and give me an extra 100 bucks. My son wants for nothing. Anything he wants, I buy. Anything extra he may need, we buy. Just took them both to Disney for a week. He's good money
I couldn't imagine her suddenly saying, you know what, I need an extra 900 dollars to be able for him to survive. nikka please
You were poor, and your child lived in poverty with his poor parents. It happens, fine.
This mentality of spending the absolute bare minimum on your child is one you both had out of necessity bc you lacked financial comfort.
BUT
For an average standard of living, a child costs over a $1000/m. The op isn't even paying $1000 for his TWO children, and he's complaining.
Why some of you men feel it's okay for your children to live in tough economic circumstances, where their parent can't afford the best food, tutors and extracurriculars, decent shelter in good neighbourhoods, and so on, is what's truly unfortunate.
You'd rather your kids live below an average standard of living, where their mothers have to come and beg you for a pittance every month. Ya'll are totally comfortable with her struggling to make ends meet, and while you come through to buy the kids an outfit and act like it's all good. Y'all love the flexibility of being able to pay her at your own leisure, as if children don't have consistent financial costs for their material well being.
The op was giving the babymom $400/ month. IN FUKING QUEENS, NEW YORK.!
It's the purest display of selfishness.
Couple that with the fact that despite these myths of unfit sole-parents (ex. using the money on a new nikka),
none of y'all actually want full custody of your kids, bc of the time and work it requires, preferring instead that the mother make that sacrifice. And then turn around and try to devalue the work a single parent has to do - like she ain't doing shyt but getting her hair done. If that's the case, and you can do a better job, why dont you be the single parent????
The deductions you're making as to why basic needs that cost money, shouldn't count as child care expenses is what's baffling.
Dude said don't count shelter as a child care cost. Do the kids live in space, or here on Earth where RENT is a thing???
well played
have u been trolling? you got your gf/cousin pregnant and u already have 2 kids?
