Need some advice from you men

[Illuminatos]

Your honest opinions are wanted.
This may be long

Okay so, I met a guy on okcupid. The day that we met, we had sex. That was what I planned on.
But instead of leaving right after, the guy wanted me to chill there. I ended up staying until about 2am. The next day, he called out of work, and we chilled again (he called out specifically so we could chill). Both days we spent a great deal talking. He kept talking about what he was going to do in the future, and including me in his plans. (Like telling me his plans for his birthday, and inviting me to go). And he also said he deleted his account on okcupid, since we met.
So that made me think it was going to be more than just sex.
So we talk/text just about everyday on the phone.
One day we'd made plans to hang out around 8. At like 6:30, he tells me that his daughter is going to come over, and he'll call me after she leaves. Now I should have just told him to hit me up the next day, because I was thinking his daughter wouldn't be at his house for only 2 hours or whatever. But I just said okay. By 11, I didn't hear from him, so I sent him a text letting him know I wasn't a whore. I said done thing about him (probably) fukking other girls. And then I told him I blocked him. I blocked him on my phone & on Instagram.
I'm very sensitive and seeing how we got together I felt insecure. Like if he had sex with me the first night, how many other girls was he meeting and fukking?
So 2 days later I unblocked him, and asked him if he was using me just for sex. Incredulously he said no, and said I shouldn't think that. He said the message I sent him was 'crazy', I said it wasn't because that is how I was feeling. We talked some more and he said he understood where I was coming from. He said he wasn't judging or complaining about me (having sex with him the 1st night). I asked him if he still wanted to talk to me, and he said yes. So we were good.
The next day (yesterday) we were texting, and we were making plans to hang out. But half way through the conversation, he just stops responding. It wasn't like we were arguing or anything, we were talking about where to hang out. That was last night at 6pm, I haven't heard from him since.
I text him at like 9, and said, 'if you didn't want to hang out with me all you had to do was just say so'. No response.
I don't know what to think.
Part of me thinks that he was chilling with (fukking) another girl, the other part of me thinks maybe he had his daughter again.

When we had sex, he kept talking about how good I was, and how tight and wet I was and things like that. So I would think he wouldn't miss the chance to have sex with me again.

I was so stressed last night, that I couldn't sleep, and I didn't eat dinner.

What do you guys think, and what should I do?

 

[Darts]

If this girl goes to that guys place....



This should be a lesson for both men and women.

Women shouldn't put themselves in these positions because it usually results in them getting hurt and men shouldn't let women know where they live that early on because some chicks are crazy and won't go away just because they're being ignored.

Men also shouldn't play games but y'all dudes won't listen to that.

lol you just had to edit to throw a shot at the men huh?

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

lol you just had to edit to throw a shot at the men huh?

That's what I do.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

I guess I care because I let him into my body.
Aside form him, I've never had sex with someone I wasn't dating.
If he told me from the beginning, it was just going to be sex, then I could have put myself in that mind frame, and not worry about what he is or isn't doing. It could have been a 'call me when you need some' kind of thing

Why lead me on?

The mistake you made is making more of it than it should have been. As soon as you slept together the first night the deal was sealed. This should have remained very casual. The tone of any relationship is set from the jump.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

You gave up the p*ssy to a nikka u met on the net on day 1? :martincmon: take your L and keep it moving

What's her L? She just wanted dikk as she clearly stated.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

Your honest opinions are wanted.
This may be long.

...snip...

What do you guys think, and what should I do?

Oh good lord, where to start.

First, how old are you, and why haven't you had sex in years?

 

[Uncle Kingpin]

I got the best advice -









Go talk to him about it. Not us. Ask straight questions that get to the point, no reading between the lines or grey area that you women love so much. And take his word for it, dont read into anything. If you ask a straight question and get anything other than a direct answer from a man, maybe he thinks you cant handle the truth.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

Sorry Im not a guy but...



What you should learn from this experience is you can't do the casual sex thing. You can't be sensitive and care about sharing your body with someone and have a casual sexual relationship. For the love of all things holy don't pop up at his house . Some men sale dreams they bring up stuff you aren't even talking about to draw you in and then seemingly change all of a sudden. At the end of the day actions speak louder than words. People show you who they are. Don't let a guy run you crazy by getting you worked up over things you weren't worried about in the first place. He put those thoughts there remember that, they weren't what you wanted. I know that you may feel a type of way but just learn from this. Texting him your manifesto, calling him, and (please please don't) popping up just makes you look crazy. It's not going to change how he sees you at the point either. Just KIM and learn.

Edit: You flipped out way too fast guys say they are going to call later on and then don't when they say the are all the time. At least give him a chance to give you an excuse and then determine if it's bs or not.

In fairness, dude sounds like a master of selling dreams, and this chick is whatever comes before novice. I mean this dude layed (what must've been) good dikk and started talking about a future, so her mind, body, and heart were all invested within only a few hours. It's just a rookie mistake, tbh. If one doesn't know the rules of the game, they have no chance of winning.

To OP, just relax. You might have gotten played or you might have played yourself by overreacting. It's hard to tell, but continuting to act like a chihuahua on meth is only gonna make things worse.

Like others have said, learn from the experience. Definitely don't have sex on the first night (there's about half a dozen reasons why this is a bad idea). Next time take the time to learn about a person and enjoy their presence. Anticipation is sometimes the best part of life. To quote myself: Do not rush to checkmate, but rather just enjoy the game of chess.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

I got the best advice -









Go talk to him about it. Not us. Ask straight questions that get to the point, no reading between the lines or grey area that you women love so much. And take his word for it, dont read into anything. If you ask a straight question and get anything other than a direct answer from a man, maybe he thinks you cant handle the truth.

This.

 

[ShaneTheRogue]

Your honest opinions are wanted.
This may be long

Okay so, I met a guy on okcupid. The day that we met, we had sex. That was what I planned on.
But instead of leaving right after, the guy wanted me to chill there. I ended up staying until about 2am. The next day, he called out of work, and we chilled again (he called out specifically so we could chill). Both days we spent a great deal talking. He kept talking about what he was going to do in the future, and including me in his plans. (Like telling me his plans for his birthday, and inviting me to go). And he also said he deleted his account on okcupid, since we met.
So that made me think it was going to be more than just sex.
So we talk/text just about everyday on the phone.
One day we'd made plans to hang out around 8. At like 6:30, he tells me that his daughter is going to come over, and he'll call me after she leaves. Now I should have just told him to hit me up the next day, because I was thinking his daughter wouldn't be at his house for only 2 hours or whatever. But I just said okay. By 11, I didn't hear from him, so I sent him a text letting him know I wasn't a whore. I said done thing about him (probably) fukking other girls. And then I told him I blocked him. I blocked him on my phone & on Instagram.
I'm very sensitive and seeing how we got together I felt insecure. Like if he had sex with me the first night, how many other girls was he meeting and fukking?
So 2 days later I unblocked him, and asked him if he was using me just for sex. Incredulously he said no, and said I shouldn't think that. He said the message I sent him was 'crazy', I said it wasn't because that is how I was feeling. We talked some more and he said he understood where I was coming from. He said he wasn't judging or complaining about me (having sex with him the 1st night). I asked him if he still wanted to talk to me, and he said yes. So we were good.
The next day (yesterday) we were texting, and we were making plans to hang out. But half way through the conversation, he just stops responding. It wasn't like we were arguing or anything, we were talking about where to hang out. That was last night at 6pm, I haven't heard from him since.
I text him at like 9, and said, 'if you didn't want to hang out with me all you had to do was just say so'. No response.
I don't know what to think.
Part of me thinks that he was chilling with (fukking) another girl, the other part of me thinks maybe he had his daughter again.

When we had sex, he kept talking about how good I was, and how tight and wet I was and things like that. So I would think he wouldn't miss the chance to have sex with me again.

I was so stressed last night, that I couldn't sleep, and I didn't eat dinner.

What do you guys think, and what should I do?

I don't understand. I thought thought that was the point?


Also your little outburst where you blocked him and shyt was definitely a little crazy. If you did that to me any feelings I had for you would wane too. Don't be so quick to assume in the future.

 

[ShaneTheRogue]

have sex on the first date and expect to be taken seriously brehettes

Be a heterosexual male who doesn't like woman who have sex brehs.

 

[Still Benefited]

Lol this thread right here is a fascinating peak inside the female's mind and emotions.

• A few weeks ago OP was mad horny and made a thread asking for sites where she can meet and fukk...with no strings attached.
• She found a site and fukked the nikka the same night.
• Mission accomplished right? Nah, she somehow catches feelings and is now stressing over the nikka.

Puzzy ...that's why we tolerate most of y'all.

Fixed

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Be a heterosexual male who doesn't like woman who have sex brehs.

I didn't want to touch on it too much, but this the only place I know where nikkas, basically, think it's weird and shameful that chicks wanna fukk them.

A woman wants to have sex with me on the first night, I applaud her for recognizing how great of a guy I am and for making the right decision and being quick on her feet. On the Coli though, a woman wanting to have sex with you means she's obviously disgusting so

 

[Elle Driver]

If this girl goes to that guys place....



This should be a lesson for both men and women.

Women shouldn't put themselves in these positions because it usually results in them getting hurt and men shouldn't let women know where they live that early on because some chicks are crazy and won't go away just because they're being ignored.

Men also shouldn't play games but y'all dudes won't listen to that.

But nikkas say crazy chicks have that bomb p*ssy.

 

[Ashley Banks]

@LovelyDay @Teedot @Sunshine
Come save your righteous women who was swindled