It's always annoying to hear that "so where are we going with this" talk from a chick you're messing with. Buuuut, I'm also learning that if you never get that talk, she only sees you as a fling.
I met this older woman(she's 31, I'm 25) at an outdoor concert back on July 4. Extremely laid-back and just had an overall chill vibe about her. she let me hit it after the third date. from there we entered something that I guess wasn't quite a relationship, but def had more depth than jumpoff territory. like we still went out to places together and I genuinely enjoyed her company even when we weren't having sex.
that whole time I was wondering when the inevitable, "so where are we going with this?" question would come, but it never came, which was cool with me. but I'm not even gonna front, I started to see her as someone I could possibly build something with. she was extremely chill, never dramatic, very smart, no kids and was just a cool person to be around. so while I wasn't gonna straight up ask her "will you be my girlfriend," I was ready to act more "boyfriendish" in my actions(take her out on more formal dates, call her more often, etc). but just as I was about to do that, she starting to ignore my calls and was always "busy" when I tried to make plans.
I was legit

cuz she never gave me any signs she was angry at me. but when I told my boy about the situation he was like, "she just saw you as a fling, especially with you being so much younger, the fact that ya'll were f
ukkin and she never asked for any type of commitment confirmed that, she had her fun now she's just talking to someone new."
i was kind of

at first cuz she is cool as hell(which is hard for me to find these days) but in the end I had to

and keep it moving. if she never got emotional or tried pressuring me into anything serious then she just didn't see me as a potential boyfriend. it's just crazy how it seems like the jumpoffs have the perfect personalities while the girls who actually want relationships are annoying as f
ukk. if I find someone who combines the two, then I'll know it's someone special