Just got child support taken out my check

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It's actually really sad seeing shyt like this. I don't know, maybe it's because I saw the way my mother con her baby daddies (my oldest brother dad disappeared and just refused to work since the birth of my brother, my dad was in jail for not paying child support for like 4-5 years. He died when I was 13, now the father of my last 3 siblings. This guy was with my mom since I was 2. He paid all the bills in the house, her car, food, rent, giving her an allowance when he can, giving all 5 of her kids [including my older brother and I who weren't his biological kids] AND STILL he was on child support. All while he was living with us. They split when I was 15). I don't see what fukking enjoyment any girl get out of making someone else's life miserable like that.

It's so desperate.

If I were to ever get pregnant out of wedlock (not an option now, obviously, or ever for that fact) & the man even makes me THINK he doesn't want this child whether it is questioning me if it's his, abortion, etc. I'll personally hand deliver him the forms where he can terminate his parental rights. I don't want my child loving nor following a man who runs from responsibilies as such.

If that isn't the case, we can rejoice and raise our child together. If not together but he still wants to be in his/her life, I'll never rob him of that. We can settle everything out of court like grown folks. That's the thing there too, girls that do that kitty shyt of hitting a man's pockets like that not caring about his own well-fair is child-minded women. It's despicable. And they do it for the wrong reasons too. I watched my mother use all the money she was collecting for shyt that didn't pertain to us (her children) at all & im gonna assume majority of women are doing the same.
 

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thats all on the BM fam either speak to her or try to get residential custody
 

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And the shyt that really hurts is that it effects my relationship with my new girl
I can't really take her out
Or do nice things for her
She's good with going to the park and shyt like that but she deserves so much more
She been holding me down throughout all of this

Another thing that hurts is I can't really take the kids out either
I can't buy them their favorite cereal for when they come over
I can't take them for ice cream or pizza
Damn breh I feel for u. This is why im so hesitant on having kids. I have a girl I've been with for almost 10yrs. I have that constant fear that she can just switch up and become like this. She's a good woman though. I hope u can get a lawyer and try to figure it out. The laws are so fukked up and out dated for us black men. Hold ya head homie.
 

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the first part comes from a Huffington Post article about a study dispelling gender bias when it comes to child custody.
source
Dispelling The Myth Of Gender Bias In The Family Court System



the second part comes from the Census. it was in the text preview but i can't open the file. the exact number was like 17.43% men with primary custody i think.


another NY Times article states that 50% of the time a dad goes through with the court option he gets primary custody. so with the previous stats only 1.5% decided to go to court. If more men went to court rather than the other options that were listed, there'd be more dads with primary custody
source:
"There are now 2.2 million divorced women in the United States who do not have primary physical custody of their children, and an estimated 50 percent of fathers who seek such custody in a disputed divorce are granted it."
http://parenting.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/17/more-fathers-getting-custody-in-divorce/?_r=0


so i guess it seems like men are getting a raw deal, but if the above stats are right then men have a 50/50 chance at getting primary custody IF they continue with the court process but only 1.5% of cases make it that far. so that is a voluntary raw deal

men don't have a 50/50 chance when getting primary custody you dumb fukk. what the article states is: of men who seek custody in a divorce ~50% are granted custody. This could be because those who have especially good chances of being granted custody seek it more often than those who may not have such a strong case...
it's like saying if 95% of people who drive lambos are millionaires then you have a 95% chance of becoming a millionaire if you drive a lambo

and that huffington post article doesn't dispel gender bias in family courts. all it says it that most men don't bother going thru the court system (likely because of the bias).

brush up on your reading comp u moron :mjlol:
 

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The 12k a year is actually going to his baby mom's hair and nails, rmbr?

Nevermind that the average cost of raising one child is more than double what he's paying for the two.

Hair and nails, yeah, that's what the money's being used on.
My mom spent her cs check on frivilous shyt like that while living with her mother
 

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Your kids have food, and shelter, and clothes, and educational tools.

Rejoice :smile:

This doesn't make sense if hte man can not support himself. That system is worse than backwards. They don't care about the kids and the fathers are homeless and behind because of it. It's stupid. How does it benefit the child? All it does is keep the father out of their life physically and emotionally. Western culture worships money at the expense of humanity.
 

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And the shyt that really hurts is that it effects my relationship with my new girl
I can't really take her out
Or do nice things for her
She's good with going to the park and shyt like that but she deserves so much more
She been holding me down throughout all of this

Another thing that hurts is I can't really take the kids out either
I can't buy them their favorite cereal for when they come over
I can't take them for ice cream or pizza

Explain to them why you can't take them out.
Their trick ass momma took all your money with child support.
Hell, they should be buying YOU ice cream.
 

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This has to have every old head on here rolling :russ:
 
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