rule of thumb. never lend money. if it's a legit friend in need, worst comes to worst give her the money. if it's an amount you're not comfortable giving her, chances are you shouldn't lend it either. when people ask you to lend them money, you should only lend it to them when it's people you would pay to get rid of.
Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women
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keeping it real, it depends but it can take a while sometimes. but the point of it is to not use it as a tactic. it's a lifestyle. eventually they start jocking and it's not always the one you expect. the hardest thing is when you got none. once you start getting a couple jocking, it's like the machine is started. one might take a month or a year or 3 years to cook up but it doesn't matter cause you got some other ones stepping up so it's not like you're waiting on anyone. most times you're not even aware it's cooking. that's when you naturally get that detachment vibe which attracts even more. more of them come so the other ones see chicks jocking so they are more attracted. then you get more chicks so you care even less which attracts them even more...it'"s a vicious circle in your favor. like i said the hardest thing is being in the initial drought. you just gotta be legit about it. gotta be truly focused on other stuff.To all yall "I don't chase bytches" nikkas. How long before a girl is on you?
I needed this right now. Chick I smashed comes out the blue on some nonchalant "how r u" shyt. Small talk.never beg for their attention brehs, when it gets to that point, it's bushes.
Eventually they'll either fold and try to meet up again or as you said, to the bushes.
....You are so right...I have some joints in the stash,but I feel like im in a drought...
Should I just walk the streets with my ipod and ignore the world so I can get into that vibe?
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We as men need to develop an hierarchy of virtuous women to put the ones we feel are worth being in our company and measuring them by this standard for example
In the Bible-Mary,Ruth,Naomi,Proverbs 31 Women
In Society-Betty Shabazz,Coretta Scott King,Michelle Obama (Like it or not she has class,raises daughters well and more importanly is loyal
In our lives-We have our grandmothers,mothers
As a man we need to stop messing with the low demonic women who waste our time.Its lke going to a classy restaurant ordering a cheeseburger,some may want that cheeseburger but when you consider yourself top notch and start thinking top notch you want a steak not a measly cheeseburger.Basically dont settle and go for a top woman a virtuous one.
In the Bible-Mary,Ruth,Naomi,Proverbs 31 Women
In Society-Betty Shabazz,Coretta Scott King,Michelle Obama (Like it or not she has class,raises daughters well and more importanly is loyal
In our lives-We have our grandmothers,mothers
As a man we need to stop messing with the low demonic women who waste our time.Its lke going to a classy restaurant ordering a cheeseburger,some may want that cheeseburger but when you consider yourself top notch and start thinking top notch you want a steak not a measly cheeseburger.Basically dont settle and go for a top woman a virtuous one.
depends. you should do what works best for you. i think the main point is to not compromise yourself if you choose to approach a chick. the main thing is to not let her choice to give you or not give you play define you or your worth. as long as you respect that, there is no "right" or "wrong" way of doing things.
I have some joints in the stash,but I feel like im in a drought...
Should I just walk the streets with my ipod and ignore the world so I can get into that vibe?
I think this last bytch I was with fukked up my whole vibe....
Im still recovering from the damage mentally and energy wise..
rebuild even stronger than before
To all yall "I don't chase bytches" nikkas. How long before a girl is on you?
"Not chasing" females doesn't mean you're not pursuing them, talking to them, etc... not chasing means that when she shows you she's not feeling you, you keep on looking for new angles to keep on messing with her... not chasing also means that if you're together and she leaves, you're not on some 'baby come back, I'll do anything to have you' tip. If you don't show some form of aggression and pursuit with females, you won't have none... but to 'chase' a woman means to degrade yourself in your pursuit of her, especially when she shows no interest.
One of the most important rules a man needs to understand when dealing with women is that THEY DO NOT CARE WHAT YOU DO FOR THEM. They care how you make them feel. This point often never registers with a lot of guys, and they think they will incur a woman's loyalty by paying for her school, taking her to all kinds of dinners, buying her stuff, listening to her problems, etc. But despite all that they've done for the woman, she leaves him for some guy who has done NOTHING for her.
If you start getting into the notion that you need to start coming off of cash and other rewards to either procure the attention of or keep the attention of some particular female, you are headed in the wrong direction. Realize that if you can't catch and keep her off of your personality and presence, then you need to be willing to let her go... otherwise you will end up spending a ton of money and time on this woman who is planning on moving on to another guy.
That is not to say never take your woman to dinner or buy her anything. It means that if you start getting the impression that you need to do those things to make her want to deal with you, you are headed down a bad path.
If you start getting into the notion that you need to start coming off of cash and other rewards to either procure the attention of or keep the attention of some particular female, you are headed in the wrong direction. Realize that if you can't catch and keep her off of your personality and presence, then you need to be willing to let her go... otherwise you will end up spending a ton of money and time on this woman who is planning on moving on to another guy.
That is not to say never take your woman to dinner or buy her anything. It means that if you start getting the impression that you need to do those things to make her want to deal with you, you are headed down a bad path.
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Has any of you had any dealings with a woman who says she doesn't drink. Not even socially.
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When a woman uses "hang out" I automatically assume she just wants someone to take her out on dates and nothing more.
yea or she wants more of a FWB thing. I've been through it twice with girls like this and was able to smash. Not always a good sign though. They might be hiding something, playing the field or scared to show real interest for whatever reason.
when you say hiding something you mean like another dude?