Essential Official Random Thoughts Thread (Ladies only)
philmonroe
Superstar
Thats the thing a lot of people do say they trying to be neutral or something like that but truth is yall scarred the person ain't going to come through. If somebody says they are going to come through that's not a neutral thing its all the way on that issue. Also like you said previously you can say "you're not waiting for someone to fail" but your action of not putting faith in a person to do what they say esp if they haven't given reason for you to doubt it says otherwise.See, that's the thing. I dont expect people to do me wrong, I dont expect for them to be great. I try to be as neutral as possible, and expect nothing. I just said Im not waiting for someone to fail. I just dont put much weight into someone's word until they prove their words are worthy. Kinda like "prepare for the worst, but hope for the best." Perhaps I should be more vulnerable?
Yep you should be more vulnerable esp like I said before if this stuff isn't life altering. At least most times I hear people talk about stuff it its not. When its that serious I only mess with trusted people on that tip anyway not new people but that's a rarity because that's not our normal daily life business anyway.
Paradise
Too tired to think of something witty to say...
No... You have every right to feel the way you do. Nobody in their right mind is wishing the worst on people, but we are hoping that they live up to their word. Sometimes people promise so much and dont deliver on their promises you begin to unknowingly start to feel like everyone will be that way...See, that's the thing. I dont expect people to do me wrong, I dont expect for them to be great. I try to be as neutral as possible, and expect nothing. I just said Im not waiting for someone to fail. I just dont put much weight into someone's word until they prove their words are worthy. Kinda like "prepare for the worst, but hope for the best." Perhaps I should be more vulnerable?
CinnaSlim
Queen of Swords
Isn't faith in itself, an expectation tho?
I guess I need to be less scared like you said and work on being more resilient, so if something bad does happen I can bounce back.
I have issues with nervous anxious energy so I try not to worry so much, but I guess it's manifesting as cautiousness which it's still a form of anxiety.
Thanks for the feedback.
I'll rep you both when I can.
Funny when people first join here, they are safe and afraid to step on toes. Not me.
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philmonroe
Superstar
Yeah technically you're right faith in itself is an expectation. I guess the difference though is faith is looking at it from a positive pov and the other ways are negative and not always warranted. We all get nervous anxious energy but its a good thing IMO if we harness it right. You just have to ask why you don't feel prepared and or why this person, thing, whatever got,you feeling like this. If you can change it do so if not just gotta live with it and be proud of it. Truthfully most times we get nervous about things we know are weaknesses that we don't want others to see in us, know about us, or things we can't control anyway. They going to laugh at/mock us so what? They got something that makes them feel just like us just today ain't their day for it to be exposed. Hell we've probably did it to others so its just life. Whatever it is hope you conquer it.Isn't faith in itself, an expectation tho?
I guess I need to be less scared like you said and work on being more resilient, so if something bad does happen I can bounce back.
I have issues with nervous anxious energy so I try not to worry so much, but I guess it's manifesting as cautiousness which it's still a form of anxiety.
Thanks for the feedback.
I'll rep you both when I can.
CinnaSlim
Queen of Swords
I'm not scared. It's not gonna hurt me. It's just like disappointment. Why go through the trouble of getting your hopes up? I just take things for what they are.
I'm a very independent person so it's not like I need or crave for other people. It would just be a nice addition. At the end of the day the only person I can fully know, control and trust is myself. People will do what they want.
Repent!Girl on my kindle I have nothing but those!!! I waswhen I was coming from SanDeigo & my kindle got swiped when I was on a layover in Pheonix. I was in the middle of Child of a Crackhead II. I've read most of Zane's novels & have moved on to Cairo.
@CinnaSlim , I think of it like this... I take people as sincere in their intention to do what they say. Whether it happens or not, things come up, people over commit, or just flat out lie. You learn whom you can rely on.
It becomes a question of HOW MUCH you rely on others. I avoid relying on others too much, and DEF not for anything emotional (where it hurts the most.)
I have a quote somewhere that "The most successful people in life are those who are good at plan b." So if someone doesn't come through - invoke plan b.
It becomes a question of HOW MUCH you rely on others. I avoid relying on others too much, and DEF not for anything emotional (where it hurts the most.)
I have a quote somewhere that "The most successful people in life are those who are good at plan b." So if someone doesn't come through - invoke plan b.
Am I bitter for not believing people when they make promises or say that they are gonna do something?
Like, the way Im thinking is not that I'm expecting them to break it. Just I always say "we'll see", because if they do keep their promise it'll be a pleasant surprise but if they dont then its like
I dont like to project into the future. I dont like to get my hopes up. I live in the here and now. Words are nice to hear, but they dont carry the weight that they used to. Im more interested in looking at your actions.
I dont think so, your just cautious. I do this with everything, I hope and foresee the best but expect the worst. I do think that it can handicap you if your not careful, soon all you do is start to see the worst and expect the worst in everything. But you have enough self awareness to realize and keep that in check.
on another note..
Cinna I can't wait to see you happy
you deserve it. Smart, kind, conscious, open minded, freaky
cute and sexy!no simp
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Yes simp
@Regine Hunter I see you looking with ya looking ass 
Elle Driver
Veteran
Idk how to deal with temper tantrums. 
Repent!
What u tryin to say Hunter?
wet landscapes
ghost
Listening to smart people talk is 
just be dead, like "what you are doing will produce no positive reactions for you from me, you are embarrassing yourself"Idk how to deal with temper tantrums.
Elle Driver
Veteran
Listening to smart people talk is
just be dead, like "what you are doing will produce no positive reactions for you from me, you are embarrassing yourself"
She's 1 lmao.