Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Daniel.]

Is she adverse to working? Sounds like you need some help taking care of the bills and she isn't providing any. What does she expect to happen?

She quit her job of 6 years back in April of last year and kept on by doing freelance work and money she saved to cover any bills. She got another job back in November but quit in January because the new place seemed like the old place she initially quit. She's not adverse to working but she's been put off by office settings and wants to do more freelance type work. Problem is there's no consistent resource for her to freelance for and her ability to hold her own financially like she has been is slowly going away with no prospects on the horizon to show otherwise.

Even if there were it wouldn't be enough to allow for me to do what I want to do and simultaneously erase debt and go to school without creating financial issues otherwise. After 5 years of managing debt and slowly whittling in away I'm not about to not only take on more debt, but 5 times more than I've had to go to school. Esp when I don't HAVE to

 

[DaRealness]

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/lookin-ss-b-ch-rant-super-long-gold-digger-problems.193237/

So much shyt I can say about this thread....

 

[Mike Ock]

She quit her job of 6 years back in April of last year and kept on by doing freelance work and money she saved to cover any bills. She got another job back in November but quit in January because the new place seemed like the old place she initially quit. She's not adverse to working but she's been put off by office settings and wants to do more freelance type work. Problem is there's no consistent resource for her to freelance for and her ability to hold her own financially like she has been is slowly going away with no prospects on the horizon to show otherwise.

Even if there were it wouldn't be enough to allow for me to do what I want to do and simultaneously erase debt and go to school without creating financial issues otherwise. After 5 years of managing debt and slowly whittling in away I'm not about to not only take on more debt, but 5 times more than I've had to go to school. Esp when I don't HAVE to

Man I feel for you. I was with a chik i thought I'd marry when I was in my early 20's into my early mid 20's. I had a spot with a roommate and a 9 to 5, she had her own place so things were fine and 9 to 5 also. Unfortunately she lost her job, wanted me to move in with her. I didn't, so she ended up moving back home. At the time though we were growing apart, she was real loud, attention seeking chik and was too into celebrity gossip rather than whats happening outside of the TV or a magazine. Nice looking Puerto Rican chik. We were together for 3.5 yrs. Met her in college. But the truth is I became kinda miserable with her, but once she got laid off it was some next level misery. She was talking reckless, just a lot of anger towards me. Pretty much gave the ultimatum that we get a spot together (still jobless though at her mom's house) or she was leaving NY to move to Louisiana with her cousin (yep, her fam are like the only boricuas out there). She also had credit card debt which just kept accumulating. I chose to not make that move and we broke up. In hindsight I'm veeeery happy I did. Me and her made a mends right before she moved to Louisiana though.

I just say do what you have to do man. There's no perfect answer in this situation. I don't think women really understand the importance of finances. She should understand sometimes she gotta hide that pride and deal with a job to make and have some money from, when necessary.

 

[Panther]

Man I feel for you. I was with a chik i thought I'd marry when I was in my early 20's into my early mid 20's. I had a spot with a roomate and a 9 to 5, she had her own place so things were fine and 9 to 5 also. Unfortunately she lost her job, wanted me to move in with her. I didn't, so she ended up moving back home. At the time though we were growing apart, she was real loud, attention seeking chik and was too into celebrity gossip rather than whats happening outside of the TV or a magazine. Nice looking Puerto Rican chik. We were together for 3.5 yrs. Meet her in college. But the truth is I became kinda miserable with her, but once she got layed off it was some next level misery. She was talking wreckless, just a lot of anger towards me. Pretty much gave the ultimatum that we get a spot together (still jobless though at her mom's house) or she was leaving NY to move to Louisiana with her cousin (yep, her fam are like the only boricuas out there). She also had credit card debt which just kept accumulating. I chose to not make that move and we broke up. In hindsight I'm veeeery happy I did. Me and her made a mends right before she moved to Lousianna though.

I just say do what you have to do man. There's no perfect answer in this situation. I don't think women really understand the importance of finances. She should understand sometimes she gotta hide that pride and deal with a job to make and ave some money from when necessary.

Truth right here, i understand not being too keen on the office enviornment but when the bills are due sometimes u gotta suck it up and get that check

 

[NerdBird]

No homo on what I'm about to say cuz it may sound weird to some people....





When you guys have sex with a chick, are you guys making love? Or are you just fukking them? Do you take your time... or will a quickie be enough? I noticed a certain pattern but before I voice my opinion, I want to hear from y'all

 

[Turbulent]

Never looked at this thread till now. Lotta gems I wanna quote but I don't know where the original posts are to find them.

I've been in a nearly 5 year relationship. Between student loans and credit card usage used to furnish the apartment we live in I've amassed a considerable amount of debt. Nothing ridiculous, but enough to stay on a treadmill, financially.

Recently I was promoted to a better paying position and have found myself focused on note only paying off my debt but investing in myself to go back to school for my MBA as well as Certification to improve my career opportunities. To do so, however, I wouldn't be able to continue my current living arrangement and in all honesty, my relationship would be greatly strained.

I decided to move back in with my parents to be able to do all of the above - pay off debt and pay for school out of pocket. I made my girl aware of my plans and that in the interim that I feel we should go on a break so I can focus on me.

Admittedly it's a selfish decision but its being done to ultimately be in a better place financially and to hopefully make things better for us. She doesn't see it like that at all and doesn't understand why my endeavors have to impact our relationship in anyway. Additionally, to make it worse, she's been unemployed for the better part of the last year, her finances are starting to run out, or lease is up soon and her only realistic options are to move in with her grandmother whom she hates or move to FL with her parents which will in turn fukk up her ability to continue going to school.

Needless to say this hasn't gone well since I told her my intentions and again, I know it's a bad situation but given that this thread has been fairly troll free from what I've read so far I'm curious for perspective.

I don't usually talk about myself like that on here but I'm going through it right now. Male and female perspective appreciated

yeah, sounds to me like she quits because she doesn't like her jobs but then expects you to support her/foot the bill for this regardless of if you like your job or not. what if you didn't like your job either and decided to quit, you think she'd be cool with that? even if she was cool initially, how much time you think she would bare you not having a steady income? Do what's best for you breh. advice for next time though, if you're with a chick and she quits her jobs for similar reasons, make her understand that she's free to do what she wants but she shouldn't expect you to just take on more debt to support all this. have you guys ever had that talk?

 

[Two Stacks]

Looks like the bytch that owe me some money finna up that paper.

 

[Medio]

Never looked at this thread till now. Lotta gems I wanna quote but I don't know where the original posts are to find them.

I've been in a nearly 5 year relationship. Between student loans and credit card usage used to furnish the apartment we live in I've amassed a considerable amount of debt. Nothing ridiculous, but enough to stay on a treadmill, financially.

Recently I was promoted to a better paying position and have found myself focused on note only paying off my debt but investing in myself to go back to school for my MBA as well as Certification to improve my career opportunities. To do so, however, I wouldn't be able to continue my current living arrangement and in all honesty, my relationship would be greatly strained.

I decided to move back in with my parents to be able to do all of the above - pay off debt and pay for school out of pocket. I made my girl aware of my plans and that in the interim that I feel we should go on a break so I can focus on me.

Admittedly it's a selfish decision but its being done to ultimately be in a better place financially and to hopefully make things better for us. She doesn't see it like that at all and doesn't understand why my endeavors have to impact our relationship in anyway. Additionally, to make it worse, she's been unemployed for the better part of the last year, her finances are starting to run out, or lease is up soon and her only realistic options are to move in with her grandmother whom she hates or move to FL with her parents which will in turn fukk up her ability to continue going to school.

Needless to say this hasn't gone well since I told her my intentions and again, I know it's a bad situation but given that this thread has been fairly troll free from what I've read so far I'm curious for perspective.

I don't usually talk about myself like that on here but I'm going through it right now. Male and female perspective appreciated

why can't she stay with you at your parents?

 

[Medio]

No homo on what I'm about to say cuz it may sound weird to some people....





When you guys have sex with a chick, are you guys making love? Or are you just fukking them? Do you take your time... or will a quickie be enough? I noticed a certain pattern but before I voice my opinion, I want to hear from y'all

it's a lot better if you're actually making love and feel something for the person. it's better for the girl that way also and it makes her orgasm better. but if you want to get a quick nut who can blame you.

but I like do take my time and make that shyt last but sometimes you just can't resist

 

[Thoughts]

fukk these hoes and worry about gettin' money...it's that simple.

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

yoooo....

it occurred to me last weekend that there are a LOT of pretty ass chicks out there with confidence issues. I was talkin to my latest jawn and was like "why are you so insecure?" and she admitted she always has been. I'm like "But you're really attractive tho". she said she has a history of guys cheating on her and making her feel less than worthy.

the shyt is wild because it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. im about to her because her personality and lack of confidence is a turn off. if she was confident then she'd be

i think abotu this shyt all the time when I see Instagram pics. All these cute chicks secretly have issues that start to come out when they fall for you.

sidenote: you wanna expose a chick for not being self-confident? make her have sex with you with the lights on. you wouldn't believe how many women are ashamed of their bodies, even the good looking ones that guys thirst for​

But a lot of them instagram hoes act uppty tho. They eithef gond ignore your message or talk to you as if you're not on their level

 

[Jesus]

Told this broad how "you'll make time for someone you care about" and she wasn't putting enough effort in. Didn't buy the bullshyt that she was busy. Haven't heard a response from her since Sunday evening. I'm talking to other chicks who go out their way for me, but she on my mind.

 

[Panther]

So i hit this chick up on friday and told her to come thru the crib on sunday. She almost acted like she was offended at my request, (and shes been to my spot before) so im like and keep it pushing... Over the course of the weekend i get chose by 3 different chicks and ol girl calls me Monday like "when am i gonna see you." I just and changed the subject because she's not. Cant allow em to dictate my attention. If these hoes dont get right they get left

 

[Jahmal]

So i hit this chick up on friday and told her to come thru the crib on sunday. She almost acted like she was offended at my request, (and shes been to my spot before) so im like and keep it pushing... Over the course of the weekend i get chose by 3 different chicks and ol girl calls me Monday like "when am i gonna see you." I just and changed the subject because she's not. Cant allow em to dictate my attention. If these hoes dont get right they get left

I block hoes numbers with the quickness.

 

[Turbulent]

Told this broad how "you'll make time for someone you care about" and she wasn't putting enough effort in. Didn't buy the bullshyt that she was busy. Haven't heard a response from her since Sunday evening. I'm talking to other chicks who go out their way for me, but she on my mind.

while you're right logically, what was your purpose in telling her? what did you want to happen once you told her that and what was the end game you were expecting? keep it real with yourself.