Need some advice from you men

[Ohene]

You reacted too crazily, too fast.

If he's a low drama person, you are probably bushes status now, when you didn't have to be, just because of how you reacted to the situation with his daughter.

I don't wanna say that you gave him an excuse/reason to get out, but you did.

Also, you should never have the "what are we gonna be" discussion AFTER you've already had sex. You should have it beforehand and clearly verbalize your wants and expectations, not only so he knows, but so that what you are thinking registers clearly with your brain when you say it out loud (some ideas sound better and more logical in your head than when you say them out loud and really have to stick to that reality).

But yeah, at this point leave him alone and start anew. If he hits you up, keep your responses short. Avoid situations that involve you two being in each other's physical space. Respond just enough to string him along. If he really likes you, he will keep hitting you up and then from there you can decide if it's genuine or not.

good advice with no trolling

 

[Fefe]

i usually don't fukk with your posts but i gotta give credit where credit is due

oh snap, I didn't even notice that he called out of work in the story.

right? OP must have majored in creative writing. shyt was written like an episode of sex and the city.

 

[Theraflu]

Oh good lord, where to start.

First, how old are you, and why haven't you had sex in years?

 

[Theraflu]

you crazy ass heifer
Is your real name Micala by any chance?

 

[Kenny West]

that guys good






"you done fukked around and caught a shark"

If you as crazy as you seem, homie probably wasn't lying about that box being fire

 

[beanz]

Be a heterosexual male who doesn't like woman who have sex brehs.

who says i dont like women who have sex? i LOVE women who have sex. that goes without saying, but i wouldnt take a woman seriously who has sex with multiple random men after 1 date or no date at all. if thats what u wanna do more power to you, but dont knock men who only have meaningful relationships with women who treat it like its worth something.

simp

 

[Kenny West]

Let this be a lesson to you simps

Though she clearly had her reasons for doing it (hadn't had sex in years, and you probably picked a dude you were most attracted to) and it was only one person in a long ass time, she was shamed and called a slut in this thread by both males AND females . this is the risk chicks run when playing with their body. and females understand it too, they just don't keep it 100 when they're talking about themselves. once you don't respect yourself you enable disrespect from others as well.

I respect your honesty TS. You have to recognize the gamble with sex, when you let him hit (especially more than once) your body sends your brain signals to try to lock him down, especially if he already makes you feel good emotionally. even though you went in the situation knowing full well what you wanted. it happens, it's supposed to happen. if it doesn't happen, you've gone too far down the hoe path since the effect desensitizes with more partners

however you have to understand yourself and not let your emotions run wild and compel you to make rookie mistakes like these. learn how to stop yourself if your going on a emotional freefall. next time you're thinking of sending a type of text like the "im not a whore" type the draft and wait 10 mins before you send. that way you can cool off and read it again like

 

[Blankthawtz]

the only time this happens to women is when they p*ssy stank....

 

[Dwolf]

Your honest opinions are wanted.
This may be long

Okay so, I met a guy on okcupid. The day that we met, we had sex. That was what I planned on.
But instead of leaving right after, the guy wanted me to chill there. I ended up staying until about 2am. The next day, he called out of work, and we chilled again (he called out specifically so we could chill). Both days we spent a great deal talking. He kept talking about what he was going to do in the future, and including me in his plans. (Like telling me his plans for his birthday, and inviting me to go). And he also said he deleted his account on okcupid, since we met.
So that made me think it was going to be more than just sex.
So we talk/text just about everyday on the phone.
One day we'd made plans to hang out around 8. At like 6:30, he tells me that his daughter is going to come over, and he'll call me after she leaves. Now I should have just told him to hit me up the next day, because I was thinking his daughter wouldn't be at his house for only 2 hours or whatever. But I just said okay. By 11, I didn't hear from him, so I sent him a text letting him know I wasn't a whore. I said done thing about him (probably) fukking other girls. And then I told him I blocked him. I blocked him on my phone & on Instagram.
I'm very sensitive and seeing how we got together I felt insecure. Like if he had sex with me the first night, how many other girls was he meeting and fukking?
So 2 days later I unblocked him, and asked him if he was using me just for sex. Incredulously he said no, and said I shouldn't think that. He said the message I sent him was 'crazy', I said it wasn't because that is how I was feeling. We talked some more and he said he understood where I was coming from. He said he wasn't judging or complaining about me (having sex with him the 1st night). I asked him if he still wanted to talk to me, and he said yes. So we were good.
The next day (yesterday) we were texting, and we were making plans to hang out. But half way through the conversation, he just stops responding. It wasn't like we were arguing or anything, we were talking about where to hang out. That was last night at 6pm, I haven't heard from him since.
I text him at like 9, and said, 'if you didn't want to hang out with me all you had to do was just say so'. No response.
I don't know what to think.
Part of me thinks that he was chilling with (fukking) another girl, the other part of me thinks maybe he had his daughter again.

When we had sex, he kept talking about how good I was, and how tight and wet I was and things like that. So I would think he wouldn't miss the chance to have sex with me again.

I was so stressed last night, that I couldn't sleep, and I didn't eat dinner.

What do you guys think, and what should I do?

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

Your honest opinions are wanted.
This may be long

Okay so, I met a guy on okcupid. The day that we met, we had sex. That was what I planned on.
But instead of leaving right after, the guy wanted me to chill there. I ended up staying until about 2am. The next day, he called out of work, and we chilled again (he called out specifically so we could chill). Both days we spent a great deal talking. He kept talking about what he was going to do in the future, and including me in his plans. (Like telling me his plans for his birthday, and inviting me to go). And he also said he deleted his account on okcupid, since we met.
So that made me think it was going to be more than just sex.
So we talk/text just about everyday on the phone.
One day we'd made plans to hang out around 8. At like 6:30, he tells me that his daughter is going to come over, and he'll call me after she leaves. Now I should have just told him to hit me up the next day, because I was thinking his daughter wouldn't be at his house for only 2 hours or whatever. But I just said okay. By 11, I didn't hear from him, so I sent him a text letting him know I wasn't a whore. I said done thing about him (probably) fukking other girls. And then I told him I blocked him. I blocked him on my phone & on Instagram.
I'm very sensitive and seeing how we got together I felt insecure. Like if he had sex with me the first night, how many other girls was he meeting and fukking?
So 2 days later I unblocked him, and asked him if he was using me just for sex. Incredulously he said no, and said I shouldn't think that. He said the message I sent him was 'crazy', I said it wasn't because that is how I was feeling. We talked some more and he said he understood where I was coming from. He said he wasn't judging or complaining about me (having sex with him the 1st night). I asked him if he still wanted to talk to me, and he said yes. So we were good.
The next day (yesterday) we were texting, and we were making plans to hang out. But half way through the conversation, he just stops responding. It wasn't like we were arguing or anything, we were talking about where to hang out. That was last night at 6pm, I haven't heard from him since.
I text him at like 9, and said, 'if you didn't want to hang out with me all you had to do was just say so'. No response.
I don't know what to think.
Part of me thinks that he was chilling with (fukking) another girl, the other part of me thinks maybe he had his daughter again.

When we had sex, he kept talking about how good I was, and how tight and wet I was and things like that. So I would think he wouldn't miss the chance to have sex with me again.

I was so stressed last night, that I couldn't sleep, and I didn't eat dinner.

What do you guys think, and what should I do?

You're crazy.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

It's funny cause it's true. The girl I mentioned in this thread who I thought was the OP, her name was Monique. We weren't really dating but just kind of fuccing around. There was no expectation of exclusivity, but we were honest and coridal nonetheless. Anyway, we had plans to I think just hang out at my house and fukk, but I cancelled earlier in the day cause I was just tired and didn't wanna have anyone in my space, and this chick goes off on how I'm such a dog for fukking other women and shyt. I literally read the email like and responded telling her that it was clear she was used to dealing with a certain kind of dude, and that wasn't me, and that we weren't compatible, and that she should stop calling me.

Fast forward 5 years, she just sent me nudes 2 days ago after a dozen or so txts out of the blue. I fuccing love laying good dikk on women, they'll always let you come back for more, even years later.

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

The game is to be sold not told

 

[Denzel_Saucegton]

Exactly! Like why call out of work to chill/have sex with me? That could have happened later in the day. He missed a day of work-missed a day of pay- to hang out with me.
Why delete his profile? I sure as hell didn't delete mine.

I called in before for that good p*ssy...sometimes that tip talks more than money even though after busting you end up thinking about the money.

 

[ShaneTheRogue]

who says i dont like women who have sex? i LOVE women who have sex. that goes without saying, but i wouldnt take a woman seriously who has sex with multiple random men after 1 date or no date at all. if thats what u wanna do more power to you, but dont knock men who only have meaningful relationships with women who treat it like its worth something.

simp

What do you mean by "treat relationships like they mean something?" What's the difference if you have sex after 24 hrs vs. 72?


Why would they have a date if they were obviously having a hook-up anyway? What purpose would a date serve if they knew they both just wanted to fukk?


Also I'm the simp because I think wining-and-dining everybody you want to have sex with is silly?

 

[beanz]

What do you mean by "treat relationships like they mean something?" What's the difference if you have sex after 24 hrs vs. ?


Why would they have a date if they were obviously having a hook-up anyway? What purpose would a date serve if they knew they both just wanted to fukk?


Also I'm the simp because I think wining-and-dining everybody you want to have sex with is silly?

I meant treat the p*ssy like it's worth something.

Like I said, nothing wrong with just hooking up. Males and females can just fukk randomly, doesn't bother me. But no serious man would wife up a female who fukked him right away. Just how it is. Op is sad because she wanted a serious relationship after fukking during the first date.