Married Brehs Is This True? U Get Married For Convenience?

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no one is in their feelings, but conversing with you on these topics is like conversing with a coli militant and expecting them not to call every white person a cac/devil and black person who doesn't agree with them a c00n - pointless. there are others in your threads who i'd like to continue to conversation with :manny:
So in other words ur in ur feelings.:ehh:nice paragraph btw.
 

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Its true and thats how its supposed to be. Would you get married for inconvenience? No,no, no. We marry because it makes our life way more easier. This should be obvious. If you're bending over backwards to keep your girl then you have a problem, let her go. Its supposed to be effortless.
 

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Haven't read through the thread, men just get tired of either being single or tired of going through BS in the single life.


Whoever cares for him the most is the one that will get the ring.


Men just get tired and they start thinking aint nothing out there and they settle down
 

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you think that's hard to find?
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For me probably not, for most men here....
:ehh: yeah


I feel for these guys struggling, but I can literally troll the dating scene and end up in a serious relationship....
 

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this is a lie too, yall really gotta stop trying to blanket women based on a few you know/deal with or walking reality tv stereotypes.

the type of men people date may change with age, progressions in income/education, life passions/priorities, etc. and some people - such as myself - simeply date men we're attracted to, enjoy being around, and have a connection with no matter what "package" they come in or "mould" they fit (physically, professionally, personality wise, etc)

I disagree. I am the last person to pigeon hole women as I have 0 to gain from engaging in that behavior. I don't watch reality TV and for the most part, being 38 years of age and from NYC have dated women across a pretty broad spectrum. Even today as a married man, women come up to me and flirt in the gym and when I talk to them, they always tell me that they have a type of which I fit the description.

You may date/sleep with different kinds of men but every woman has a man that they see and it's a "GO" unless he talks himself out of the draws so to speak.
 

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Agree with op. Men do and should marry for convenience. Marrying for love is stupid and should never be encouraged. Thats some Disney channel bs. When has love ever gotten anything done? . Gotta be pragmatic and stop falling for Western bs.
 

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I disagree. I am the last person to pigeon hole women as I have 0 to gain from engaging in that behavior. I don't watch reality TV and for the most part, being 38 years of age and from NYC have dated women across a pretty broad spectrum. Even today as a married man, women come up to me and flirt in the gym and when I talk to them, they always tell me that they have a type of which I fit the description.

You may date/sleep with different kinds of men but every woman has a man that they see and it's a "GO" unless he talks himself out of the draws so to speak.
like i said i fully disagree, i can look at myself and friends and see enough women who don't have a type.
 

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this is a lie too, yall really gotta stop trying to blanket women based on a few you know/deal with or walking reality tv stereotypes.

the type of men people date may change with age, progressions in income/education, life passions/priorities, etc. and some people - such as myself - simeply date men we're attracted to, enjoy being around, and have a connection with no matter what "package" they come in or "mould" they fit (physically, professionally, personality wise, etc)

Agree to disagree, but I believe that everybody has a type -- though they may not know it until it figuratively hits them in the face -- meaning that while it may not come in the specific package you expect, that package carries with it certain qualities or whatever that causes them to appeal to you in that fashion. Whether that's a certain set of looks, personality quirks, whatever.

Basically, I don't know your dating life nor is it my business, but I'd assume that in some fashion, the men you've been involved with ... they all had a couple things in common.

As for this, yeah, it's gonna come down to who matches my goals and values, but at the same time ... I can't see myself marrying someone I don't have a deep love for. It don't necessarily have to be "butterflies in the stomach" but at the same time, she's got to hold a piece of me on some level otherwise I can't even begin to see a future with her that includes marriage.
 

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Every woman, from the age of youth, has a type of man that she likes. In most cases, its the man that reminds them most of the favorite man in their life whether it be their father, paw-paw, uncle, brother etc.

From the time that a woman is sexually active, she will be in tune with her nature and sleep with a man that excites her or gives her the tingles whether it be the square, athlete, nerd or the hood.

During the exploratory phase of her sexuality, she will try different types of men, often curving those who don't give her those feels or tingles running back into the arms of the man that does.

For us men, these are the women who we hit, and no matter if she is in a relationship or not, out with a new dude on a date, the minute we call she comes running.

Eventually, they get tired of this and need to find someone to take care of them (emotionally, financially and romantically). At societies urges, she decides to step away from her desires and date "outside of the box" when she is ready to settle down.

When they decide to step outside of the box, it is usually with someone that meets the standards of what society wants for them but not what they want themselves or what "Excites" them.

This is why I believe as a man, you must know who their exes are before you decide to get serious or put a ring on it. If your woman likes athletes and you are a hood, it won't work and she will fukk cats behind your back hence the logic behind rich men, athletes, squares and street dudes getting cheated on when they are with women that they are incompatible with.

It also lends credence to cats like AMS when they say, stay on YOUR purpose and grind and let a woman choose you and not the other way around. There is nothing wrong with sleeping with a woman that isn't your type and vice versa but you are committing financial suicide if you think you can marry a woman and you aren't her type
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Was with you up until here. Nothing you stated there makes sense....What I find in alot of these threads is you cats lack confidence. You lack confidence to be a strong man for your woman, your lack confidence in your dikk game, you lack confidence in the ability to please your women. You all spend the thread's existence given women all this power over you and give scared warning of what to look out for in efforts to avoid being hurt or played. The amount of hurdles you all believe you have to go through just to find the right woman to avoid something your obviously petrified of is giving your heart to someone who leaves you high and dry are ridiculous.

Like anything else in life you go have to step out there on faith. Not faith in her(well to some degree) but faith in your self and your ability to keep your damn women. Its like a new expensive purchase or having another kid , or changing jobs. You don't know how these situations play out but you step out on faith in yourself and your abilities to handle it.

If you go through life trying to find the perfect opportunity, or time to have kids, or to buy that car you want, then you end up losing out most times because no time is perfect. Settling down with a woman is no different. Either get over your insecurities (MAN UP) or be alone in your 40's coming home to nothing but a bottle of jergens and bitter late night internet rants about how women ain't shyt......:picard:
 

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like i said i fully disagree, i can look at myself and friends and see enough women who don't have a type.
How can you compare yourself and your friends vs a broad ass spectrum?

I ain't trying to get into a debate with you but you aren't making much sense right now. Your 20 friends is a much smaller sample size than the women I have encountered. And, for the record,

I haven't slept with all the women that I have encountered that have shown interest either. I am just saying that most women, that choose, have a type. Doesn't matter the age, race or religion.
 

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Firstly, I went through that thread on Twitter, and it was EYE-OPENING. Very insightful, sobering stuff. :leon:

Secondly RE: the bolded: My older brother said the exact same thing. But his reasoning included being that in love fukks with a man's ability to make consistently logical decisions, especially when it comes to said woman, as he is driven more by emotion/making her happy instead of the smart/right decision.

My brother's advice was to marry the person whose goals, values and so on best match with your life plan, and not necessarily the partner you want most. He believes that love is a choice -- I agree with this, to an extent -- and that you can foster an attachment with someone just by being around them extensively. He's the kind of dude that's like, "Love don't pay bills. But money does. So if we're not getting the bag or you're not helping me to do so, what are we doing?"


I couldn't fault the man's logic. But admittedly, he and I are motivated by and value different things more than others.


Thats basically what he told me and in every successful marriage Ive seen that seems to ring true.

I think if ur wife is the love of ur life and ur hers u are a very lucky person. U got the best of both worlds.
 

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Agree to disagree, but I believe that everybody has a type -- though they may not know it until it figuratively hits them in the face -- meaning that while it may not come in the specific package you expect, that package carries with it certain qualities or whatever that causes them to appeal to you in that fashion. Whether that's a certain set of looks, personality quirks, whatever.

Basically, I don't know your dating life nor is it my business, but I'd assume that in some fashion, the men you've been involved with ... they all had a couple things in common.

As for this, yeah, it's gonna come down to who matches my goals and values, but at the same time ... I can't see myself marrying someone I don't have a deep love for. It don't necessarily have to be "butterflies in the stomach" but at the same time, she's got to hold a piece of me on some level otherwise I can't even begin to see a future with her that includes marriage.
the only thing they have in common is outgoing personalities....if something that broad is considered a type, then i guess. even within that, their outgoingness had manifested differently within the construct of their individual traits, backgrounds, and interests.
 
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