Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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The doctor says she's all for hanging out. 
Definitely didn't expect this 10 days ago before I ran into her.
Definitely didn't expect this 10 days ago before I ran into her.
That's why you should never 'disqualify yourself' ahead of time and it's why if you think in terms of lame 'leagues', you'll be losing out on a lot of opportunities. This ugly woman who you wouldn't talk to could be the one who isn't feeling you and this fine woman with a high paying job could be feeling you... so brethren, let a woman's preference do the disqualifying and not your self-limiting thoughts. You are worthy of any and all women... if you aren't her preference, that's fine because you ARE another woman's preference.
That lil mo leaves the preacher thread just made me think about something. It's very important to look into a woman's past and see the type of dudes she normally deals with. What are the similarities of her past dudes? Every woman has a type or types she likes to deal with. Some women like them 'roughnecks' and others like intellectual brothas, and other like smooth, playa types, etc., etc.
Why is this important? This is important because if you are in direct opposition to the type she normally deals with, you need to start asking questions. There is a very high probability that what you're doing with her won't last if you are not her inherent preference. For example, you meet this chick and she dealt with nothing but bikers, but all of a sudden she says she wants some nice guy that has it all together. What made her want to change? I bet when you ask her, she will tell you something along the lines of 'they just weren't right for her.' Realistically, everyone has their inherent preference... They have that type they are naturally attracted to, and if finances and other life considerations were taken out of the equation, that's the type of dude they will gravitate towards and deal with over all others.
The importance of this knowledge is that you don't want to be that 'contrast' to her normal type, ESPECIALLY when she wants to deal with you because she feels the other guys aren't committing or causing too much trouble for her. She's essentially saying that she needs a walking paycheck or emotional rest haven to get her back on her feet and she's scouting you as a potential victim. When her emotions or her finances are recuperated, she will go RIGHT BACK to her initial preference.
You want to be that dude that deals with women who like your type. If you're an intellectual type of dude, you want to go for that chick who likes intellectual dudes and that's who she deals with inherently. People gravitate back towards their inherent preferences more times than not.
Why is this important? This is important because if you are in direct opposition to the type she normally deals with, you need to start asking questions. There is a very high probability that what you're doing with her won't last if you are not her inherent preference. For example, you meet this chick and she dealt with nothing but bikers, but all of a sudden she says she wants some nice guy that has it all together. What made her want to change? I bet when you ask her, she will tell you something along the lines of 'they just weren't right for her.' Realistically, everyone has their inherent preference... They have that type they are naturally attracted to, and if finances and other life considerations were taken out of the equation, that's the type of dude they will gravitate towards and deal with over all others.
The importance of this knowledge is that you don't want to be that 'contrast' to her normal type, ESPECIALLY when she wants to deal with you because she feels the other guys aren't committing or causing too much trouble for her. She's essentially saying that she needs a walking paycheck or emotional rest haven to get her back on her feet and she's scouting you as a potential victim. When her emotions or her finances are recuperated, she will go RIGHT BACK to her initial preference.
You want to be that dude that deals with women who like your type. If you're an intellectual type of dude, you want to go for that chick who likes intellectual dudes and that's who she deals with inherently. People gravitate back towards their inherent preferences more times than not.
That's real shyt. That's why I always say past is present.
You have weak ass men out here talking about their woman's past doesn't matter.
shytiin' me. Everything matters. What you laid out in this post is one of those nuggets from her past that must be considered before jumping in too deeply.
Ol girl wants me to commit to being in a relationship before giving up the puss...not gonna happen
I had one chick that was a religious virgin.
She's 25 yr. old Jehovah's Witness though.Another one who gave up the puss twice and then wants to wait to be in a relationship b4 we fukk again.
Way worse situations....
kev was right...women love doing that passive aggressive shyt instead of being upfront. Men should always be direct.
So if an American man had the choice to live overseas and get a foreign chick to wife up...he'd be wise to? 
Don't want to generalize American women, but damn...only successful/close to successful ones I had were with foreign chicks. Do love my black American sistas though.
Don't want to generalize American women, but damn...only successful/close to successful ones I had were with foreign chicks. Do love my black American sistas though.
it's all in how she brought it up but ultimately it's about if you want to be in a relationship with her or not. If not, fall back and keep it real with her and watch if she plays the game. some will act like they're throwing you in the bushes but when they see you'reOl girl wants me to commit to being in a relationship before giving up the puss...not gonna happen
they'll crack and throw the puss at you. some will throw you in the bushes for real. either way keep it real and be ready for the outcome (and be at peace with it either way). but if she comes back at you and gives you some p*ssy, you'll know she's playing a game and in that case, keep it real with her and don't compromise.i've been peeping your posts for a minute, let me drop some observations from an outside looking in perception.
seems to me like you like this one girl at your job but her work comrade likes you. it also seems to me like these other girls are having fun with the whole thing like this is a corny sitcom/tv show. I don't know if it's because you started all wrong with these chicks by playing along with their silliness but right now you're in a bad frame. all this immature, highschool type shyt, gossipy environment, everyone talking about who likes who, knowing your business...you should have made sure you were above all that from the beginning. now you're like a cute boy to them (which sounds good in theory) but the better position would be an desirable/attractive man. you need to figure out a way to pull yourself out of this frame.
brah that the thing i don't even talk unless they say hi or make convo an still i keep it to the point..........
half the time im zoning out just doing the work.........
brah idk anymore.........
The fact that all your coworkers know about all the little stuff tells me that they will know about the big stuff. They will know about whatever is going on with ya'll because she has loose lips.
I would never move specifically for the women alone, but if you love the lifestyle over there, you got a job lined up, etc., I'd definitely consider it. The modern western mindset is toxic for relationships for the most part. You got your gems of a woman here and there, but for the most part, you'll be dealing with women who are about getting around until they are old... you know that ol feminist mantra of the woman being able to 'have it all'?So if an American man had the choice to live overseas and get a foreign chick to wife up...he'd be wise to?
Don't want to generalize American women, but damn...only successful/close to successful ones I had were with foreign chicks. Do love my black American sistas though.
glad to see the brothas in here progressing
Remember that after the rain, the sun shines... so some of you might be going through hard times with a particular woman and you emotionally get caught up on her, but realize that time will heal that wound if you let the past go, and the door is open for an even better opportunity.
Remember that after the rain, the sun shines... so some of you might be going through hard times with a particular woman and you emotionally get caught up on her, but realize that time will heal that wound if you let the past go, and the door is open for an even better opportunity.
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Alreadyit's all in how she brought it up but ultimately it's about if you want to be in a relationship with her or not. If not, fall back and keep it real with her and watch if she plays the game. some will act like they're throwing you in the bushes but when they see you're
I always try and keep it 100 with chicks just because, so i just broke it down honestly to her. I think she gonna come around in a week or so, but if not
wasnt the only chick im talking to anyway
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This bytch keeps teasing me brehs 
bytch talking about Porn, MY dikk, showing me naked pics of her on her phone, sucking dikk, and fukking while we smoking a blunt in her ride at night
I asked her if she would suck me off in her car or a hand job and she started tripping talking about "that's kid shyt" 
and that she'll rock my shyt at her place.
She lives with a roommate and she doesn't want him to see me since it's strictly FWB shyt so she wants me to wait until he's gone
It's cool tho, she said i can finally beat it up tomorrow
bytch talking about Porn, MY dikk, showing me naked pics of her on her phone, sucking dikk, and fukking while we smoking a blunt in her ride at night
I asked her if she would suck me off in her car or a hand job and she started tripping talking about "that's kid shyt" and that she'll rock my shyt at her place.She lives with a roommate and she doesn't want him to see me since it's strictly FWB shyt so she wants me to wait until he's gone
It's cool tho, she said i can finally beat it up tomorrow