CoolazzFemale
All Star
I JUST moved and I lost my job. I'm scared as hell because there is no moving back home.
Essential Official Random Thoughts Thread (Ladies only)
DarlingNikki
lil baby
this shyt never gets old 
I can't believe they thought this was okay.
Jesus Christ is my nikka?
this shyt never gets old
That was cringeworthy
."I'm really into points"
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I can't believe they thought this was okay.
What did I just watch?
That was cringeworthy
"I'm really into points"
damn. I hope everythin works out.
CoolazzFemale
All Star
Thank you. I'm sure it will.damn. I hope everythin works out.
My ass already phat, I just want bigger boobs
We can trade
I hope things work out
Lol
I don't want to jump into dating, I want to practice. People keep telling me to practice with whoever I end up with but I only want the trial by error when it comes to figuring each other out, not the basics. I want a general idea of what men are like in a relationship; essentially it's a social experiment for myself.
The major downfall to this is that this will make me a terrible person. Whoever I end up using for practice will get left inevitably. I can't continue to be with someone I used and emotionally manipulated.
Other concerns, will I be able to be in full control of my emotions? It's rare for me to get attached to people, I get tired of things easily. I believe I can pick and choose who I love by circumstance. You don't just fall in love with someone you know nothing about. Love is like an obsession. A fixation. People become delusional and I think too rationally for this. Not calling people in love dumb, personally I have a different take/view on it snd I'm not fighting for it or putting it on a pedestal for someone I'm practicing with.
Will the outcome for me be detrimental? Will I end up being a cold hearted bytch towards my other relationships out of habit?
What if I end up loving this person? I won't, but there's no such thing as a perfect plan. Things you didn't anticipate will include itself into the equation. If I do fall in love I will still end it. It can't be functional based on the dynamic. For him, he'd be an idiot for staying in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship.
Will I end up really doing this? Lol probably not.
The major downfall to this is that this will make me a terrible person. Whoever I end up using for practice will get left inevitably. I can't continue to be with someone I used and emotionally manipulated.
Other concerns, will I be able to be in full control of my emotions? It's rare for me to get attached to people, I get tired of things easily. I believe I can pick and choose who I love by circumstance. You don't just fall in love with someone you know nothing about. Love is like an obsession. A fixation. People become delusional and I think too rationally for this. Not calling people in love dumb, personally I have a different take/view on it snd I'm not fighting for it or putting it on a pedestal for someone I'm practicing with.
Will the outcome for me be detrimental? Will I end up being a cold hearted bytch towards my other relationships out of habit?
What if I end up loving this person? I won't, but there's no such thing as a perfect plan. Things you didn't anticipate will include itself into the equation. If I do fall in love I will still end it. It can't be functional based on the dynamic. For him, he'd be an idiot for staying in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship.
Will I end up really doing this? Lol probably not.
I know you're not asking for advice or a response but @iBrowse @'d me and i'm a guy so we give unsolicited advice whenever we can
I don't feel like there is anything wrong with the idea of using a relationship as a trial run/learning experience so that you are better prepared down the line. I've certainly done it before. I think the only thing that will make it "bad" or "wrong" is if you continue to give the guy delusions of going further than you intend. Like bringing up things like what kind of baby names you like, or the kind of house you want to grow old in, or the kind of wedding ceremony you picture in your head.
All harmless topics on their own, all blaring signals to men when you are in a relationship.
You probably wont be in full control of your emotions, most people aren't (except me
). In order to avoid that you have to look for someone with as little gain in the relationship as you have. Your gain is simply data collection (ideally), so you need to get with someone who is looking for the same thing.The problem is, if you present yourself in too good of a way or put too much value in the man, the upside to staying in the relationship becomes huge, and feelings get caught, and breaking up becomes difficult. And then you become that "cold-hearted bytch" you fear becoming (at least in his eyes) because you upped the value of the relationship far beyond what it ever meant to you and now he has new expectations.
Example:
It would be like if 2 ppl are fwb, but then the guy introduces the girl to his parents... he's changed the nature of the relationship.
Now she feels more valuable to him because they have shared something intimate.
So if he goes back to treating her like a fwb, she is now inherently offended, even though she would have been fine remaining a fwb if he had never introduced her to his parents.
shyt I dont even have to take it that far.
You can enjoy a very deep night of txting with someone who usually communicates with you on a surface level.
For them to return to said surface level will be seen as a form of rejection.
Just be careful.. some brehs out there will def fall hard for you. And then you will put them on ignore and make them #HOH for life
