Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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You are absolutely right about loyalty. I had a friend of mine call me this weekend to fill me in on some shyt he had going on with his woman. We're both in the military, so is his girl. She was originally stationed here in Virginia with me. Caught orders down to Oklahoma to follow her husband. I worked with her for close to four years before she left. She would always tell me about the problems in her relationship and how "evil" her husband was. Basically dropping not so subtle hints that she wanted me to pursue her to get something sparked between us. I never took that bait because I just don't deal with married women, and that can really get me jammed up on a professional level. I kept flirting though just in case she ever did cut her man loose. They ended up having a kid maybe a year before she left and I really fell back from her after that.

Ok so fast forward now. She gets her orders and I know a dude at the base she's going to. I hit him up to see if he can show her around. He asks me what most guys would "is she cute?". I tell him yeah but she's married. You could easily hit but I wouldn't recommend anything beyond that. Now fast forward again- she's divorced, and now my homie is smashing on the regular which led to them becoming an item, after I specifically told him that was a dangerous proposition. Shorty was married twice before she divorced her third husband. That doesn't happen without BOTH parties having culpability. I noticed that the guys in her stories were always these monsters but yet you laid with these men, and you married them. What does that make you? Not only does he date her, he decides to take her son on as his own. Another bad move.

I get a call from him telling me he caught her flirting with a dude at her gym. Sending messages to the guy detailing her unhappiness in her current relationship (we seeing a trend here?). I just let him vent about it all but I just couldn't feel sorry for him. I gave dude valuable intel about her character and he chose to ignore it because she's pretty with a nice body. Apparently he caught her in numerous lies throughout the week which led to them breaking up. Afterwards she still continued to message homie from her gym against my boys wishes. He's hurt now because he feels as though she destroyed their "family" dynamic. I couldn't tell him it was never his family to begin with. He's too far gone at this point. I'm pretty sure he's going to do something irrational that will put his career in jeopardy.

I say all that to say this- Your actions and deeds are meaningless. All that matters is the level of reverence your lady has for you. When that dissipates, you're no different than a stranger to her. Keep your resources at all costs. That's all you'll have when she decides to pop smoke on you. Us gentlemen need to be smarter about the women we choose to share in our world. Don't be so eager to give away your resources (time, and money) to someone who hasn't shown you they deserve it. And when I say show you I mean through actions, not words.

you aint never lied :wow:
 

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A lot of these women have several men in rotation. Why should you be the sucker to pay the most to get the least when one of the dudes in the rotation is probably paying the least but getting the most?
Hence why a movie is my go to go shyt first.
No way in hell this shyt can go over 30 bucks b.
 

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It's funny for many years sometimes I would long for a relationship with a decent broad, you know I would casual date here and there, even be exclusive or whatever for a few months and then :ehh:.

But, at this point in life i just want to save, pay my bills, travel, see my nieces and nephew grow up, go to church and keep my mind right. I mean would it be nice having a beautiful dime on my arm, date maybe even get married and have kids yup, but its also nice just enjoying life, doing whatever I want whenever I please, don't have to deal with the headaches, the stresses the emotional drama.

I had a relationship earlier this year and it ended when I was disrespected, past few weeks she has been sniffing her nose around telling me I'm different, and only doing one word texting and im just like ok. I don't care anymore, I won't be rude and ignore, but I'm not putting any effort into communicating , hanging out or nothing. You had your chance and blew it, now go back to the rabid perverted men out there thot :ufdup: It's weird the feeling im feeling right now i haven't felt since like 5 years ago, the feeling of just putting myself first, not caring about broads, no anger, no disappointment :noah:

my phone ain't ringing, no texts coming in, no roster at the moment but I'm free :banderas:

" A single day of freedom is worth more than a lifetime in bondage" - grey worm game of thrones.
 

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You are absolutely right about loyalty. I had a friend of mine call me this weekend to fill me in on some shyt he had going on with his woman. We're both in the military, so is his girl. She was originally stationed here in Virginia with me. Caught orders down to Oklahoma to follow her husband. I worked with her for close to four years before she left. She would always tell me about the problems in her relationship and how "evil" her husband was. Basically dropping not so subtle hints that she wanted me to pursue her to get something sparked between us. I never took that bait because I just don't deal with married women, and that can really get me jammed up on a professional level. I kept flirting though just in case she ever did cut her man loose. They ended up having a kid maybe a year before she left and I really fell back from her after that.

Ok so fast forward now. She gets her orders and I know a dude at the base she's going to. I hit him up to see if he can show her around. He asks me what most guys would "is she cute?". I tell him yeah but she's married. You could easily hit but I wouldn't recommend anything beyond that. Now fast forward again- she's divorced, and now my homie is smashing on the regular which led to them becoming an item, after I specifically told him that was a dangerous proposition. Shorty was married twice before she divorced her third husband. That doesn't happen without BOTH parties having culpability. I noticed that the guys in her stories were always these monsters but yet you laid with these men, and you married them. What does that make you? Not only does he date her, he decides to take her son on as his own. Another bad move.

I get a call from him telling me he caught her flirting with a dude at her gym. Sending messages to the guy detailing her unhappiness in her current relationship (we seeing a trend here?). I just let him vent about it all but I just couldn't feel sorry for him. I gave dude valuable intel about her character and he chose to ignore it because she's pretty with a nice body. Apparently he caught her in numerous lies throughout the week which led to them breaking up. Afterwards she still continued to message homie from her gym against my boys wishes. He's hurt now because he feels as though she destroyed their "family" dynamic. I couldn't tell him it was never his family to begin with. He's too far gone at this point. I'm pretty sure he's going to do something irrational that will put his career in jeopardy.

I say all that to say this- Your actions and deeds are meaningless. All that matters is the level of reverence your lady has for you. When that dissipates, you're no different than a stranger to her. Keep your resources at all costs. That's all you'll have when she decides to pop smoke on you. Us gentlemen need to be smarter about the women we choose to share in our world. Don't be so eager to give away your resources (time, and money) to someone who hasn't shown you they deserve it. And when I say show you I mean through actions, not words.

:myman:

the unfaithfulness of military women cannot be reached :wow:.


"I noticed that the guys in her stories were always these monsters but yet you laid with these men, and you married them."

ah the patented sob story, thots have the sob stories down for a tee, having you feel all sorry and splurting out lines like don't worry i'll never treat you like that. And you know what if you were to ever run into, or meet these men. They are just like you, honest good guys who were taking to the woodshed.

When I was younger I used to believe these stories, wow every bf you ever had cheated on you? and you never cheated :usure:, then by the time you realized you were fed all lies and bs your in to deep.

And i agree way to many men out there just see a pretty face, fat ass, big boobs and just pant like a dog, give up everything, time, money dignity and are then just left in shambles.

When in reality you should be treating them like a undrafted rookie in a summer league game , you gotta earn those minutes in practice, earn that contract, and just maybe just maybe you will make the team.
 

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what about a movie and walk i mean thats a good first date..... :lupe:
shyt iono if i should stick to a movie i mean i dont really know a lot of shyt to do in montreal.

thing about a movie thats 2 hours you're not doing anything just being quiet and watching something on screen.

I only do movies like a 3rd date etc.

id rather walk down the harborfront or downtown, sit at a cafe/coffee shop and wait for her to mess up when shes talking about her life :obama:

1. you save money this way
2. you get fresh air and exercise
3. women love to talk you can find out so much about her, and easily gauge her interest if there is any.
 

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thing about a movie thats 2 hours you're not doing anything just being quiet and watching something on screen.

I only do movies like a 3rd date etc.

id rather walk down the harborfront or downtown, sit at a cafe/coffee shop and wait for her to mess up when shes talking about her life :obama:

1. you save money this way
2. you get fresh air and exercise
3. women love to talk you can find out so much about her, and easily gauge her interest if there is any.
That could work, but I just remembered I could always try bowling too. shyt I might do that instead cuz it might be raining this next weekend tho.
i'll do the movie for a third date then.
 

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LOL my ex was a Marine to be...avoid military bytches. While I'm in the Navy I"m avoiding wifing all these bytches. :scusthov:


You can't tell some nikkas nothing...you give them advice and they do their own thing with these worthless chicks, but to be fair most of the guys have low self esteem and aren't shyt themselves. :camby:

The majority of people I see on a daily basis are settling in fear of being single...then they act like you're missing out by being single.:leostare:

Single and stress-free, no mouths to feed but my own. :sas1:
 

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what about a movie and walk i mean thats a good first date..... :lupe:
shyt iono if i should stick to a movie i mean i dont really know a lot of shyt to do in montreal.

Grab a drink and shoot pool or some shyt. Anything to keep the conversation going. Sitting in a movie theater isn't a good move. You cannot talk the the chick.

If you eat the wrong type of food before the movie, your stomach will be making funny sounds.

You all will both have to put your phones on silent/vibrate. If on vibrate, you will hear the buzzes from all the nikkas texting her. She will also hear the buzzes from all the bytches texting you.

The silence that a movie fosters just isn't a good look, breh.
 

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LOL my ex was a Marine to be...avoid military bytches. While I'm in the Navy I"m avoiding wifing all these bytches. :scusthov:


You can't tell some nikkas nothing...you give them advice and they do their own thing with these worthless chicks, but to be fair most of the guys have low self esteem and aren't shyt themselves. :camby:

The majority of people I see on a daily basis are settling in fear of being single...then they act like you're missing out by being single.:leostare:

Single and stress-free, no mouths to feed but my own. :sas1:


Some people just think you're a hater, or that they know there girl better than you bla bla, if peopel don't want to listen :manny:, dont come and cry to me when the going gets tough

:sas1: As i've said before I don't mind being single, being single has never put me in debt, broke my heart, made be bitter, or ruined my trust in people, being in relationships have. :sas2:
 

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I think one of my biggest flaws is i don't know how to read females all that much:snoop: any tips on this
 
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