Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[ProfessionallyTrill]

Whats this Tinder I keep hearing about

 

[Dreamzeedream]

I remember I use to be thirsty for p*ssy, i was just throwing my self at any and everybody not knowing that shyt made me look thirsty and desperate. And plus at the time I wasn't getting a lot of attention from women so when one did show me some, they could see that the thirst was real.

 

[EQ.]

Im just catching up with the thread again, yet I had to say something about this. theres a lot wrong with








she was probably down with it in the beginning, but he messed it up coming over there, playing mr cuddle buddy and being mr soft n sensitive all the while trying to be a dog. these hoes are already putting up fronts, lying, and going around with no direction, and they dont want a guy to come over and be the same. I think that he brought in mad estrogen when he should have been a man about the whole thing. you already know that hoes dont respect the "nice guy"

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[MikelArteta]

Whats this Tinder I keep hearing about

app for ios or android, basically its like hot or not

connects through your facebook, you swipe right if you think shes hot or left if you think shes ugly. If she swipes that your hot as well then you are a match and able to message each other


its not a bad app, i met the best chick on there

 

[<<TheStandard>>]

I've been dating this girl for about a month or so and honestly I think I should let her go......We have good sex and she's cool to hang out with but honestly we have nothing in common to the point where there is very little to talk about. It's just weird when you get past the getting to know you and sex phase and realize you can't talk music (big part of my life), movies, books, sports, pop culture, much of anything besides how your day went and plans for the future. I remember cutting on Love Jones (which is a movie most black women love, good romantic joint, classic, could bring up a good discussion involving relationships) the first time I brought her to the crib and within 2.5 minutes she was bored to death....(she hasn't seen many of your classic black films) I basically had to cut it off. I was

There's chemistry and a spark there but I think we both want different things and see relationships differently, I'm a bit introverted and need my space from time to time and she just needs to be with her partner 24/7, she needs a lot of attention......The other day I took her to dinner and rented a hotel for the weekend. Literally spent 48 hours together straight which is cool, but she still wants to facetime and call me today and we literally have nothing to talk about. She doesn't seem to get the need for space every now and then. She sent me a text saying she misses me today and I was thinking I just spent the last 48 hours with you .......thing is, I think she really likes me.....probably really falling for me but it's already apparent to me it's not going to work longterm and the longer I drag it out the harder it's going to be. The other day we got an argument at breakfast because I used my phone to place a bet, check my tweets and catch up a few things (since I barely looked at anything the entire weekend with her) and got up for 20 seconds to ask the bartender about his music playlist that he had playing in the restaurant (he was playing a bunch of original samples).....she needs a lot of attention and felt ignored despite the fact that she wasn't speaking or engaging. I'm really good at doing 5 different things at once and she's not so if she sees me texting my group chat or checking an email she'll literally shut down and crawl into a whole. I feel like I have to be the one engaging her.....so she just ignored me all the way to the hotel until I checked her. It was apparent before that but I straight put it out there and told her I don't think we're compatible and she started crying and that I hurt her feelings since that was our first time arguing and she felt I was done with her. We needed up squashing it not much after that but it was weird that something that small was an issue.


She's not even my girlfriend (told her upfront I don't want a relationship) and I feel like I gotta break it off, I'm basically in a relationship without being in one, I still mess with other chicks but it's getting to be too much........It's like when you lack common interest you almost find yourself when you get away and do shyt you like. I had fun this weekend but I look back and honestly would have had just as much utility watching the Canelo/Lara fight, NBA summer league and working from home for FREE than I did spending all the money I did. I dunno maybe I've gotten too used to being single and just fukking random bytches but this is crazy...

She goes abroad for school soon so maybe I'll just keep her around and she how it goes....

Overall it's cool I guess, I'm learning a lot about what I like and don't like in a chick which I wasn't really able to do when I was just fukking hoes and throwing them in the bushes.

One of my old chicks I met in the club (the one who asked me to dance after my dj set and I just walked up to her and kissed her) hit me up randomly to chill tonight. Told her I was busy but we can get up this week. She actually likes basketball too....

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

I brought it up many moons ago, I got at a female I work with and I'm trying to advance it, but I'm at the point I'ma just dead it and keep things professional. Now this shawty, is a few years older than me (I'm 23, she's 26) and a real small petite jawn. I've been wanting to smash a small female my whole life, I been dealing with thick joints and borderline gooeys mostly. Anyways, we've been texting heavy for the past month and some change and we both expressed we're into each other. However, she ain't budging on letting me smash or even going out for a drink. She's heavy into her side projects outside of work and that's understandable and attractive to me. But, I keep thinking "if she really like me, wouldn't she make time for me?"

3 things I've learned if I woman really likes you:

(1) They'll constantly hit you up
(2) They'll wanna hang out
(3)They'll let you smash

Aint none of them happen yet in this situation. I did a lil test a few weeks ago and didn't text her all day to see if she would ever hit me up on the "Why u aint text me?" tip. The plan worked, she texted me. So I'm thinking maybe she likes the attention more than she likes me. shyt is confusing. To add on to that I've felt up on her with no resistance and she felt the wood

Also every now and then we'll be texting and she'll take our text convos sexual. shyt is crazy. Like the other day:

Me: *jokingly* Yall nikkas hiring?
Her: Yeah my company is. I'm looking for an assistant you down?
Me: What's the job description
Her: make it wet
Me; *emoji* Shiiiit when do I start
Her:ready..set.go.
Me:

(sidenote: if you got iMessage, implement them gifs into convos with females, shyt is always timely)

Lmaoooo, but anyways I got no clue about how I should proceed. I think she just likes the attention and texting during work to break up the monotony and she really ain't tryna fukk with me. I think recently, my conscious intent to tell females how I feel has spilled over into thirst territory when I'm really interested.

just let it go, that will either manifest into something or it wont. focus on work when you're at work and keep a positive attitude. no one should cause any stress (even if its the littlest) in an extracurricular manner at work

 

[TrapHouse Rock]

spoke about this on the previous page. yesterday me and my friend (spoke about the same friend in this thread before he is status) hit the clubs in the smoking area saw these two chicks i made the moves started speaking they were here on holiday. they were both good looking one of them was acting uninterested and shyt noticed this early on anyway night goes on and we still hung with them. noticed shyt weren't going anywhere because of the friend who was uninterested or whatever so i tell my friend lets leave. this nikka fell in love with the chicks and still wanted to pursue these chicks even after i told him shyt weren't going anywhere. I had already taken the L and wanted to keep it moving but this nikka wanted to go dance with again even after shyt was becoming stale and awkward. left that nikka in the club and went home.

I have no problems taking an L we all do but people need to know when to keep shyt moving like you said. it's not hard to know if a chick uninterested and that's when you should keep it moving or else you'll look and that when shyt becomes awkward and corny. Make your moves if she's not feeling you move on

had to do this same shyt with my boys a couple weekends ago except we all actually left together. i think one of the girls was feelin us or whatever (it dont matter) but she kept trying to get us all to stay. i was tellin em like if yall wanna go home we gotta dip now. I could tell that theres a tiny chance this may go somewhere, but it probably wont and isnt worth it so we should peace if yall tryna hit the trains and go home. my boy was kind of lingering, but its tough when dudes catch that thirst tho and plans hit a wrench.

my boy ended up pushing for a number but i got em all outta there they woulda been complaining at 3 when we had to figure a way home

 

[kevm3]

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it goes without saying, as we see it time and time again. both of these stories say a lot... as it all really comes down to this: a woman flocks or lays her nest down wherever she sees it as being the most beneficial for her. time doesnt stand still and neither do these women. most are only interested in what you can offer them for the time being, and not so much of who you are with her

"what have you done for me lately" is really the motto. I wouldnt get too attached to any chick these days, as we preach holding down yourself before anyone else, as that makes you straight no matter whats the outcome. instead of flipping out and being mad about what it is, its better to know the truth and to live by it

Pretty much, which is why I advocate doing something YOU are interested in instead of spending all of this time t

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it goes without saying, as we see it time and time again. both of these stories say a lot... as it all really comes down to this: a woman flocks or lays her nest down wherever she sees it as being the most beneficial for her. time doesnt stand still and neither do these women. most are only interested in what you can offer them for the time being, and not so much of who you are with her

"what have you done for me lately" is really the motto. I wouldnt get too attached to any chick these days, as we preach holding down yourself before anyone else, as that makes you straight no matter whats the outcome. instead of flipping out and being mad about what it is, its better to know the truth and to live by it

Just yet another example of it's not what you 'do' for women. it's all about how they perceive you. They want a guy that's above them in their mind, not easily accessible, somewhat aggressive, etc. Dudes that sit there and listen to their women all day, try to be supportive, pay their bills, buy them all these expensive gifts, etc., women do those kind of guys very badly. Never be providerman, earman, or do man. Providerman is obvious... guy who pays off all the bills and who is a walking paycheck. Earman is the guy sitting around listening to her complain all day. Do man is the negro she hits up when she needs some favor done for her. All of these dudes rush to provide a service for her but she provides little, if nothing back. Mentally, she has the impression that these dudes are beneath her.

How often in history has there been an era where someone offers so little and yet people are willing to pay such a high price? Modern women bring so little to the table and yet dudes are still doing backflips and summersaults to deal with them. It's men that are the problem more than anything. Men never demand anything and will allow endless amounts of respect because 'they don't want to lose her'. Is it any surprise these women act the way they do?

 

[Sleepy Walker]

I need to stop taking rejection so seriously every time I get rejected I take it way too hard..how do people just shake it off especially when you get rejected rudely?

Think about how rude that bytch is and be glad she showed you up front and keep it moving.

I had a bytch I thought I was vibing with hit me with that bell hooks bullshyt. I was glad she showed me she was a petty bytch before I invested anything into her.

 

[Easy-E]

Im just catching up with the thread again, yet I had to say something about this. theres a lot wrong with this pic, but Im mostly going to be ignoring the womans side right now, because its just a given that bytches are gonna do bytch shyt.




she knew he was coming over a long ways to see her, and she knew what he wanted from her (its clearly in her message), and finally she knew if she was going to let him. in the end, all she did was let him come over for a buddy selfie, and played him for a fool. then she played him out again when she posted it up when he left. straight disrespect. thats just what it is when you come weak with a bytch, bruh should of had his radars up




look at him. Im thinking he tried to play sweet with her, when she is nothing like that. for this guy to have such a wrong impression of this girl speaks volumes. for him to front and be mr nice guy to her, when all she wanted was a man to come over and "see her" says everything.


men have to do better than going all out and doing too much for a woman, all just because she showed you some attention. so for him to go out of his way to see this ho, like this is some long lost romance hes going to see, was wrong off top. lets be real there are girls in his city, so he is already doing way too much traveling just to not hit that. then to finally get there and cheese it up with her like theyre close buddies, looks pathetic. do what you came to do. you dont pose for selfies with the jump off. what the hell was he thinking?





he probably went from being the nice guy to trying to mack her. just isnt right at all. he played his hand badly and I can tell that he did it wrong from the beginning. the main problem being, that this is a ho, and he treated her like she was more. that never can work. I think homeboy came real weak and thats why he didnt hit. or if he did, something about his try too hard approach rubbed her the wrong way, so now shes being a bytch about it. shes wreckless, and loose mouthed to put this picture up to clown him, but all the same, I can tell that the dude failed to assess and take control of this whole situation




he should have said exactly how hes interested in her in the first place, set up a spot where they can meet up at, and made it happen. do what it do. there should be no assuming, or any unspoken of expectations. and definitely no gifts, it makes you look beneath her. this man looks like he brought over a teddy bear and a burned CD to gift a ho into sex. but shes a ho




she was probably down with it in the beginning, but he messed it up coming over there, playing mr cuddle buddy and being mr soft n sensitive all the while trying to be a dog. these hoes are already putting up fronts, lying, and going around with no direction, and they dont want a guy to come over and be the same. I think that he brought in mad estrogen when he should have been a man about the whole thing. you already know that hoes dont respect the "nice guy"

"I can tell" how?

It's a social media post (that may be fake), how are you able to break down the situation into all those words?

This is why I take this thread with a grain of salt (a lot, actually). It's not about relationship advice, but, a bunch of brehs venting their frustrations about and maskin' it as advice.

Takin' from what I see, in the picture, dude was over taken by his lust and drove atleast 4 tank-fills and 17 hours to fornicate with a woman.

Exoerate him all you want; that's on him. Stop trying to turn this into a "see, see, these women" situation. Both of them are accountablle for their behavior.

 

[CrossBones]

"I can tell" how?

It's a social media post (that may be fake), how are you able to break down the situation into all those words?

This is why I take this thread with a grain of salt (a lot, actually). It's not about relationship advice, but, a bunch of brehs venting their frustrations about and maskin' it as advice.

Takin' from what I see, in the picture, dude was over taken by his lust and drove atleast 4 tank-fills and 17 hours to fornicate with a woman.

Exoerate him all you want; that's on him. Stop trying to turn this into a "see, see, these women" situation. Both of them are accountablle for their behavior.

well, I can tell that you didnt clearly read what I wrote, because I put blame on both of them for what happened. I suppose that you missed that somewhere in the first paragraph or so, where I mentioned that both of them were wrong for what happened in that picture


matter of fact, I spent most my time talking about dude over there, so how am I even turning this into a "see, see look at her thing?"




as for taking things with a grain of salt, good. thats life for you. no one said we're all perfect and that you should follow another man so closely. we're all here sharing our experiences and observations in life to help the next man see whats going on out there. but see how I came up, you have learn how to read situations and read people in order to not get caught out there


like I said before, you telling me that its normal to cheese up and take selfies with your jump off? that its normal to drive 17 hours to visit some bird just to get the ass? that men who come off as soft ass, buddy-buddy types approaching with the "we're friends" shyt with women are really winning?

and on top of that, we also got you calling dude out for listening to his johnson and not using his brain, so whats the disagreement here?

I did notice how you conveniently glossed over how this woman unnecessarily mocked this man on her social media for the world to see, and also had him drive all that distance just to get the drawers, which she knew, but still had him come over anyways. yeah that was mature and responsible of her. wasted his time, effort and money just because.

I did notice how you came to talk about anything but that, yet still managed to blame us and try to turn this to the womans defense by saying that we only used this example to shyt on all women and bu bu but what about all women who arent like that stee. out here trying to indict dudes for seeing that, like we're bad people for thinking this was some cluck move


seems a little to me

 

[CrossBones]

Pretty much, which is why I advocate doing something YOU are interested in instead of spending all of this time t


Just yet another example of it's not what you 'do' for women. it's all about how they perceive you. They want a guy that's above them in their mind, not easily accessible, somewhat aggressive, etc. Dudes that sit there and listen to their women all day, try to be supportive, pay their bills, buy them all these expensive gifts, etc., women do those kind of guys very badly. Never be providerman, earman, or do man. Providerman is obvious... guy who pays off all the bills and who is a walking paycheck. Earman is the guy sitting around listening to her complain all day. Do man is the negro she hits up when she needs some favor done for her. All of these dudes rush to provide a service for her but she provides little, if nothing back. Mentally, she has the impression that these dudes are beneath her.

How often in history has there been an era where someone offers so little and yet people are willing to pay such a high price? Modern women bring so little to the table and yet dudes are still doing backflips and summersaults to deal with them. It's men that are the problem more than anything. Men never demand anything and will allow endless amounts of respect because 'they don't want to lose her'. Is it any surprise these women act the way they do?

it feels like its a joke, but you really do have scores of women who feel like because they have a vagina, they deserve what you have to offer, and all they have to offer you in return is their vagina.

and its real talk, when you come out, flossing and spending your money on a woman, shes going to lock you in that "providerman" role like you say. so all these fellas trying to get their game up, their money up, and look right just to attract some woman are in for a rude awakening. when you try to show off to get a chick, guess what, a team of goldiggers show up and a baller alert goes off. its like dangling a steak in front of a pack of hyenas

all that self improvement, desire to be financially well off, and want to look right better be for a persons own sake and sense of standard,, and not just to impress somebody else. that rings hollow, and makes it look like youre trying to prove something



when looking for wifey, it possitively cannot come down to being because you bought her this and that so now she's yours, or that she only messed with you since you had a benz. you have to approach a chick like youre all you have to offer her, you ... not this lifestyle, a free ride, a series of gifts or whatever trinkets you wanna show off

 

[Easy-E]

well, I can tell that you didnt clearly read what I wrote, because I put blame on both of them for what happened. I suppose that you missed that somewhere in the first paragraph or so, where I mentioned that both of them were wrong for what happened in that picture


matter of fact, I spent most my time talking about dude over there, so how am I even turning this into a "see, see look at her thing?"

No, what you did was take a picture of a social media and tried to apply some type of strategic correction as if he justs went the wrong way about it.

This is the definition of thirsty (17 hours of driving).

You guys take a situation and just project your personal feelings to it--not just take in the facts.

There's nothing in that suggest I co-sign what either of them did. Just, sometimes in life you have to take to blame for puttin' yourself into a bad situation.

And another thing I don't like about thecoli; we beat our chest "WE MEN," but, don't want to take responsibility for our actions.

That woman is gonna be who she is. And if he's driving 17 hours, I'm hopin' he at least knows she has Twitter/Instagram and knows the type of person she is. He lost long before she posted that.This is not about her immature/rude post.

My man had to drive 17 hours to sip that ether. It's his own fault.







You shouldn't use so many smilies; it makes it hard to read your posts--especially long ones.

 

[CrossBones]

No, what you did was take a picture of a social media and tried to apply some type of strategic correction as if he justs went the wrong way about it.

This is the definition of thirsty (17 hours of driving).

You guys take a situation and just project your personal feelings to it--not just take in the facts.

There's nothing in that suggest I co-sign what either of them did. Just, sometimes in life you have to take to blame for puttin' yourself into a bad situation.

And another thing I don't like about thecoli; we beat our chest "WE MEN," but, don't want to take responsibility for our actions.

That woman is gonna be who she is. And if he's driving 17 hours, I'm hopin' he at least knows she has Twitter/Instagram and knows the type of person she is. He lost long before she posted that.This is not about her immature/rude post.

My man had to drive 17 hours to sip that ether. It's his own fault


You shouldn't use so many smilies; it makes it hard to read your posts--especially long ones.

what are you even talking about bruh? seriously. youre saying Im wrong to point out his error in strategy, then you turn around and say that hes to blame for doing too much driving in the first place to see her


you dont think that abusing your wallet and time to drive 17 miles one way, then 17 miles back just to see a bird, is a mistake in strategy?


so we're not even in disagreement there, why are you trying to disagree?

as for thumping our chests like men, good, thats what we're supposed to do. its nothing to congregate and build on ideas with another. I mean, do you think that women dont talk to each other and offer advice to one another? theres nothing wrong with looking out for your brother and sharing ideas.

and finally, yeah we get on women, those who do fukk shyt like that pigeon did. as for that man "sipping that ether," as you put it, you dont think the female had any part in that? you think she didnt put the battery in his back and encourage him to come through? despite the fact she admitted she knew what he wanted?

and somehow it was okay to once again attack that mans dignity by clowning him on instagram?



so nah, I call out that bs, from the women and men. all that huff and puff from you about dude, but I dont ignore her part in it just because shes a woman. and if that makes me look like a neanderthal or whatever, so be it.

 

[IAmGettingAMailOrderBride]

Women I got a question, how come women don't like being talked to in the grocery store, I tired to hook up with some babes and every time I went up to one they said no, the worst was when this one chick yelled at me to just leave