Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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I feel like I'm starting to hit my prime (27, yeah I know I'm late). I've been getting a lot of female attention (age ranging from 20-30) over the past few months. Honestly I'm not used to having women do all the work and be aggressive with me, usually I'm the one doing all the macking and working to get that puss. I guess I stopped buying into the notion of women don't care about looks and I really started to lose weight, get in shape, and take dance lessons. Women are shallow as fukk! Also I really stopped chasing women in general, I just introduce myself, bounce, and then have them come to me later.

I'm also in grad school and broke as fukk lol
aka you just said fukk chasing bytches and just started improving yourself. exactly what @Emperor_ReinScarf and @kevm3 and others have been saying in this thread.
 

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aka you just said fukk chasing bytches and just started improving yourself. exactly what @Emperor_ReinScarf and @kevm3 and others have been saying in this thread.

yep when you stop carrying just concentrate and yourself and just be :ehh: she likes me or she doesn't then life becomes better your dealings with women easier.
 

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aka you just said fukk chasing bytches and just started improving yourself. exactly what @Emperor_ReinScarf and @kevm3 and others have been saying in this thread.


I only dropped 12 lbs but my diet is whole lot better. Fashion is another part of the equations, I've really switched up my fashion and I'm a lot more fashion conscious now. I don't hit up new trends or anything like that but my attire is dressy and a bit conservative since I don't have money to spend on both work and non-work clothes.

Honestly yall are right. For example I do a morning workout routine. I started off only being able to do 4 push-ups a day to now doing 30 push-ups. 30 isn't great but it is a whole lot better than 4.
 

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it's like going grocery shopping one lane is filled and your there waiting with like 10 people ahead of you, are you going to stand there and wait or are you going to go to the other lane that's empty?

many men stay and wait in the busy line, wait for their chance patiently, try to move up on the priorities of the cashier hey me over there i've been waiting in this line for awhile can you check me out :jawalrus:

isntead of just saying screw this and going to the lane where you cna get checked out and the attention you want.
 

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I only dropped 12 lbs but my diet is whole lot better. Fashion is another part of the equations, I've really switched up my fashion and I'm a lot more fashion conscious now. I don't hit up new trends or anything like that but my attire is dressy and a bit conservative since I don't have money to spend on both work and non-work clothes.
and that's one thing about about the way you dress. dressing good or stepping your game up as far as dressing doesn't mean following the latest trend or the most expensive clothes. it just means that you care about the way you present yourself, have clothes that fit the way you want them to fit, and look the way you want them to look. not just to impress people but just for it to look cool to you. that shyt makes you feel more confident and therefore more attractive. you can always take what you like from current trends and reject what you're not feeling but even when you take, you gotta put your own touch on it. make it yours and own it. but following trends for the sake of following trends will make you look and feel insecure because trends change everyday and you have no control over it. so you'll be "in danger" of feeling inadequate every time the trend changes (which could happen any day).
 

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Brehs...ask yourself how many female friends your mother has.

I wonder if its just me or an actual trend...but with my mom i cant think of any real friends she has at least in Canada. Everytime the family has events like BBQs, functions whatever...my dad will invite all his homies from church and other walks of life...a solid 5-10...as well as other people he knows. But my mom? She merely mingles with the wives of my dad's friends.

And I hate to say it but numerous tv shows that feature married couples that I watch...(Ray Donovan as the most recent) again its often that the females are friendless. Shows like Seinfeld, King of Queens, the Simpsons, So why is that? Why cant women sustain friendship? I could elaborate with stories but overall it alludes to what I said earlier.

Trustworthiness
Reliability
Humor
Loyalty
Wisdom
Selflessness

these are things most people look for in friends that females lack. Theres a reason that most girls friendzone guys and say dumb shyt like, "I cant be friends with girls because they're X,Y & Z". It's because they have something to gain out of the arrangement of a M-F friendship. Most men however dont need anything from women other than p*ssy though; we have our friends. I'm 23 years old now and if you look at my circle it consists mainly of 2 dudes i met in grade 6 (a year that I changed elementary schools, others I met in 9 (first year of highschool) and two from my freshman year of university (again...first year of post secondary). The trend is apparent


my mom has hella friends there are all Somali too. i guess its just cultural
 

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brehs i have a class called careers with children and its 95% girls in there.


im amazed at the shyt some these girls talk about. these 2 girls next to me ALL they fukking do is gossip. all they fukking do.


its either about talking behind girls back and calling them ugly, calling guys who stare at them ugly, talking bout whose cute and whose not, whose dating who, how to do makeup, which ugly boy stared at them, how they rejected dudes, talking shyt etc

:ohhh::ohhh::ohhh:

like dayum some of these bytches are shallow as fukk. this Black girl senior was telling her "friend" that her goal was to marry a rich dude so she wouldnt have to work in life:wtf:

her "friend" called her a gold digger.... and the bytch then said "tehee i don't care i'm gonna marry an NBA or NFL player" :wtf:


and these girls are average looking as fukk.... on the low side. only redeeming quality was the ass.
 

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brehs i have a class called careers with children and its 95% girls in there.


im amazed at the shyt some these girls talk about. these 2 girls next to me ALL they fukking do is gossip. all they fukking do.


its either about talking behind girls back and calling them ugly, calling guys who stare at them ugly, talking bout whose cute and whose not, whose dating who, how to do makeup, which ugly boy stared at them, how they rejected dudes, talking shyt etc

:ohhh::ohhh::ohhh:

like dayum some of these bytches are shallow as fukk. this Black girl senior was telling her "friend" that her goal was to marry a rich dude so she wouldnt have to work in life:wtf:

her "friend" called her a gold digger.... and the bytch then said "tehee i don't care i'm gonna marry an NBA or NFL player" :wtf:


and these girls are average looking as fukk.... on the low side. only redeeming quality was the ass.

Pretty much, which is why I don't understand why dudes are so busy stressing over these broads and gameplanning for them, as if they are getting some unbelievable prize. In reality, these women are lucky for you to even consider dealing with them, but dudes have such low self-esteem and they are so thirsty, they sell themselves short.
 

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Man...so I'm 29 and lately have been having a ton of dates with women in their early 30's.. Taking women out on casual dates in their 30's is kind of weird brehs...I can't quite put my finger on it but it's been a common occurrence to talk about having childen and bring up the subject of starting a family very early on upon meeting them. Like wtf I know your biological clock is ticking but be easy!

Like I took a shorty out last night, everything was cool till she started talking about interest in having children...I'm like :whoa: this is our first date, but I let that go. She also seemed really lowkey depressed about her age (she was 32), school dept, and career prospects (even though she has a dope job)...real talk that lowkey killed my vibe. Other then that she seems like a cool chick to casually date i guess
 

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Man...so I'm 29 and lately have been having a ton of dates with women in their early 30's.. Taking women out on casual dates in their 30's is kind of weird brehs...I can't quite put my finger on it but it's been a common occurrence to talk about having childen and bring up the subject of starting a family very early on upon meeting them. Like wtf I know your biological clock is ticking but be easy!

Like I took a shorty out last night, everything was cool till she started talking about interest in having children...I'm like :whoa: this is our first date, but I let that go. She also seemed really lowkey depressed about her age (she was 32), school dept, and career prospects (even though she has a dope job)...real talk that lowkey killed my vibe. Other then that she seems like a cool chick to casually date i guess
it's because they feel like they are slowly getting passed their prime and need to cash in quick before it's too late.
 

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something else i want to speak on for dudes who are in a relationship.

don't be a fukking male sitcom character with your girl. that shyt is not cute. your girl is not your mommy and she's not your boss. what i mean by that is, don't be proud to be dumb or submissive infront of your girl. don't be scared of her reactions to anything. don't be a little bytch and don't hide shyt from her like a little bytch (purchases, plans to hang out with other people, etc).

typical scenarios: you're girl asks you if you want to go to some boring gathering with her friends and their mates. Now you don't necessarily feel like going but at the same time you know she might get mad if you say no. what i'm saying is, don't be a bytch. don't say yes because you're scared of her being mad at it and scared of her reactions. and don't say yes and then act like a miserable man who was forced to go somewhere he didn't want to go (passive aggressive). I have no definite answer if you should go or not cause the truth is, there is no right answer. Also, i'm not saying not to consider her feelings at all. what i'm saying is consider your feelings as well and decide if you can afford to sacrifice some of your pleasure for hers and if so, how much (and she should never feel entitled to that sacrifice). What i'm saying is, if you choose to go, it should be because you want to make her happy, not because you don't want to make her mad. Seems like almost the same thing but believe me, there is an important distinction between the two. what you can or can't sacrifice as far as time, responsibility and money is a personal choice and depends on your circumstances as well.my point is, it should always be your choice and you should never allow fear to dictate that choice. The male sitcom character has no choice because his wife owns his balls. if he wants to enjoy life he has to scheme behind his girl's back because she is above him in his mind.

again, this doesn't mean not to consider her feelings in your decisions. but what you feel should be as important (if not more important) when you take decisions. never allow her to feel entitled or to choose for you. and you should have that attitude for any decision whether it's purchasing a TV for the home, hanging out with the homies or marriage/buying a home/having children.
 

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Brehs....If a woman calls you bay or bae :camby:

She's either young chronologically or young mentally....Be warned...
 
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