Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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her having her bachelor and her job don't make her a great girl breh.

a few things. your girl wants you to serve her, to adore her, to kiss her ass. she says you,re ungrateful and only do shyt when you feel like it. that's why she keeps breaking up with you so that you start chasing after her. sounds annoying as fukk to be honest. you should completely forget the concept of "your girl giving you a chance" :childplease: she's playing mind tricks on you breh but you're enabling it.

as far as your argument...you shouldn't have made a stupid promise like that to her (not to like pics of friends) but once you make the promise, you should keep it. so you fukked up in that sense. the reason i say you shouldn't have made that deal with her is that the deal was clearly born out of her trying to manipulate you. it wasn't righteous. when she said she will do her because you're doing you, you can already tell she isn't righteous. she's vindictive. if she was really about the relationship, she would be trying to fix it in a respectful way. but again i gotta give it to you straight, she's acting that way cause you're not instructing her right, you're not leading by example either. You're allowing her to feel like she's better than you because she got a better job than you breh.

I won't tell you if you should try to work things out with her or just leave her be (i'd just let it be but that's based on my personality and temperament). what i will tell you though is that at this point she doesn't respect you and that you need to get your mind right as far as who you are really, what you need to improve about yourself and what your value is to yourself. keep building breh!

Breh appreciate

BRUUUUUUUUUUUUUH! This is exactly me and my ex :dead:

Ain't that something
 

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This is my first time asking advice from an internet forum but fukk it the coli hasn't really let me down some useful advice. So me and my girl been going thru it lately(we been together almost a year now) breakups, getting back together, you know the usual shyt couples go thru. So she's fed up with me being ungrateful and only doing shyt when I want to(her words) me I'm fed up with every time something doesn't go her way she wants to breakup and shyt. I gotta run after her and fight for this relationship fight for another chance and shyt.

It's annoying anyway she gave me another chance and we was working it out(spend Christmas day with her and shyt was smooth). She hits me up like 2 hours talking oh I thought we agreed not to follow each others friends on instagram but I see you liking pics and leaving comments and shyt on her page(first off it was one pic and it was her friend and mother together so I commented yall cute thats it). I'm like its one pic she like i guess thats you doing you so I'm do me now and honestly you can't be my man anymore I'm done goodbye. I'm like off just one pic really whatever goodbye then.

The fukked up situation is she's great girl(got her bachelors, working in her field, doesn't party every weekend, got plans for her future, understands I'm broke and doesn't stress me about it) she's was the one I actually had thoughts of marrying five years in the future. I wanna make it right beacuse I love this girl but at the same time i want to get my shyt together and also I'm fed up with me always running back to her saying baby I'm sorry take me back.
 

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Breh appreciate



Ain't that something
One thing I'd ask is how old.is your girl.

Mine was 18 so she just liked to play those kiddy games I guess and was chemically imbalanced. What I did was communicate yo her that she needed to stop getting bent over frivolous things and realize that we're in it for the long term.

Once I got her to by into the idea that a couple is never gonna mesh perfectly, that its up to us to learn about each other and grow together she stopped the foolishness. I was 3 yrs older and she looked up to me and respected me so it worked.
 

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One thing I'd ask is how old.is your girl.

Mine was 18 so she just liked to play those kiddy games I guess and was chemically imbalanced. What I did was communicate yo her that she needed to stop getting bent over frivolous things and realize that we're in it for the long term.

Once I got her to by into the idea that a couple is never gonna mesh perfectly, that its up to us to learn about each other and grow together she stopped the foolishness. I was 3 yrs older and she looked up to me and respected me so it worked.

She's 22 I'm just four years older than her
 

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Long term relationships before 25 :heh:

Good luck brehs. It's a waste of time. Use that time living life.

yep take it from a guy who was engaged at 21.

I wish I never was, use the 20s to learn about yourself casually date if you want see what you want as a person.
 

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where do you hope to take your programming fam? entrepreneurship or working for a fortune 500/startup?

i only ask because I'm in the midst of creating a website/app myself with my brother and a friend. My homie's the one with the programming aptitude and also works for a start up: https://www.tenthousandcoffees.com/

That's a nicely designed page

Eventually I want to do the entrepreneurship/freelance route, but I'll work for a company until I can do that. I really need to team up with someone with nice design chops because I'm much more on the development side than the designer side. The browser was come a long way, so I'm going to eventually start working on my own game.
 

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This is why I love this thread, mayn times in my life I thought maybe I was weird, maybe there was something wrong I was doing. Maybe I had to change the way who I was to attain a higher status or whatever all bs, be comfortable who you are, yout hink these women are changing who they are? nope
 

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her having her bachelor and her job don't make her a great girl breh.

a few things. your girl wants you to serve her, to adore her, to kiss her ass. she says you,re ungrateful and only do shyt when you feel like it. that's why she keeps breaking up with you so that you start chasing after her. sounds annoying as fukk to be honest. you should completely forget the concept of "your girl giving you a chance" :childplease: she's playing mind tricks on you breh but you're enabling it.

as far as your argument...you shouldn't have made a stupid promise like that to her (not to like pics of friends) but once you make the promise, you should keep it. so you fukked up in that sense. the reason i say you shouldn't have made that deal with her is that the deal was clearly born out of her trying to manipulate you. it wasn't righteous. when she said she will do her because you're doing you, you can already tell she isn't righteous. she's vindictive. if she was really about the relationship, she would be trying to fix it in a respectful way. but again i gotta give it to you straight, she's acting that way cause you're not instructing her right, you're not leading by example either. You're allowing her to feel like she's better than you because she got a better job than you breh.

I won't tell you if you should try to work things out with her or just leave her be (i'd just let it be but that's based on my personality and temperament). what i will tell you though is that at this point she doesn't respect you and that you need to get your mind right as far as who you are really, what you need to improve about yourself and what your value is to yourself. keep building breh!

What's so interesting about it all is if he DID change and turn into mr. do what she wants, she'll get bored and really leave because 'he's not a challenge.' That's another thing about dating. Women are constantly trying to morph you into the man they can't wait to get away from. At the end of the day, a man simply has to be willing to say, you knew what you got into when you got with me and if you can't accept me for who I am, you need to go find someone else. If she decides to explore other options because you didn't change, good riddance, because she definitely would have been exploring other options if you DID change and give in.

We, as men, simply cannot let the threat of a woman leaving or cheating change us, because even if we did change, they'd be MORE likely to do those things and more importantly, what does it say about you as a man if a woman can change everything you stand for with a bit of sex? Principles and standing strong in who you are as a man is way more important than the presence of any woman. God bless.
 

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This is why I love this thread, mayn times in my life I thought maybe I was weird, maybe there was something wrong I was doing. Maybe I had to change the way who I was to attain a higher status or whatever all bs, be comfortable who you are, yout hink these women are changing who they are? nope
you know. i have to disagree.
a lot of these women know they aint shyt and will try to put up a facade upon meeting somebody they are really attracted to/like
 

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She's 22 I'm just four years older than her
im afraid she's past the age of no return. I've noticed that after age 21 a lot of girls tend to start playing games. theyve probably gone through a few sour relationships or perhaps even realized just how easily they can use and manipulate men and act accordingly; either vindictively or viciously going forward.
 

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This is why I love this thread, mayn times in my life I thought maybe I was weird, maybe there was something wrong I was doing. Maybe I had to change the way who I was to attain a higher status or whatever all bs, be comfortable who you are, yout hink these women are changing who they are? nope

This thread is contrary to a lot of the advice men are likely to receive, which is what I like about it. Most of us have been reared with the mentality that we need to pander to women, to give in to what they want, etc. We've seen it all throughout television and have had countless simp advisors tell us the same. "Well you need to compromise. You need to put that woman first. You need to man up, etc. Vagina runs the world." All pathetic sayings. The average woman isn't changing for us, so why are we changing for them?

The Bible tells us 'a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.' The reason so many men are confused is that they are following after women, who are even more confused than themselves. The Bible also tells us the man is to be the head of the family and to let no woman have authority over him. Is it any wonder that men are constantly questioning themselves when they've been told to do everything to cater to and appease women? They've lost themselves and have no sense of direction and are essentially the blind following after the blind.

It's liberating simply having the attitude of I don't really care if she leaves or stays. I'm going to be who I am regardless. When you try to cater to women and think that your actions have some bearing on whether she is going to be loyal or not, it almost feels like you are working another job. You always watch what you say for how she's going to respond. You wonder if you're demonstrating enough distance or whether you're caring enough. Basically, you worry about 20,000 inconsequential things and you might even go so far as to change your character and morph into a pseudo 'bad boy' to entertain her, which is pathetic.

That's why I couldn't get into PUA. Their whole essence is morphing into the man that can sneak into a woman's vagina. Their whole concept of 'alpha' revolves around morphing into some guy that can 'rack up notches'... They even will analyze 'text game' and look for strategies on texting women to maximize interest. Honestly, what in the world is any woman bringing to the table for all of that effort? We've said that same thing over and over, but really, think about it. Dudes are catering their every action to what they imagine turns a woman so that they can potentially get a bit of extra vagina. How weak are those principles?

Interestingly enough, something I found in life is if you stop living life trying to impress others, others will actually try to impress you. They will wonder why you seem so rock solid. Imagine working at a company where the boss constantly tried to impress his employees. You would think the boss was weak. A strong company had a mission to complete before any particular employee arrived and will have one even if some particular employee leaves. That's how a man should be with a woman. His mission ISN'T the woman, but he allows a woman to enter into his midst if she will help him complete his mission, and if she decides to leave, no big deal because the show will go on and there will be another woman who can play a part if the current one leaves or isn't working out. In other words, your mission isn't to morph into an object of lust for the ladies, but it's to be the man God wants you to be and to allow the right woman to come along and participate. That means you have principles that are stronger than any woman that you will not compromise even if they meant her leaving.

It's sad that so many young men had to waste so much time listening to utterly atrocious, simped-out advice on women growing up. It takes a while to deprogram yourself from woman pleasing mode and wondering whether your every action is pleasing to her or not or whether it will procure her loyalty. Complete waste of time. As a man, WE'RE the heads. We should be the one leading and women should be the ones trying to figure out how to please us and get OUR attention, but the average American male is so thirsty, women don't have to put in any effort. There was actually a time when women had to learn to be seductive and sweet. Now, not so much because men have so low standards they accept anything.
 

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I'm saying all of this to say, don't waste another moment trying to turn into some degenerate, shifty character that you think women would like. Instead, be firmly rooted in righteous principles and make THEM come up to where you are. As a man and as a leader, YOU are the one who is to make people come to your standards, not lower yourself to meet theirs... I'm not going to morph into a pseudo bad-boy. SHE needs to raise her standards and be a high quality, righteous woman of God if she wants to deal with me. Basically, I'm not going to the gutter to deal with any woman. She needs to find a way to come up to this mansion in the sky I'm residing in.
 
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